13 Guaranteed Ways to Make Yourself Sad

  1. Think about what you don’t have.
  2. Focus on what someone didn’t do for you.
  3. Think about what other’s have that you don’t.
  4. Compare yourself to others.
  5. Replay stupid things you’ve done over and over again in your mind.
  6. Stay angry.
  7. Sulk about how unfair life is.
  8. Refuse to forgive.
  9. Complain.
  10. Complain some more.
  11. Continue to review your hurts over and over again.
  12. Beat yourself up.
  13. Think about how miserable you are.

Proverbs 13:12 says,

Hope deferred makes the heart sick.

If you’re deferring hope (which is exactly what you’re doing when you engage in any of the above activities), you’re doing exactly what the Bible tells you to do to be sad. Congrats!

You CAN think yourself sad. Go for it. It will work for you.

Then when you’re sick of being sad…click on this link to read a great post:  4 Bad Mood Busters 

Or watch this video if you really want to know how to be happy. Click here:  How to be Happy When Life Bites!!

Got any other ways you use to become sad? Leave us your list by clicking “comments” at the top. Thanks for your input!


Ever Feel Like God Has Left the Building? Why You Are Never Alone.
Ever feel like God has left the building? 

Elvis may have, but God, NO! If you need a little help believing he is ALWAYS there for you, let me tell you – you will never go where God is not!

I just got back from vacationing in Daytona Beach where I played a mean game of laser tag with my two teenagers and my husband. What a blast! If you’ve never played, it goes like this… you get suited up with a vest that has 4 targets on the front and four on the back. Yes, you become the target! You also get a gun strapped to your side that yelps out a series of beeps or blasts letting you know when you have been hit or better yet, if you have succeeded in taking someone down. Your playing field is a dark room with a maze of barriers and walls to hide behind when someone tries to shoot you.

Every Man for Himself

The bullets fly through the air like red laser beams. When you’re hit, your gun shuts down for 10 seconds. Cruel, eh? It’s every man for himself as you try to hit as many people as you can. You have 9 minutes to see how many points you can rack up. The pressure is on!

So as we are playing, this 13-year-old kid comes up beside me and says, “Hey, want to join my team?” I was like, “Well, I was doing just fine on my own, but I’ll humor you!” He said, “Cool, come over here and hide behind this wall with me.” Then he introduces me to two teenage girls and says, “Ok, we’re all on the same team. DON’T hit each other! I got your back, you get mine. We good?” We all nodded our heads. “Ok, let’s go!” So here I am, letting this 13-year-old give me marching orders. But the cool thing is this – he was also trying to protect me. (Like I needed it! Ha!)

My son comes rushing at me and flings a truckload of laser bullets my way. This other kid jumps in front of me like a ninja, and takes a bullet for me! “Wow dude, thanks!” Then my husband comes around the corner and says, “Hey, you down?” I said, “Nope, got my own little bodyguard here!” The kid looks at me and says, “Is that your husband?” I said, “Yep.”  He shouted, “So, I took a bullet for you and your married?!” I’m like, “Yes! You didn’t say I couldn’t be married and be on your team!” Too Cute!

He would not leave me alone! I really wanted to lose the kid, because in laser tag it’s every man for himself so you can rack up the most points. Being that I was on a team with 3 other people meant there were 3 less people I could shoot for points. But this kid was not leaving my side!

He was like a little Jesus. He would NOT leave me alone! That joker was glued to me. Yep, this 43 year old woman. Why? I don’t know! It’s not like I needed his help. Or maybe I did and didn’t know it! Another similarity between Christ and us. Sometimes we think we can do better going it alone. He wants to be there for us.

Either way, if you have Christ, it’s NEVER every man for himself. Just won’t happen. Never, never, ever will He leave you. That’s good to know.

When God says, in Hebrews 13:5,  “I will never leave you nor forsake you,” a “double negative” is used to convey thesense of “never” possible in the Greek language. The Greek words mean, “never never” or “never ever.” And this double negative appears twice in this one statement from the Lord. It is used for both “never” and “nor.” In other words, God is saying, “I will never never leave you and I will never never forsake you!”

