Why We Need to Sweat the Small Stuff If We Want the Big Stuff
How can great leaders come out of nowhere? Ready? It’s because they have been hidden, plugging away at the small things first. Let that sink in. See, you don’t usually SEE a great leader in the making because you don’t SEE them taking care of the small stuff. The stuff behind the scenes. So when they finally do emerge, it’s like, “Hey, where did this chick come from?” “Does anyone know this guy? He seems to have come out of nowhere.” That’s right. They did come out of nowhere. They were busy taking care of the small stuff when all of a sudden heaven opened a door and BAM! They came into bigger things.

Small stuff is the stuff kings are made out of

Like King David, they’ve busied themselves for decades on the backside of a pasture, tending sheep, ankle-deep in manure, swatting flies, sweat dripping off their brow, and developing yucky yellow sweat st ains under their armpits. Then something shifts. They are given a throne. Prior they had anointing, but no crown. Now they have both. It’s because they paid the price. Majoring in the menial led to the magnificent! That small stuff is the stuff of kings.

My scary, ugly thought

I had a thought that scared the snot out of me one time. I was sitting on my back porch having a talk with God. I was tired of looking over my life and unfulfilled dreams. I actually said to God, “How come I’m more faithful to you than you are to me?!”  Whoa, I couldn’t believe I actually thought that. As soon as it shot out of my thinker, I repented. How brazen a thought! For a moment I actually believed that throughout the years, all of the ways I have been faithful, were more than how much God has been faithful to me. Yikes! How dare I think such a thing? After asking God for forgiveness, I wondered where that thought came from. Was I tired? Exhausted? Had I totally lost my mind? That’s not the right one to have! I was shocked at what was going on in my head.

Sticking with small stuff leads to the bigger better stuff

After I regrouped, I rediscovered once again, that it’s really the small things that are the big things. You may have heard of the book, “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff”. Great title. But for our purposes here, we really do need to sweat the small stuff. Sweating the small stuff is a guaranteed lead to the big stuff.

How do I know? The Bible tells me so. A scripture in Matthew 25 says: “You have been faithful and trustworthy over a little; I will put you in charge of much.” Cool! If I work my butt off taking care of the things I’d rather not, I will eventually get to do what I’d rather do! (Well, right motives and good attitude do play an important part here too, so don’t leave that out.) All this to say…playing the part that no one else sees or gives a rip about is a lead-in to something greater. There are no short cuts, so quit looking for them.

God’s watching and smiling

Allow me to toss a little something to you from the book of Zachariah. It’s found in chapter 4, verse 10: “Do not despise the day of small beginnings. The Lord rejoices to see the work begin.”

This verse helps us reframe our manure filled pasture moments. It shows us that God is not only watching, but rejoicing. He’s got his eye on you, me, and all the others as we busy ourselves with the stuff of our pre-king seasons. Let’s keep it up. Our crowns are on order and they are just about ready for wear if we will stay at it long enough.

Soon someone will see you and say, “Hey, where did YOU come from?”

Have you found this to be true? Share your comment or story below.


Why Ditching Gifts to Make Memories is A NO Brainer!
People ask, “How do you create and maintain strong family ties?” “How can you bond and stay connected to your kids at every age?” “How do you draw closer to your spouse rather than drift away?” “How do you keep a friendship fresh?”

Let’s do an experiment which will give us some answers to keeping your family unit and friendships strong. Get out a piece of paper and write down all of the Christmas and birthday gifts that you received as a child up until you moved out of the house. Take all the time you need, no pressure!

How many did you come up with? Now, grab another piece of paper and write down all of your favorite memories of vacations or times spent together as a family or time spent with friends, when you were a kid. Again, take your time. I’ll be right here when you are done.

Ok. Now, I bet this list was longer wasn’t it? Which list? The list of memories made. Yep, we have just proved what is most valuable to us. Memories made, trump gifts given. So with that in mind, why do we go crazy trying to get our kids, loved ones, and friends the latest and greatest gifts at Christmas or for their birthdays when it really doesn’t hold a candle to just hanging out together? And why do we work overtime for extra cash to buy something for someone who would rather just be with us?

But wait, spend time with me, you say? You mean the people in my life would rather just be with me? Yep. That may take a little convincing, huh? You’re probably thinking they’d rather have the stuff. Don’t believe it! See, somewhere along the way we bought into the idea that we are not good enough to spend time with. Come on, how many times have you wondered, Would my best friend prefer a Christmas gift or the gift of being together? Does my teenager really want to go to a game with me? Would she really prefer going to a movie with me over buying her a new pair of jeans? Does my five year old really dig reading a bedtime story with me instead of playing one more round of Mario Cart?

I bet your parents had the same questions. And they may have had the same thoughts. Go back to your list. Do the math. There’s your answer. Investing time in relationships rather than investing money in gifts draws you closer to the ones you love. Your return on investment will close the gaps you may have opened with gifts. It will also give your family and friends some great memories that will last a lifetime longer than the stuff you could buy them.

Ways to find something you can do together:

1.  Find an activity that you both enjoy.

2.  If you can’t find one you BOTH enjoy, then find one that you kinda both enjoy!

3.  If you can’t find an activity that you kinda both enjoy, then try an activity that’s new to both of you that you might come to enjoy!

Your time: It’s cheaper, better, and longer lasting. No brainer. Ditch the gifts and make the memories.

Remember when… 😉