How You Can Grab God’s Attention
Ever feel like God is out to lunch when you are praying?  Does he really hear you? Maybe he’s sipping on a tall vanilla latte at Starbucks and he really doesn’t have time to listen to you today? Or maybe he doesn’t even want to! Ouch!

How often have you bombarded heaven’s door  only to feel like your prayer bounced back into your lap? So, let me ask…Are you frustrated in any way with your prayer life? Or embarrassed because you really don’t have one?  Maybe you’re disappointed because only some prayers have been answered. Or you’re looking at others who have gotten exactly what they prayed for and your feeling shortchanged.

I’ve been there. I totally know what ALL that feels like. And let me tell you…

Help is on the way!

I asked 100’s of people what their most pressing questions were about prayer. I went into chat rooms and forums and noted the most frequently discussed prayer dilemmas. Then I went to work answering those questions. Through years of study and 20 years experience as a pastor, I have learned a lot about prayer and I want to help answer those questions for you.

I have discovered that people really do want to pray, but sometimes they don’t know how. And they don’t always believe that their prayers make a difference. Many give up. That’s exactly what the enemy would want. Do you feel like that could be you?

This is why I have written a book to address some of the most common questions and frustrations about prayer. It’s called, Grabbing God’s Attention – The Art of Praying Like a Pro. It’s available on Amazon in the Kindle edition or as a PDF that can be printed.  The PDF option is great because it allows you to write in the “Taking-Action” sections so you can immediately put to use what you have been reading. Grab it today and start digging in!

You Can Be a Prayer-Ninja!

If a person would want to change the world, all he needs to do is teach people to pray. Well, I’m looking to change the world. Want to help me do that? If you can learn how to Grab God’s ear, you will change your world and the world around you. Talk about a prayer-ninja!

This book will help you learn how to approach God boldly. This book will give you assurance that he wants to talk to you just as badly as you want to talk to him. I’ll offer you guidance and tips that will take you from feeling like prayer is a duty to feeling like prayer is one of the most satisfying activities of your daily life. It is so amazing to have a great conversations with God and to know when you speak, he hears!

By the time you are done with this book, you will see that prayer is as natural as talking to your friend or companion. No fear, no worries.

God is waiting for you to come and tell him what’s on your mind. Get the book that will help you Grab God’s Attention. Soon you will be praying like a pro!

Click here for the Amazon Kindle version. Or click here for the PDF version that you can print.

Grab the book so you can Grab God’s Attention!!

Dr. Linda Travelute


The Secret Cure for Disappointment
Disappointed.

You’re ticked aren’t ya?

I don’t blame you.

You had it all figured out.

You thought it would be better than this.

This stinks. It’s ok that you are mad. I’d be mad too.

Let me show you how you can keep disappointment from ever touching you again.

That’s a bold statement, huh?

Try me. This works.

You can have your money back if it doesn’t.

Oh, wait, you’re getting this advice for free. Good, then you have nothing to lose. Come with me for a minute. Let’s discuss the CURE for disappointment. It will be well worth your time.

Ready to Eat?

Imagine I invite you over for dinner. I seat you at my table decked out in the finest my dish closet has to offer. I place a napkin in your lap and explain that you are about to enjoy a delicious seven-course meal. Backwards.

That’s right. We start with dessert. From there we make our way backwards toward the main course, salad, hors d’oeuvres, and everything in-between.

Dessert first! Cool! But by the time you get to the main course you are so full you can’t enjoy the caviar. So you’re a little miffed. And you’re disappointed with my way of doing things.

This didn’t go the way you thought it would. It started out ok. It sure looked like fine dining according to plan. But hey, things got out of order. And looking at it in reverse, with an upset stomach, leaves you an unhappy camper. And an unhappy diner. Hold on, I’ll get you some Rolaids.

Here’s another scenario.

The man or woman of your dreams sent your heart a pitter-pattering. First came courtship. Marriage. And oh, count ‘em, three baby carriages.