The Amplified Bible brings out the strength of what God really meant: I will not in any way fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support. [I will] not, [I will] not, [I will] not in any degree leave you helpless nor forsake nor let [you] down (relax My hold on you)! [Assuredly not!] —Hebrews 13:5, AMP

You cannot evaluate God’s presence in your life based on your circumstances. Never means never…He will never, never, never leave you alone.

You may be moved, removed, reassigned, enlisted, but you will never go where God is not.

Enjoy the presence of your bodyguard today, cause He’s not going anywhere without you!

Do you have a comment or a story of how God has always been at your side? Share it here in the comment section.

 

No doubt you have heard Murphy’s Law so often over the years that you believe it’s true. It goes like this:

“Nothing is as easy as it looks; everything takes longer than you expect; and if anything can go wrong, it will – at the worst possible moment.”

Now, go about your day savoring that line. Chew it up, swallow it, and know what? It will be true for you.

Thanks Murphy! Thanks for filling our heads with lies that become truth. Yes, lies, lies, lies that turn true! How does this happen? The Bible gives us a clue. It says, “As a man thinks in his heart, so he is.” What this means is whatever you are thinking about becomes true for you. So now you’re stuck, right? But only because Murphy’s Law is stuck in your head. There is a way out my friend. Let me show you how to reverse Murphy’s Law in your life.

The Week from Hell

Last week was one that could have been construed as one of Murphy’s masterpieces! I knew it was going to be a brutal workweek. Lots of extra work events on my calendar equals less time for coping with stress. I was already preparing mentally for the strain of events on my family and on me personally. But then the unexpected started piling up.

My husband’s cousin died. That was tough. We made plans to travel and spend the day with family for the funeral. We also had family fly in and stay with us. Great to see them, but because of my work schedule, I had very little time to visit with them and play hostess. (It was looking like Murphy was starting to mess with me.)

Then the dishwasher decided to catch on fire. Yep, burned two holes in the door. That was exciting! So my husband, bless his sweet heart, RIGHT at dinnertime, attempts to replace the dishwasher with a new one. Which means he’s got two dishwashers pulled out into the middle of the kitchen.

Picture this: hoses, parts, tools, and water scattered all over the floor. I’m trying to quickly make dinner around this mess for my kids, a friend my daughter brought home, and out-of-town relatives. Not to mention, this was all happening one hour before I was scheduled to speak at a youth event for 500 high-energy teenagers. Try keeping your head in the game with all that going on!

So that was Monday. I could have convinced myself Murphy was working overtime, especially when Tuesday brought its own surprise.

I jumped in the car to take my teenage kids shopping and our car started jerking like it was having convulsions. I drove it home on a wing and a prayer and got a mechanic to make a house call. I had to cancel appointments and meetings I had scheduled the next day because I had no wheels, putting me further behind in my workweek.

Mechanic comes, tinkers around, and can’t figure it out. Comes back on day two, tinkers around, and can’t figure it out. I’m wondering how many more appointments am I going to have to reschedule this week? Do you see where this could go? In my head it could go south pretty fast. It almost did – until I reversed Murphy’s Law.

How You Can Reverse Murphy’s Law:

1. Tell your brain what to think. 

Yes, you can do that! What you think about is under your control IF you decide to control it. Your choice. Take it. Decide Murphy is not out to get you. He’s dead anyway, what power has he over you? None. Decide you are not going to experience events that will take you down. To throw your thoughts in reverse: back up and look at your string of events differently.

2. Ask for Divine assistance. 

Never done this before? That’s ok. Start now. Ask God to help you out of your tough spots. He is more than willing to show you He cares. And He is more than ready to show you His stuff! He can turn your circumstances around in an instant. I know. He’s done it for me. He’s got a great track record. That’s how I know I can trust what the Bible says, “What the enemy intended for evil, God meant for good.” Murphy’s got nothing on you, or me, because God can take anything and turn it around.

Too often we believe Murphy’s Law as truth instead of believing God’s law as truth. What does Murphy know? He obviously didn’t know the scripture; “All things are possible for those who believe.” So with just that verse in mind, if you tell your mind to think you are going to escape your string of circumstances, you will. It just depends on whom you’re going to believe. God, or Murphy? You choose. Then notify your brain!

