4 Bad Mood Busters

 

4 Bad Mood Busters

You’re in a bad mood? So what’s bugging you? Someone tick you off? Got a bill you can’t pay? Or did you just wake up that way today? It happens. Life sometimes stinks. If you’re looking for a lift, let me show you how to rise above a bad mood when it’s gripping you.

1. Focus on the Sweet Stuff

Yes, I said sweet, not sour. Oh, I know right now all you can taste is the sour and it’s really hard to get that taste out of your mouth. But let’s gargle a little and rinse it out. When you’ve got bad breath, you’re willing to let take a big slurp of mouthwash, right? In this case, you sip on some sweet thoughts and let it swish around in your mind and mouth.

Can’t find any mind-mouth wash? Let me get your started.

Mind-Mouth wash:

  • Who are 3 people who love you? List them.
  • What are 3 of your best accomplishments? Make note. Your building up speed here!
  • What are 3 things that you are looking forward to in the next few days? Mention them one by one. That was fun, right?

Now, if you can make a choice to think about the sweet things you just thought of instead of the sour stuff you were thinking about before – your mood will begin to change. I guarantee it.

Do you feel it? It’s happening already isn’t it? Is there a little smile beginning to form deep down on the inside if you? Oh, it’s coming. Wait for it. It will eventually make its way to your face. Let’s see what else you can do to bust that bad mood…

2. Find Your Thanks In Advance

Admit it, even smelly manure can be a good thing. It makes rockin fertilizer! Fertilize your mood as you look for the benefit behind the smelly stuff of life. This way, manure causes growth! Yeah baby!!!

What smells in your life right now? Here’s how to churn it into fertilizer:

You may not have the money today to pay your mortgage or rent, but you can be thankful that you have food in the fridge. What? There’s not much in there? I hear ya. You may not have the fridge stocked with food that floats your boat. Prime rib would really rock right now, huh? BUT, what IS in that fridge that you can be thankful for? A few eggs? Ok, thank God for those eggs. Leftovers from the night before? Ok, be thankful that meal stretched and you’re still feasting on it!

David talking to God in Psalm 16:2 says, “…All the good things I have are from you.” You get the point, no matter what is left in your fridge of life, thank God for what IS there. And if your fridge is empty, be thankful that you have a fridge and it’s ready to be filled up.

What are 3 things can you be thankful for today? Make a list.

I was driving down the road one day, and God asked me, “Are you going to wait till I give you everything you want before you praise me with everything you’ve got?” OUCH! I was withholding my thanks till I got what I wanted. Not good!

King David had it rough, but the guy praised God in advance. Psalm 13 starts out like this, “O Lord, how long will you forget me? Forever?…” but then he wakes up and smells the coffee. That chapter ends saying, “But, I trust in your unfailing love. I will rejoice because you have rescued me. I will sing to the Lord because he has been so good to me.” Now wait up! See, right there, David hadn’t been rescued yet. But David, the FUTURE king, had so much faith in the FUTURE; he speaks of it in PAST tense! Like he’s already got it! Whoa Nelly! Let’s get singing about our future! Find your thanks in advance.

3. Sing Your Thanks

When I’m in a sour mood, I find I have unknowingly shut off the “happy” music. Forgetting to hit play on my CD player grants me a sinking experience. Where to? Deeper into depths of despair. What you listen to creates an atmosphere inside you. So put some positive music in your ears because the song in your heart can bust up your bad mood. Especially if its a song speaking about the wonders and the good stuff of God. And bonus, it will eventually come out of your mouth and bust up other people’s bad moods.

I have two key people in my life who are constantly humming or singing. My best friend and my assistant do this without noticing it. I love being around the both of them. There they are just going about their business, humming in the background. And when they do, a smile goes off inside of me. My hums are off key, so when I hear theirs, it’s a welcomed treat! It lifts my spirit and brightens up my inside. Shhh, they had no idea! So sing, hum, put some tune to your thanks, it will sweeten the spot you’re in.

Here’s a great link to some incredible music that will bust up that bad mood. City of Life Worship on iTunes. Download it here:    http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/city-of-life-worship/id380856332

4. Talk Your Thanks

Finding it hard to convince yourself you have it good? Some say make a mental list. I say, speak out your list. If no one’s around, talk about your thanks to yourself. Say, I am glad I have…I am thankful for… Then graduate to talking about your thanks with others. Make it known. Talking about what you have, not what you don’t will bust up your bad mood. But talking about what you don’t have will keep you in a bad mood. I’m sure you have lots of stuff to be sad about, me too. But wake up. What you give attention to is what is in front of you. What is in front of you is what’s going to lead your mood. Push aside the sad stuff by putting the glad stuff in front. Taking your thoughts captive will get that smile creeping up out of your spirit and across your face.