Years later your heart takes a dip. It plunges to the lowest place on earth. The spouse of your dreams morphs into the spouse you hate. It started with the affair. You were cheated on, not once, but twice. No way! You didn’t sign up for that. Your soul mate ripped your soul out and your heart is in shreds.

Disappointed. No one can imagine. This is not the marriage you had in mind. You’re irate. You’ve been rejected. The pain is like an avalanche that snows you under.

Let’s go back to the table.

Remember, you’re the guest at MY table. What I say goes. We do the meal as I have designed, not how you have imagined.

Let me ask, “What other table do you belly up to?” Did I hear you say, “God’s?” You eat from His table? Here’s the difference between my table, your table, and God’s table.

If you’re the guest at your own table, you can do the meal as you please. But here’s the rub. When you’re sitting at God’s table, He’s boss. And guess what? You’re not excused until the meal is over. You have to eat whatever God puts in front of you. Even if you don’t think you can stomach it. Even if the meal is too long. You have no choice. God’s the chief cook and bottle washer here.

So what do you do to ensure disappointment isn’t the feast at your table? Here’s what you’ve been waiting for, the cure for disappointment:

Revamp your expectations!

Sometimes we expect unrealistic things. Things that were never in the plan for us.

How do you know if your expectation is unrealistic? Answer: If it doesn’t become real.

Now, I’m not saying you need to throw away the promises of God. Not at all. God will make good on His
promises. But sometimes we get what God promises mixed up with what we want God to promise us.

So then, we need to revamp our expectations. If we adjust our expectations, we will save ourselves disappointment. It’s that simple. Not easy. But it will save you heartache.

How do you revamp your expectations?

Shoot for something lower? No, just be open to things not going according to how you planned.

So how do you revamp your expectations and still have faith?

Expect the best. Hope for the best. FAITH for the best.

But know sometimes you will be shortchanged in your eyes. Only because you don’t always know what’s best. Therefore, we expect what we think is best, not what God thinks is best. Only God knows, and He doesn’t always tell. Sometimes God serves hors d’oeuvres and the salad last.

And wouldn’t it be easier to trust that if God starts out with dessert, it would be a good thing? Whatever whacked way He does things is gonna be to your benefit.

How do I know? Because “The Lord will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right.” (Psalm 84:11b NLT)

God is not holding out on you.

Even if the order is messed up.

Even if what He puts on your plate tastes crappy.

Even if He serves up something you don’t like.

God is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him (Hebrews 11:6 NLT). Seek Him, and you will be feasting on the exact course for your life at the right time, even if you don’t realize it at that moment.

Even if you’re confused about the dish that’s in front of you, you can feast on what you didn’t expect without being disappointed.

How? Because you have revamped your expectations. Which means you will no longer be disappointed.

That’s it. You’re cured.

You’ll be ok. God said so.

Give me your feedback. Let’s talk about this. Leave your comments in the reply section. Talk to you soon!


Why God Hates it When You Trash Talk YOURSELF
Imagine this…You forget to unplug the iron, it falls and burns a big ol’ hole in your ironing board cover. Rats! Thank God, it didn’t catch the house on fire. Still, you feel like an loser.

Or get this, You’re late and your whipping in and out of traffic like Jeff Gordon. All of the sudden your car slows down and it’s not because you let your foot off the accelerator. It’s because your gas tank has gone bone dry. You forgot to get gas this morning. Grrrrrr!….You think, “I’m such a dork!”

Or you bounce a check…again. In fact, it’s the third check you’ve bounced this month. Not intentional. Just happened. You were juggling things – trying to make it all work. Fail. Fail. Fail. What slips out of your mouth? I’m such a failure!

When you goof up, what’s the first thought that races through your mind?

I am so stupid!

Really?

Is that the best you can come up with?

Or try this on for size…

“Gosh, I just can’t get it right.”

“I am so forgetful.”

“I’m an irresponsible dim whit.”

“I’m such a goof!”

“Nice job, bozo!”

“I’m such a fool, will I ever learn?”

“I will never get ahead!”