So, how do you reverse Murphy’s Law? …STOP believing Murphy’s Law!

Let’s put Murphy’s Law in Reverse: “Everything is possible if you believe; things can happen in an instant; and if something can go right, have faith that it will – at the best possible moment!”

Tell yourself to chew on that the next time life throws you a curve ball and you will reverse Murphy’s Law in your life. Murphy can’t touch you…unless you let him!

Has this worked for you? Talk to us. Leave your comments below. Thanks!

4 Bad Mood Busters

 

4 Bad Mood Busters

You’re in a bad mood? So what’s bugging you? Someone tick you off? Got a bill you can’t pay? Or did you just wake up that way today? It happens. Life sometimes stinks. If you’re looking for a lift, let me show you how to rise above a bad mood when it’s gripping you.

1. Focus on the Sweet Stuff

Yes, I said sweet, not sour. Oh, I know right now all you can taste is the sour and it’s really hard to get that taste out of your mouth. But let’s gargle a little and rinse it out. When you’ve got bad breath, you’re willing to let take a big slurp of mouthwash, right? In this case, you sip on some sweet thoughts and let it swish around in your mind and mouth.

Can’t find any mind-mouth wash? Let me get your started.

Mind-Mouth wash:

  • Who are 3 people who love you? List them.
  • What are 3 of your best accomplishments? Make note. Your building up speed here!
  • What are 3 things that you are looking forward to in the next few days? Mention them one by one. That was fun, right?

Now, if you can make a choice to think about the sweet things you just thought of instead of the sour stuff you were thinking about before – your mood will begin to change. I guarantee it.

Do you feel it? It’s happening already isn’t it? Is there a little smile beginning to form deep down on the inside if you? Oh, it’s coming. Wait for it. It will eventually make its way to your face. Let’s see what else you can do to bust that bad mood…

2. Find Your Thanks In Advance

Admit it, even smelly manure can be a good thing. It makes rockin fertilizer! Fertilize your mood as you look for the benefit behind the smelly stuff of life. This way, manure causes growth! Yeah baby!!!

What smells in your life right now? Here’s how to churn it into fertilizer:

You may not have the money today to pay your mortgage or rent, but you can be thankful that you have food in the fridge. What? There’s not much in there? I hear ya. You may not have the fridge stocked with food that floats your boat. Prime rib would really rock right now, huh? BUT, what IS in that fridge that you can be thankful for? A few eggs? Ok, thank God for those eggs. Leftovers from the night before? Ok, be thankful that meal stretched and you’re still feasting on it!

David talking to God in Psalm 16:2 says, “…All the good things I have are from you.” You get the point, no matter what is left in your fridge of life, thank God for what IS there. And if your fridge is empty, be thankful that you have a fridge and it’s ready to be filled up.

What are 3 things can you be thankful for today? Make a list.

I was driving down the road one day, and God asked me, “Are you going to wait till I give you everything you want before you praise me with everything you’ve got?” OUCH! I was withholding my thanks till I got what I wanted. Not good!

King David had it rough, but the guy praised God in advance. Psalm 13 starts out like this, “O Lord, how long will you forget me? Forever?…” but then he wakes up and smells the coffee. That chapter ends saying, “But, I trust in your unfailing love. I will rejoice because you have rescued me. I will sing to the Lord because he has been so good to me.” Now wait up! See, right there, David hadn’t been rescued yet. But David, the FUTURE king, had so much faith in the FUTURE; he speaks of it in PAST tense! Like he’s already got it! Whoa Nelly! Let’s get singing about our future! Find your thanks in advance.

3. Sing Your Thanks

When I’m in a sour mood, I find I have unknowingly shut off the “happy” music. Forgetting to hit play on my CD player grants me a sinking experience. Where to? Deeper into depths of despair. What you listen to creates an atmosphere inside you. So put some positive music in your ears because the song in your heart can bust up your bad mood. Especially if its a song speaking about the wonders and the good stuff of God. And bonus, it will eventually come out of your mouth and bust up other people’s bad moods.

