Why Balance Is a Myth, Here’s How to Really Keep All Your Plates Spinning
Are you still trying to spin all the plates you have in the air? How many have you dropped? If you think having balance in your life is the key, you’ll never get it all done and you’ll continue to be stressed.
But, there is a better way!
Let me show you why trying to achieve balance is the exact opposite of high performance and what you can do instead, so you can crush your to-do list and play at a higher level.
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Yikes! Are you teaching the wrong things to the wrong people for the wrong purpose?
You have people on your team who have much potential, right?
But are you teaching them the right things so they are equipped to scale the leadership mountain?
If you are, they can be doing more for your company, business, or organization.
Sweet. Cause that also means… Cha-ching!!!
As you may know, I spend a lot of my time with leaders, c-suite executives, and middle leadership. I also train team members considered to be high “potentials” so they can evolve into rock-star leaders that move the company or business to new heights.
Last week I spent time on the phone coaching a couple of executives. They needed help equipping and developing their team members. But they were beating their heads against the wall.
This task of equipping can be extremely difficult — these exec’s don’t have a minute of free time to spare or even an ounce of brain power to create a program that would train their potential leaders and team members. You too?
If you find yourself in the same spot – trying to create something that will increase the skill capacity of your team and leaders, these questions below will help you so you’re not teaching the wrong things to the wrong people for the wrong purpose.
First off, know this – equipping is similar to training. But “equipping” more accurately describes the process you’ll want to take your potential leaders through.
Training is usually focused on specific job tasks; for instance, you train a person to use a copy machine or to answer a phone in a particular way. Training is only a part of the equipping process that prepares a person for leadership.
Let’s Go Climb a Mountain
When I think of equipping a potential leader, I think of preparing an unskilled person to scale a tall mountain peak. His and her preparation is a process.
- They need to be fitted with equipment (like cold-weather clothing, ropes, picks, and spikes.)
- They also need to be trained how to use that equipment.
A mountain climber’s preparation, though, involves much more than simply having the correct equipment and knowing how to use it, they must be:
- Conditioned physically to prepare him and her for the difficult climb.
- He and she must be trained to be a part of a team.
Most importantly: He and she must be taught to THINK like a mountain climber….a.k.a…leader.
They need to be able to look at a peak and see how it is to be conquered. Without going through the complete equipping process, they not only won’t make it to the top of the mountain, but they also might find themselves stranded on the rise of the mountain, freezing to death.
Don’t let your people freeze to death!
How do you stop that from happening? Consider this…
The ideal equipper is a person who can:
- Impart the vision of the work.
- Evaluate the potential leader.
- Give him the tools he needs.
- Help him along the way starting at the beginning of the journey and see him through to the top.
So, as I begin this process with analysis of organizations and businesses I work with, I ask 3 sets of questions. I’ll share one set with you here.
Use these questions yourself to analyze your business, company, or team:
- What is the statement of purpose for your organization? – Don’t even consider performing equipping or training that does not contribute to the fulfillment of the organization’s purpose. That would be death to the climber.
- What is the primary need of your organization? – Define that need as specifically as possible and start there.
- Is there a training program in place to meet that need? – If there isn’t one, you know where to start. If there is, then determine if it needs to be improved.
- What areas within your organization have the greatest growth potential? – When you equip you need to play to your strengths, and bring someone else in who can equip in the area of your weaknesses.
- Do those potential growth areas have the needed leaders to accomplish the task? – Without leaders ready to make things happen, the area of growth potential will never move from “potential” to reality.
If the leaders don’t already exist, they will have to be equipped and developed.
Geez!!! How are you going to make that happen? You need a plan. Take some time to think it through. I know you may not have the time to create something. And you probably don’t have the mental energy because of all that’s on your plate. That’s where bringing in a leadership and development specialist can help.
And guess what? I’d be glad to help you and your team of leaders and high potentials climb that mountain so you can all do more, make more, and be remembered for more. Besides, you already know me and have received value from my weekly posts, right? Hopefully, you trust me too, yes?
All you need to do is click here and put “equip” in the subject line. And if it helps, you can forward this post to your leader or CEO. They can click on this link which explains how I can help your team members scale that peak.
Of course, if you’re good to go it on your own, ask those questions above, write down your answers, and take the time to think through how you can put an equipping process in place for your team.
Go get your climbers ready,
Dr. Linda Travelute
What can you do to help during a tragedy, after a shooting, or act of terror? As our nation feels the pain again of senseless shootings and precious lives lost – it’s easy to feel like there’s nothing you can do. Oh, but I challenge you to think again! Let me show you how you can make a difference and we can use this crisis as an opportunity to bring help and hope.
“The first and last task of a leader is to keep hope alive–the hope that we can finally find our way through to a better world–despite the day’s action, despite our own intertness and shallowness and wavering resolve.” -John W. Gardner, former secretary of health, education, and welfare.
Hope is the foundation of change. If we continue to hold hope high, and we help others do the same, there is always a chance to move forward and succeed.
In times of tragedy and crisis, know this:
1. Crisis holds the opportunity to be reborn.
2. Difficult times can discipline us to become stronger.
3. Conflict can actually renew our chances of building better relationships.
It’s not always easy to remember these things. As leaders, our job is to remind people of the possibilities and to help them succeed.
Get out there and spread hope. Take the lead. Be the change and make our world a better place. This crisis can and will be an opportunity for us to be reborn. But only if we take it.