Ouch. Ouch. Ouch.

Wonder how God stomachs all of our insane, self-inflicting comments when we start letting them roll.

Right now, I’m picturing God sitting on His throne, listening to someone tear you, someone He loves, into shreds. Doesn’t matter that the same person who’s spouting off the name-calling is also the recipient. When you start getting down on yourself, you’re hurting someone God loves.

And that’s wrong. Stop.

Know what? God would never call you names. Regardless of your mistakes! And God would never ask you to do anything He doesn’t do himself. If He asks us to think about the good in other people, then He’s thinking about the good things in us too.

Let’s take it a step further. God asks you to think Philippians 4:8 about yourself.

And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Phil 4:8 (NLT)

What about you is true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, and admirable?

Think on that! But don’t just think on that, FIX your thoughts on that. In other words, those thoughts about the good in you should consume the majority of your thoughts. When you “fix” something in your mind, your thoughts don’t move. They stay. They stay on the good.

Rather than trash yourself, treasure yourself.

Cause you are good stuff to think about and you’re good stuff talk about.

Let me know if this post has connected with you. Tell me about your struggle and your success in the area of talking about yourself. Pop your thoughts into the comment section! 


Find Your Smile When Life is Hard in Just 30 Minutes!
Do you feel like life has smacked the smile off of your face? I have too. But I’ve learn how to get my smile back. And I want to help you do it too. Let me show you how you can be flipping into peace mode, even when life is difficult!

If you’ve got  half an hour, you’ve got the time it takes to discover how you can find your smile in hard times. Yep, even in the midst of the darkness, you can find relief from your pain.

My new mini-book, Finding Your Smile in Hard Times, is a quick little read that will quickly change your life! Read it on your lunch break, before dinner, or as you’re winding down for bed. In my mini-book, I will show you how I got my smile back after walking through difficult challenges and how you can to. Life can be a booger, but let’s not let it steal our happiness!

Get the mini-book here. Click and it will take you right to the Amazon link where you can download it. Even if you don’t have a Kindle or if you have never read an ebook before, don’t fret. All you do is grab your smart-phone, iPad, or Computer – (Yes, any computer will do!). Go to Amazon.com, download the free Kindle app. Set up your Amazon account, and go to the Kindle store to get the book. Or you can click on the book link below and you will zoom over to Amazon  in seconds.

Here’s what people are saying about the book:

“This book was right on time for me, as I had been finding it hard to smile lately with all the happenings of life. It’s great that it is so down to earth, and so easy to read. While reading it, I could actually hear Dr Travelute speaking those words, in only the way she could. I loved the scripture quotes, and will use them often. Never thought of distraction as a way to ease the pain. Great book by an awesome woman of GOD! Everyone can benefit by the encouragement and hope written on the pages of this book. Thanks!” – Rob

“Dr. Linda Travelute has written a wonderful resource for anyone struggling with depression or the pains and hardships of this world. I can personally testify that by meditating on God’s Word, you will become “distracted” from life’s problems. A great read to recommend to family and friends, and as Pastor Linda reminds me after every conversation, dig into the Word everyday and let it move you! Well done Pastor Linda!” – Wammons

“Don’t let the length of this book fool you- Dr. Travelute reveals in 27 pages what people spend years in therapy trying to discover. She gives two key ways how someone who is going through a hard situation can successfully make it to the other side with a smile on their face. The scriptures Dr. Travelute offers for meditation are incredible resources. This is a go-to manual for anyone who is navigating a hard situation to use to find peace and live in victory. If you’re facing a mountain, experiencing depression, or wondering how to cope with life’s curve balls, sit down with this book for 30 minutes, put her words into practice, and see what happens in your life as a result.”  – Singingintheshadow

This book was designed for people who don’t have time to read lengthy full sized books. In just a fraction of the time, you will have all you need to know to get that smile back on your face when life is difficult. Click now, your smile is waiting!

Dig in!