I have two key people in my life who are constantly humming or singing. My best friend and my assistant do this without noticing it. I love being around the both of them. There they are just going about their business, humming in the background. And when they do, a smile goes off inside of me. My hums are off key, so when I hear theirs, it’s a welcomed treat! It lifts my spirit and brightens up my inside. Shhh, they had no idea! So sing, hum, put some tune to your thanks, it will sweeten the spot you’re in.

Here’s a great link to some incredible music that will bust up that bad mood. City of Life Worship on iTunes. Download it here:    http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/city-of-life-worship/id380856332

4. Talk Your Thanks

Finding it hard to convince yourself you have it good? Some say make a mental list. I say, speak out your list. If no one’s around, talk about your thanks to yourself. Say, I am glad I have…I am thankful for… Then graduate to talking about your thanks with others. Make it known. Talking about what you have, not what you don’t will bust up your bad mood. But talking about what you don’t have will keep you in a bad mood. I’m sure you have lots of stuff to be sad about, me too. But wake up. What you give attention to is what is in front of you. What is in front of you is what’s going to lead your mood. Push aside the sad stuff by putting the glad stuff in front. Taking your thoughts captive will get that smile creeping up out of your spirit and across your face.

When you need to bust up a bad mood, hit all four of these points and your mood will change. I absolutely guarantee it!

  1. Focus on the Sweet Stuff
  2. Find Your Thanks In Advance
  3. Sing Your Thanks
  4. Talk Your Thanks

PS, I love that your smile is making its way back to your face. Looking good!

How do you bust through a bad mood? Leave your tips below:

 

What a JERK!!! It’s not fair…being wronged, being treated unkindly. Ripped off. Ripped up. Your dignity stripped away. Yep, that’s you there getting the royal treatment from a first class jerk.

Now what? Take a deep breath. Help is on the way. I’m going to show you how to handle the jerks in your life and get your sweet revenge too!

1st Step: Measure It

Measure what they took from you. Measure?! Yes, figure out how much they stole from you. Was it your reputation? How much? Was it your spot in line? How much longer did you then have to wait? Was it money? How long will it take for you to make that amount up? Was it an idea they took credit for? How much effort will it take to come up with something new and just as brilliant? What was it? Figure out what you lost, because they OWE YOU big time!

2nd Step: Cancel It

Knowing exactly what you lost…let it go. Huh?! Yes, release it. It’s gone anyway. Now you need to accept that it is gone and it can’t be replaced. Even if they tried to make it up to you, it will never be replaced with the same exact thing. So what choice do you have? They incurred a debt with you. One they will never be able to repay. So your only option is to cancel the debt. This is called forgiveness. Yes, it’s the hardest on the list. But the most important. Forgiving gives you the freedom to move on. Don’t let the jerk keep you tied up. Let em loose! Don’t be bound; you have places to go and things to do!

3rd Step: Get Praying

Pray for the jerk. Yuck! I know, I don’t like praying for people who mess with me either. I don’t want to pray for the jerks in my life because that will help them, and heck, even bless them. Why would I want to be good to someone who messed with me? Consider this little known secret: it empowers you to make a difference in their life. You get to be their game-changer. Didn’t know you were signing up for that, did ya? You can actually be the one to jerk them out of jerk mode! Get praying.

4th Step: Give Love

Love the jerk. Excuse me?! Hard to swallow, huh? But look, there’s something in it for you. God says over and over again that if you’re really mature, you will love everyone unconditionally. Now here’s the rub – unconditionally means even when they screw you over. Having a jerk is the only way to see if you have love. You love them when they are unlovable. Yes, I know, sounds like you are getting the shaft again. But passing the love test makes you more like Christ. And looking more like Christ means you’re going to receive the blessings He’s got for you. That would involve a crown, a mansion, and tons of cool stuff here on earth. I’d say loving the jerk is worth it, wouldn’t you? Love the jerk; it does you good!