When you need to bust up a bad mood, hit all four of these points and your mood will change. I absolutely guarantee it!

  1. Focus on the Sweet Stuff
  2. Find Your Thanks In Advance
  3. Sing Your Thanks
  4. Talk Your Thanks

PS, I love that your smile is making its way back to your face. Looking good!

How do you bust through a bad mood? Leave your tips below:

 

What a JERK!!! It’s not fair…being wronged, being treated unkindly. Ripped off. Ripped up. Your dignity stripped away. Yep, that’s you there getting the royal treatment from a first class jerk.

Now what? Take a deep breath. Help is on the way. I’m going to show you how to handle the jerks in your life and get your sweet revenge too!

1st Step: Measure It

Measure what they took from you. Measure?! Yes, figure out how much they stole from you. Was it your reputation? How much? Was it your spot in line? How much longer did you then have to wait? Was it money? How long will it take for you to make that amount up? Was it an idea they took credit for? How much effort will it take to come up with something new and just as brilliant? What was it? Figure out what you lost, because they OWE YOU big time!

2nd Step: Cancel It

Knowing exactly what you lost…let it go. Huh?! Yes, release it. It’s gone anyway. Now you need to accept that it is gone and it can’t be replaced. Even if they tried to make it up to you, it will never be replaced with the same exact thing. So what choice do you have? They incurred a debt with you. One they will never be able to repay. So your only option is to cancel the debt. This is called forgiveness. Yes, it’s the hardest on the list. But the most important. Forgiving gives you the freedom to move on. Don’t let the jerk keep you tied up. Let em loose! Don’t be bound; you have places to go and things to do!

3rd Step: Get Praying

Pray for the jerk. Yuck! I know, I don’t like praying for people who mess with me either. I don’t want to pray for the jerks in my life because that will help them, and heck, even bless them. Why would I want to be good to someone who messed with me? Consider this little known secret: it empowers you to make a difference in their life. You get to be their game-changer. Didn’t know you were signing up for that, did ya? You can actually be the one to jerk them out of jerk mode! Get praying.

4th Step: Give Love

Love the jerk. Excuse me?! Hard to swallow, huh? But look, there’s something in it for you. God says over and over again that if you’re really mature, you will love everyone unconditionally. Now here’s the rub – unconditionally means even when they screw you over. Having a jerk is the only way to see if you have love. You love them when they are unlovable. Yes, I know, sounds like you are getting the shaft again. But passing the love test makes you more like Christ. And looking more like Christ means you’re going to receive the blessings He’s got for you. That would involve a crown, a mansion, and tons of cool stuff here on earth. I’d say loving the jerk is worth it, wouldn’t you? Love the jerk; it does you good!

5th Step: Look Good

With your eyes, get searching for some good in the jerk. Now, it’s going to take a willingness to accept that this person has some good. And ahhhh, that’s tough. You are so focused on their ugly spot, you convince yourself there are no beauty spots. Look hard my friend. You did? Look again. The beauty is there, it just takes a willing eye. Once you find it, thank God for it. I’m sure you’re wondering, ” Are you outta your mind!?” Try it, it will put you in a better mood. There’s no way you can stay mad when you are grateful.

6th Step: Shut Up

Refuse to talk badly about them. I know you really want to rake them over the coals. And yes, it seems the whole world needs to know about their jerky side. But there is an advantage to controlling your tongue. When you speak poorly of others, subconsciously people think bad of you. Negative tongue wagging lands you in a sad category according to others. Think about it, it’s true. Let it not be you!

7th Step: Pay Back

REVENGE! Now we’re talking! But here’s what you need to know: You probably can’t do as good a job at stickin it back to them as God can, so why not let God do it? He’ll blow you away with His masterfully crafted plan to make them reap what they sow. Romans 12:19 says, “Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say,“I will take revenge; I will pay them back,”says the Lord.”

So, leave it to God, He always does a better job at pay-backs than you do, and it’s less work for you. You’ve got a guaranteed win-win here. Go get a Starbucks and prop your feet up. Let God give the hit and watch the jerk squirm, sweet deal, eh?!

There you go. You’ve learned how to handle the jerks in your life. If you pull this off, you will see that having a jerk in your life can really benefit you indeed!

Let me know if this helps. Comment below!