Dr. Linda Travelute


How You Can Make Smarter Decisions Based on My Decision About Getting a Nose Ring
Just for kicks, I asked my teenage kids what they thought of me getting a nose ring. I’m not talking a hoop or anything like that protruding from my nose in an awkward fashion. Just a tiny diamond stud. You know, something tiny yet with a bit of dazzle.

 

My daughter was the first to speak up. She’s 14 but declares she is the Ann Landers of her generation. She said very sweetly, “Mom, I don’t want to hurt your feelings but you are too old for a nose ring. You have too many wrinkles.” Ouch. Not so sure why she equates wrinkles with non-nose ring wear, but ok! I took her thoughts to heart. Then I decided to get the opinions of a few others. 56 others to be exact.

Yes, within 2 hours, 56 people had responded to my Facebook post.

This is what I put out there:

“My daughter says that being 43 automatically disqualifies me from getting a nose ring! Your thoughts?”

Oh my! The responses ranged from, “Yes, “go for it!” to, “You’re too cool or beautiful and that would ruin you!”

Ruin me?! Really?!

Here’s the decision I made and why it can help you when you are up against making the right decision verses the wrong one.

1. Help People Trust You

First impressions shouldn’t really matter, but they do. So in an age where people look on outward appearance instead of the heart, we have to help them trust us. That may mean foregoing a freedom or fashion statement in order to win their confidence and trust. That’s not how it should be. But that’s how it is. I’m not saying it’s right or fair. But that’s reality. People judge based on appearance.

My rule has always been this:

Form a light-first impression based on the outward, but always be prepared to change your view of someone based on what you learn about them. The more interaction you have with someone, the more you get to know him or her. First impressions can be right, but they can also be very very wrong. Sometimes it takes years to really know someone.

Unfortunately, not everyone plays by my rules. So here’s what else I recommend:

2. Remember Who You Are And What That Stands For

I am a pastor and I take my role as a pastor very seriously. I am also a professional counselor. I don’t know many PhD’s with nose rings. (Maybe I just haven’t met the right ones yet!) But my thought is this; if I had to connect with an ultra conservative group, or mingle in a professional one, would the nose ring keep me from being heard? Or would people discount what I have to offer because of that stud in my nose? Sadly, yes.

Yes, it’s ok for me to get a nose ring. But it’s even better not to right now so that nothing stands in the way of touching someone’s life. I want to be more thoughtful. In your realm or arena, it might be perfectly acceptable for you to done a nose ring. If so, I’m glad you get to have one. For me, right now, it’s probably not the best idea.

I have decided to give up freedoms that I rightfully have in order to connect with and be accepted by others. If having a nose ring would in any way keep me from being a blessing to others because they may not be able to get past the jewelry in my nose, then I will give up my right to have a nose ring.

I don’t want my freedom to cause anyone to stumble. And how would they stumble? By not accepting me based on my outward appearance. (Romans 14 has some darn good stuff about this. Check it out.)

So, at this point in my life, no nose ring! Maybe when nose rings become more accepted, just like women wearing pants has become more accepted since the 1940’s, I might just go for it! But not until I know it won’t keep others from connecting with me. Their bad, I know! But my heart to serve them overrides their bad in making an unfair judgment. 

What rights are you willing to give up in order to reach more people? I’m thinking that’s more important. Call me crazy? Chime in. I’d love to hear what you think in the comment section.


Do You Have Enough Guts to Bring God Glory?
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Next time there is a full moon, take a peek and notice her splendor. I guarantee she’ll knock your socks off if you give her a glance!

Have you ever thought about what the moon does? It generates no light. But baby, it shines!

Apart from the sun, the moon is nothing more than a dark black, marked-up rock. BUT, when it’s properly positioned, the moon beams. Let her do what she was made to do, and a clod of dirt becomes a source of illumination & inspiration. All that happens when the moon reflects the greater light, the sun.

I bring this up because that’s what you and I can do. But it only happens when we are in the right position to the Son -The Son of God. When in position, we become a source of illumination, and inspiration.