5th Step: Look Good

With your eyes, get searching for some good in the jerk. Now, it’s going to take a willingness to accept that this person has some good. And ahhhh, that’s tough. You are so focused on their ugly spot, you convince yourself there are no beauty spots. Look hard my friend. You did? Look again. The beauty is there, it just takes a willing eye. Once you find it, thank God for it. I’m sure you’re wondering, ” Are you outta your mind!?” Try it, it will put you in a better mood. There’s no way you can stay mad when you are grateful.

6th Step: Shut Up

Refuse to talk badly about them. I know you really want to rake them over the coals. And yes, it seems the whole world needs to know about their jerky side. But there is an advantage to controlling your tongue. When you speak poorly of others, subconsciously people think bad of you. Negative tongue wagging lands you in a sad category according to others. Think about it, it’s true. Let it not be you!

7th Step: Pay Back

REVENGE! Now we’re talking! But here’s what you need to know: You probably can’t do as good a job at stickin it back to them as God can, so why not let God do it? He’ll blow you away with His masterfully crafted plan to make them reap what they sow. Romans 12:19 says, “Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say,“I will take revenge; I will pay them back,”says the Lord.”

So, leave it to God, He always does a better job at pay-backs than you do, and it’s less work for you. You’ve got a guaranteed win-win here. Go get a Starbucks and prop your feet up. Let God give the hit and watch the jerk squirm, sweet deal, eh?!

There you go. You’ve learned how to handle the jerks in your life. If you pull this off, you will see that having a jerk in your life can really benefit you indeed!

Let me know if this helps. Comment below!


Why We Need to Sweat the Small Stuff If We Want the Big Stuff
How can great leaders come out of nowhere? Ready? It’s because they have been hidden, plugging away at the small things first. Let that sink in. See, you don’t usually SEE a great leader in the making because you don’t SEE them taking care of the small stuff. The stuff behind the scenes. So when they finally do emerge, it’s like, “Hey, where did this chick come from?” “Does anyone know this guy? He seems to have come out of nowhere.” That’s right. They did come out of nowhere. They were busy taking care of the small stuff when all of a sudden heaven opened a door and BAM! They came into bigger things.

Small stuff is the stuff kings are made out of

Like King David, they’ve busied themselves for decades on the backside of a pasture, tending sheep, ankle-deep in manure, swatting flies, sweat dripping off their brow, and developing yucky yellow sweat st ains under their armpits. Then something shifts. They are given a throne. Prior they had anointing, but no crown. Now they have both. It’s because they paid the price. Majoring in the menial led to the magnificent! That small stuff is the stuff of kings.

My scary, ugly thought

I had a thought that scared the snot out of me one time. I was sitting on my back porch having a talk with God. I was tired of looking over my life and unfulfilled dreams. I actually said to God, “How come I’m more faithful to you than you are to me?!”  Whoa, I couldn’t believe I actually thought that. As soon as it shot out of my thinker, I repented. How brazen a thought! For a moment I actually believed that throughout the years, all of the ways I have been faithful, were more than how much God has been faithful to me. Yikes! How dare I think such a thing? After asking God for forgiveness, I wondered where that thought came from. Was I tired? Exhausted? Had I totally lost my mind? That’s not the right one to have! I was shocked at what was going on in my head.

Sticking with small stuff leads to the bigger better stuff

After I regrouped, I rediscovered once again, that it’s really the small things that are the big things. You may have heard of the book, “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff”. Great title. But for our purposes here, we really do need to sweat the small stuff. Sweating the small stuff is a guaranteed lead to the big stuff.

How do I know? The Bible tells me so. A scripture in Matthew 25 says: “You have been faithful and trustworthy over a little; I will put you in charge of much.” Cool! If I work my butt off taking care of the things I’d rather not, I will eventually get to do what I’d rather do! (Well, right motives and good attitude do play an important part here too, so don’t leave that out.) All this to say…playing the part that no one else sees or gives a rip about is a lead-in to something greater. There are no short cuts, so quit looking for them.

God’s watching and smiling

Allow me to toss a little something to you from the book of Zachariah. It’s found in chapter 4, verse 10: “Do not despise the day of small beginnings. The Lord rejoices to see the work begin.”