Look how the Bible explains it…

2 Corinthians 3:18 says, “All of us can see and reflect the glory of the Lord. And the Lord—who is the Spirit—makes us more and more like him as we are changed into his glorious image.”

What is so cool is that you don’t have to be perfect, you just have to be in position. Like the moon, you have marks–don’t we all! But you can still reflect the light.

You can have habits you are still trying to kick… But over the years you can change more and more. And as you do, you reflect Gods glory more and more.

The Bible says, we are changed from glory to glory. Know what that means? The more and more we act like God, the more and more we look like God. And that brings God glory!

To make this happen, it takes guts! Let me ask you, do you have enough guts to bring God glory?

No Guts, No Glory
You’ve heard the phrase, “No guts, no glory.” That is so true. If you don’t have the guts to impact someone’s life, then God gets no glory.

I failed to have guts one time. I was at Tropi Grill, there was a lady sitting there. She was minding her own business, eating her Tropi chops. I wanted to mind my own business and eat my Tropi chops. But guess what? God wanted me to speak to her. He said, “Just tell her I love her.” That’s it. Just one line. I didn’t want to.

He said again, “All I want you to do is tell her I love her. That’s it.” So I’m sitting there arguing with God, saying things like, “I don’t feel like it, I’m too tired, I’m too hungry.”

I thought, What if this is the devil telling me to do this? Then God said, “Do you actually think the devil would ask you to tell someone God loves them?” Hmm, probably not!

What I learned is that even if it’s not God’s voice, but it’s a good thing, just do it anyway, cause 9 times out of 10 it is God’s voice.

Because I sat there so long, the lady got up and left. I lost my chance.

Because I didn’t have the guts, God didn’t get the glory.

The Message says in Ephesians 5:1

Watch what God does, and then you do it, like children who learn proper behavior from their parents. Mostly what God does is love you. Keep company with Him and learn a life of love. Love like God does.

Any way you can love on someone – brings Glory to God because when you do these things – you look like God. It points people to Him. It brings Him glory.

You don’t have to be perfect to bring God glory. You just have to have guts!

Get gutsy, so you too, can glorify God!

Let us know how you have been gutsy enough to bring God glory. Hit up the comment section. Thanks!

 

Tired of those looks? You know the ones I mean. You feel their eyes on you. Cutting you to pieces. Burning holes into your self esteem. The glances from people who think they are the standard of excellence in every area.

Declaring themselves the judge and jury, they’re busy sizing you up on their chart. Nothing slips by their radar. Nothing is out of reach from their inspectful watch. And watch they do. Watching to see if you make a mistake. Watching to see if you are up to par.

Did you say the right thing? Did you handle the situation the right way? Are you living your life they way they deem appropriate? Are you dressing to the standards they think are acceptable? Have you put on a few pounds? Does your hair style fit your face? How bout your kids? Did you enroll them in the right after-school program? According to the judge, are you spiritual enough? Look out, cause there they go again declaring your motive or heart to be anything but right or real.

 Come on, give us a break!

Tired of it?

Want to know how you can turn the tables on them?

Yeah, you heard me. You can make this stop. I’m going to show you how to stop ’em dead in their judgmental tracks. Ready?

Here’s what you have to do:

You have to stop judging too.

You be first to stop the cycle.

What cycle?

The cycle you started in motion.

Huh?

Ok, this may be hard for you to swallow, but the real reason people judge you is because somewhere along the way, you began judging others.

Ouch!

Really?

Yep.

God says so.

Matthew 7:1 & 2, “Don’t judge others, or you will be judged. 2 You will be judged in the same way that you judge others, and the amount you give to others will be given to you.” (NCV)

I love how the Message puts this: “Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging.”

Talk about a boomerang effect!

It’s plain and simple.

The buck stops with you.

You want to live in a judgement-free zone?

Then provide it for others.

It may have started years ago. So long ago, you can’t remember. You began to look at others with an inspectful eye. Maybe it was a defense mechanism. Insecure about some area of your life, you started looking for areas where you could put people down. Why? So you could look better. You need to be better at something, right? So you found a way to out-shine them. Now you look better because there’s a way you make them look bad.

Along with that, you slowly began to believe you knew more in some areas and it gave you the right to declare people “this” or “that”. You evolved into a being that was allowed to say or at least think, your two cents.

Know what? Your two cents aren’t worth crap. Oh, now, don’t get yourself in a tizzy thinking you don’t do this. Just take a look, an honest look. The facts speak for themselves, if you are being judged, then you have judged. It’s the result of your own judging. According to the Bible, you can’t get around this…unless you stop. Stop judging. You stop. Then others will stop. If you succeed, you will turn the tables.

What goes around, comes around. So if you want to stop being judged. Stop the cycle. Stop judging others. It begins with you. And how sweet it will be when it also ENDS with you!

What do you think? Yes, now I am asking for your two cents! Leave us a comment in the box below. Talk to you soon!


Two Things That Could Keep You From Praying
Over the years I’ve heard people describe desert-like experiences with God. They go on explaining their state by saying they, “Just can’t pray.” Well, what’s that all about? It means something is blocking them from connecting with God. Secretly they might even blame God for the disconnect. He’s the problem, right? He doesn’t want to hear their prayers.

Maybe that’s you too. Are you feeling like He’s…um, out to lunch? Or maybe hitting up Starbucks and He’d rather catch up with you later? Your prayers are getting hijacked. Something is blocking heaven, right? No, wait up. That something blocking your prayers is you!

It’s not God who doesn’t want to talk, it’s you, who doesn’t want to talk with God.

I’ve come to realize that when someone says they can’t pray, it really means they WON’T pray.

God says His ears are open to the prayers of the righteous. His ears are attentive to their cries. So don’t go telling me God’s the problem. Read it for yourself in 1 Peter 3:12.

We can audaciously and boldly get in His face. In Hebrews 4:16, the Bible says, “come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.”

So what’s the REAL reason you can’t pray?

1. Maybe You Don’t Feel Worthy

If that’s true for you, then get worthy!

All it takes is telling God how sorry you are for the things that aren’t right in your life and you’re on your way.

Acts 3:19 says, “Now it’s time to change your ways! Turn to face God so he can wipe away your sins, pour out showers of blessing to refresh you, and send you the Messiah he prepared for you, namely, Jesus.” (From the Message)

Ask for forgiveness. What are you waiting for? The ball’s in your court. Spill it and soon you’ll be in God’s court.

2. Maybe You Don’t Believe

Ahh, now that’s a problem, isn’t it? Why would you ask God for anything if you don’t believe? You won’t! So, let’s fix that. This is nothing earth shattering here, but just ask God to help you believe.

I love the story in the Bible where the guy says to Jesus, “I do believe, but help me to believe more” Huh?! He believed but apparently it wasn’t enough. Been there. Done that. What I did: I asked for more belief. Guess what? God delivered. He backed up a truckload of belief into my yard and started dumping. Little by little I believed more and more. Eventually I was waist deep in belief.

Do you need more belief? Ask God for it. No shame in that. And when you do, you too, will be ready for a face to face with God.

What other challenges have you faced in prayer? Leave your comments. Talk to you soon!

If you found this helpful, you might want to read this one:                  How to Handle It When God Doesn’t Answer You                


Why You Lose When You Compare Yourself to Others & How to STOP

It’s tempting isn’t it? Looking at someone and wondering just how well you measure up to them. Hair, appearance, size, position, talent, wealth, education, intellect, athletic prowess, people skills. The list is deep and it also goes wide. There’s no end when comparing yourself to the girl or guy next door. And if you do, let me tell you, you lose! Read on and I’ll explain. I’ll also show you how you can STOP comparing yourself to others. Let’s go!

When Walt Disney was a young school boy, his teacher saw him drawing pictures of flowers. She said, “They’re very nice Walter but don’t you know, flowers don’t have faces.” He looked up and said, “Mine do.” I love that! Even as a small boy, Walt Disney had the guts to stick up for who he was. He was true to himself. He did his own thing. And that’s probably one

of the reasons why he was so successful. He didn’t let anybody cramp his style.