This verse helps us reframe our manure filled pasture moments. It shows us that God is not only watching, but rejoicing. He’s got his eye on you, me, and all the others as we busy ourselves with the stuff of our pre-king seasons. Let’s keep it up. Our crowns are on order and they are just about ready for wear if we will stay at it long enough.

Soon someone will see you and say, “Hey, where did YOU come from?”

Have you found this to be true? Share your comment or story below.


Want to Get In Shape? Here’s How to – Just Do It!
I’ve been providing an exercise boot camp for someone who is near and dear to my heart this week. Struggling with getting into a regular exercise routine and healthy eating habits, she said, “I just need a boot camp!” At first I thought she was joking. But when she said it twice, I sprang into action. “Ok, you want a boot camp? Come stay with me for a week and I will give you a “Get Fit” boot camp! I’m no Jillian Michaels, but I bet I can help boot you into shape.”

So every morning this week, I have had her up at 4:30 a.m. for an hour work out. Along with eating healthy, we included a bonus workout in the evening, goal setting strategy sessions, and a good night’s sleep. Happy to say, she is doing great with this little kick start. I am especially proud of her. She has pushed beyond where she thought she could go!

Obviously, not everybody can come stay with me for a week. But those who have heard about it are intrigued. People ask if I have any tips that will help them get in shape. So let me offer one here and we’ll see where this goes. I might begin to blog some “getting fit” ideas regularly. So stay tuned.

I love the Nike slogan, “Just Do It!” It has become my motto. When it comes to exercise there are no excuses. If you want to get fit, exercise is no longer an option. You JUST DO IT!

My preferred workout a few years back was swimming. I used to swim every morning. Yes, EVERY morning. I swam in the rain. I swam in the hail. I swam in the cold.  I would take the plunge even when it was 20 degrees and frost covered the roof and ground. (Don’t laugh; it does get somewhat cold in Florida 😉 ) I swam even when I didn’t feel like it. Nothing stopped me. Every morning at 5am I would stand at the edge of the pool and dive in. Sometimes it would take me 20 minutes after I got out to stop shivering. It was so exhilarating and what a rush! My daughter asked me one time, “Mom, how do you do it?” My answer was: I just don’t think about it! If you think about how cold it’s going to be, you won’t do it. So don’t think, don’t debate, just jump in. In other words…JUST DO IT!

I have decided that exercise is not an option, that’s how I “Just Do It”. Do you see exercise as optional? If so, you might be having trouble getting up early in the mornings to work out. Put a plan in place. Before you go to bed put out your exercise clothes and decide what kind of workout you are going to do in the morning. Then when the alarm goes off you won’t be lying in bed wasting time debating what you are going to do. If you’re working out at night, make sure you don’t let the evening get away from you. Just Do It! Even if it’s hard getting started, you will always feel better after you are done.

So if YOU want to get fit, remember:

  • Exercise is NOT an option
  • Put a plan in place
  • Just Do It!

Paul says in I Corinthians 9:26 (The Message): “I don’t know about you, but I’m running hard for the finish line. I’m giving it everything I’ve got. No sloppy living for me! I’m staying alert and in top condition…” Here’s a guy who too, lived by the motto: JUST DO IT! You can too!


Are You Weird in a Good Way?
As a kid, I thought I was kind of uncool. Looking at the people around me I thought, “I am just not normal!” Since then I’ve learned that just about everyone on the planet has felt that way too. Glad I’m not alone! Yeah, you too? 🙂 Little secret…I still think I’m weird. But weird in a good way. I walk differently, I talk differently, and I do life differently from most people. But that’s ok. I put honey in my coffee, I hate watching TV, I prefer listening over talking, and I wake up at 4:30 in the morning by choice. I was in a store not long ago and the clerk looked at me and said, “Lady, you’ve got crazy hair!” I didn’t know whether to thank him or slap him! Yep, I’ve got weird hair, go figure. I will say though, that one of the greatest moments of my life was the day I realized, “I am different and it’s a good thing!” I’m weird – but weird in a good way!