Oh, but you do let people cramp your style, don’t you? I betcha just recently you were feeling pressured or feeling badly about yourself because you were not like someone else. You were deciding you don’t fit someone else’s image of who you should be. Have I got your number?

When you do either of these two things above, you miss out on who YOU are supposed to be! And that is so dangerous because you get the WRONG IDEA of who you’re supposed to be. You become confused and don’t know who you are.

When you compare yourself to others you get the wrong idea of who you’re supposed to be. You become confused and don’t know who you are.

There’s a story about a farm boy that I read in one of Chuck Swindoll’s books, who found an eagle’s nest with an egg in it. He took the egg from the nest, and when he got home, he put it under a hen along with her other eggs.

Since the eagle’s egg hatched among chicks, the eagle thought he was a chicken. He learned chicken behavior from his “mother” and scratched in the chicken yard along with his “siblings”. He didn’t know any better. And when he sometimes felt strange stirrings within him, thoughts, like hmm, “I think I walk a little different from the rest of the crowd,” or “I seem to have longer wings than everybody else” – he ignored those thoughts. When he began to realize he had different qualities and was different from the rest, he buried those thoughts too. After all, when he looked around him all he saw were chickens, so he thought he must behave like a chicken. Talk about pressure!

But then one day an eagle flew over the farm. The chicken yard eagle looked up and saw him. In that moment, he realized he had the same kind of stuff that that eagle did. He wanted to fly high. He wanted to go to the mountain peaks he saw in the distance. So he spread his wings, which were much larger and stronger than those of his siblings. Suddenly he understood that he was different. He was an eagle. He was meant to fly.

Though he had never flown before, he possessed the instinct and the capabilities. He spread his wings once more and he took off. He soared high…because he stopped looking around him. He finally discovered his true self.

How sad it would have been for him to continue comparing himself to the other chickens, never measuring up. And why would that be sad?

Because he wasn’t a chicken. He could never measure up and wasn’t supposed to!

He couldn’t walk like the chickens, he couldn’t cluck like the chickens. Hello? It’s because he wasn’t a chicken! And that could have left him down and discouraged thinking he wasn’t good enough.

You may be going through life comparing yourself to others. You’re feeling worthless and not good enough because you don’t walk like others, talk like others, and do things like others. Look, you’re not supposed to be like others.

You can’t fly like an eagle if your stuck on the ground trying to be like the other chickens! So, here’s how to get off the ground:

1. Make a List of Your Greatest Attributes & Abilities

This may sound silly, even cocky if you don’t know where I’m coming from with this, but reserve judgment till you get what I’m about to share with you. I remember driving down the road when I was 16 years old, listing all of my greatness. Now, don’t let that fool you. I wasn’t conceited or stuck on myself or anything like that. After giving myself a honest evaluation, I made a mental list of my good stuff. Great stuff. Because inside of everyone of us is great stuff. God made us with great stuff. You have greatness in you just like I do. You just have to see it. And when you do, you can make a list of your greatness too!

2. When you come up against thoughts of comparing – knock em down!

Resist the urge to measure yourself up against someone you see or that comes to mind. If you encounter Carey, an acquaintance in the shoe department at Macy’s, quit inspecting her outfit and trying to discover if those shoes are real Gucci stilettos. If they are, so what? You have bigger fish in your own frying pan. Look deep. Greatness is there. If you walk by Bill in the break room, don’t think, “If I were only as tall as him.” Stop it! Don’t let your mind go there! Let it go here: back to your list of your Greatest Attributes & Abilities. 

Focus on your Greatness. Soon you will see you have no reason to compare.

The more you see the great attributes and abilities that God has built into you, the less you will have need to measure them against someone elses.

Galations 6:4 says this:

“Let everyone be sure that he is doing his very best, for then he will have the personal satisfaction of work well done, and won’t need to compare himself with someone else.”

List your greatness and you’ll no longer need to compare! 

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