One time I took my kids and my cousin, ages then ranging from age from 7 to 14, on a little adventure. We were making waffles late at night and we needed more syrup. We were all dressed comfy in our pajamas and none of us felt like changing so I had this crazy idea – let’s just go to Super Target in our pajamas and bedroom slippers! They were shocked but grinning from ear to ear screaming, “really?!” So there we were going down the isles at Target singing, “It’s Pajama Day at Targét!” How whacked is that? Yes, we got some looks and overheard some comments like, “Can you believe THAT Mom?” “Do they always go out in public in their nightwear?” Guess what? I didn’t give a flip. We were having a blast! It’s a moment my kids and younger cousin will always remember! It was worth every smirk and smart remark!

In my world, there’s “weird”, and then there’s “weird in a good way”. There’s even weird in a God sort of way…so how does one get there? How about by realizing that what you’ve got ought to be so unique and different that you stand out. Cause it’s just you. You being odd, but odd in a good way. I think we shy away from being oddly ourselves when we begin to compare.

Comparing is when we place someone beside someone else for the purpose of emphasizing the differences or showing the likenesses. We tend to compare ourselves with others and we tend to compare others with others. What for? When we compare ourselves with others, one of two things happen: 1) we get smug and a false sense of worth from estimating that our strengths outweigh theirs or 2) we feel insecure and unequal because we think they have what we don’t. Then we mistakenly think they are better than us. What a lie. We think we don’t measure up.

Why not come to total acceptance of who we are? Accept ourselves, people, places, and things EXACTLY as they are? That would be maturity. And how about this – accepting people’s differences and uniqueness-es as enthusiastically as God forgives our wrongs. When love flows, acceptance grows. Then they can be weird, we can be weird, and then weird is OK.


It Doesn’t Matter How Deep the Water is if You Know How to Swim
Do you remember your first time experiencing the deep end of the pool? Yeah, this is where your feet don’t touch and if you’re not an experienced swimmer, you might think, “Whoa, I’m in over my head here.”

I taught my daughter, Tiffany, when she was just 3-years-old to swim in the deep end of the pool.  I told her that if she could swim in the shallow end without her feet touching she could also swim in the deep end. There’s no difference.

Can you swim in a 6-8 foot swimming pool? Just wondering, because, if I took you to the middle of the ocean and dropped you in depths of a few hundred feet – I betcha you could still swim! There’s no difference. It doesn’t matter how deep the water is – if you know how to swim.

Is it scarier out there? Yes. Darker? Yes. But, it doesn’t matter how deep the water is if you know how to swim.

Maybe you are going through some deep issues in life.  Tough stuff, bigger than you’ve ever gone through before. As you read this you might have this overwhelming sinking feeling that you are in way too deep. Be encouraged and remember: It doesn’t matter how deep the water is if you know how to swim.

There’s a cool scripture in Isaiah 43:2 (NLT) that goes like this:

“When you go through deep waters, I will be with you.  When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown.”

I’ve heard people say, “I don’t know if I could ever handle the death of one of my children or being diagnosed with an incurable disease or walking into the house to find my spouse hanging from a noose.  I don’t think I could handle…this or that. Yes, you could handle it, because it doesn’t matter how deep the water is if you know how to swim.

A child stood in front of his classroom to make a speech entitled, “What I want to be when I grow up.” He said, “I’m going to be a lion tamer in the circus.  I will have lots of fierce lions. I will walk into the cage and they will roar! I will use the whip to control them.” He paused for a moment, thinking through what he had just said.  And then added, “But of course, I’ll have my daddy with me!”

That’s the key. You CAN swim IF your heavenly Father is with you. Just reach out. Haven’t done that in a while? Forgotten how? Little timid? Go ahead, ask for his help.

The Lord says, “I will rescue those who love me. I will protect those who trust in my name. When they call on me, I will answer: I will be with them in trouble. I will rescue and honor them. I will reward them with a long life and give them my salvation.” Psalm 91:14-16. (NLT)

You’ll find he’s right there in the deep end with ya. Don’t let the depth of the water scare you. You can handle a lot more than you think you can. It doesn’t matter how deep the water is if you know how to swim.