-Dr. Linda Travelute
Leadership & Personal Growth Doctor
Of The John Maxwell Team
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Edward Roy had a problem. Let me tell you his story so you can figure out what works when crap hits the fan, then find a solution to your problem. This will help you focus your attention on what you must do, what you ought to do, and what you really need to do to solve your problem…without losing your mind.
Warning: Don’t read this wile you’re eating… You’re welcome.
Edward Roy had problems with poop. He ran a lowly business —Jiff Johns of Pompano Beach, Florida. He had 500 portable toilets for rent. Band concerts, construction sites, church picnics, outdoor gatherings of any size could rent his pottys. But that wasn’t Ed’s problem.
When he started his business in 1982, lots of people in Florida needed a place to be alone when they were caught out in the open. Rentals were up. That was good and bad.
Now he had to figure out what to do with all the sewage…that was the problem.
Many an entrepreneur would have thrown his fists up in the air in exasperation and spent half his profit to have somebody haul off his product’s product. Not Ed. There had to be a better way.
In his search for a solution, he found a solar-heating process that turned sewage in to fertilizer. Then came a masterstroke of marketing. Instead of trying to sell technology directly to local Florida communities, his company expanded and began to operate three $3 million fertilizer plants itself.
With this new arrangement, the company would treat sewage for a fee and convert it into fertilizer, which was, in turn, sold for big hunk of profit. Roy literally turned his problem into a profit.
Gross eh? Not if you consider how Edward Roy turned the stench of his poop problem into a mountain of sweet smelling cash!
Life is difficult. Problems will plague you. But what if you refuse to let all that stuff get the best of you and churn your problem into your advantage like Roy did?
Here are 2 Questions will help you focus your attention on what you must do, what you ought to do, and what you really need to do to solve your problem:
1. Stop Thinking, “Can I?” and Start Thinking, “How Can I?”
At first glance, the questions Can I? and How can I? may appear to be very similar. But the reality is that they are worlds apart in terms of results.
Can I? is a question filled with hesitation and doubt. It’s a question that imposes limitations. If that is the question you regularly ask yourself, you’re undermining your efforts before you even begin. Stop!
How many people could have accomplished much in life but failed to try because they doubted and answered no to the question “Can I?”
When you ask yourself “How can I?” you give yourself a fighting chance to achieve something. The most common reason people don’t overcome the odds is that they don’t challenge themselves enough. They don’t test their limits. They don’t push their capacity enough. How can I? assumes there is a way. You just need to find it.
2. Stop Thinking One Door and Start Thinking many Doors
When it comes to growth, you don’t want to stake your future on one “door.” It may not open! It’s much better to consider many possibilities and look for multiple answers to all of your questions. Think in terms of options.
I made the mistake of thinking I would always speak and train people exclusively in the faith-based community. After serving as a pastor for over 23 years, I wanted to speak at churches and ministry conferences for the rest of my life. But my thinking was all wrong. My thinking was too small. Way too small.
When I stopped thinking one door and started thinking many doors, I found that there were many many more options available for me to add value to others by speaking and teaching all over the globe. By expanding my focus, I now not only speak at faith events and church venues, but too, I spend a lot of my time speaking, training, and coaching people in the business community focusing on leadership and personal growth. And I’m loving it!
As I have learned to think many doors and explore options, here is what I have learned that will help you too:
– There is more than one way to do something successfully.
– The odds of arriving anywhere increase with creativity and adaptability.
– Movement with intentionality creates possibilities.
– Failures and setbacks can be great tools for learning.
– Success is a result of continued action filled with continual adjustments.
The greatest challenge you will ever face is that of expanding your mind. But here’s the good news: If you can change your thinking, you can change your life. And yep, you can turn your poop problem into profits.
Oliver Wendell Holmes remarked, “Man’s mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its original dimensions.” If you want to churn your problems into solutions, ask yourself some different questions.
Name a problem you have______________________________.
Ask: How can I?
Then ask: What are my options?
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Are you in pain? Whether you’re dealing with physical pain, emotional trauma, or the pain of disappointment, watch this short video and you’ll get 4 instant solutions you can use right away so you can be happy even when you’re in pain.
I’ll share how I broke through the excruciating pain I was in this week and what I did to get myself in a better mood. It will work for you too. Watch below.
Fail like a boss! That’s what we’re going to do today so you can get the most out of your failure. If you’ve messed up and screwed up royally, know you’re not alone. Consider the failures of other people just like you…
Ever heard of the guy who wanted to irrigate deserts of the world by sending a constant supply of snowballs from the polar region through a massive network of giant peashooters?
You’re smiling. You’re also thinking, “she’s making this up.”
It’s all documented in a book I’m reading called The Book of Failures, by Stephen Pile. It’s got unbelievable stuff in it. I’m putting together a presentation for Chick-Fil-A leaders on failure and I’m using some of these stories to show that everyone – yes – everyone – FAILS.
In fact, you have to experience failure in order to have success.
Think about some of your big flops for a moment.
Do they still sting?
Take comfort in knowing other people have failed bigger than you…
Just for kicks, look at this stupendous fail:
Back in 1978 a fireman’s strike in England made possible one of the greatest animal rescue attempts of all time. The British Army had taken over emergency firefighting. One day, January 14th – if you care to know, they were called out by an elderly lady in South London to retrieve her cat.
They arrived with impressive speed, and very cleverly and carefully rescued the cat and started to drive away. But the lady was so grateful she invited the squad of heroes in for tea. Driving away later, waving goodbye, they ran over the cat and killed it.
OMGosh! Sorry —I can’t help but laugh. They killed it!
Obviously, no one goes out of the way to have bad experiences. But the truth is, the negative experiences we have can do us some good, if we are willing to let them.
The next time you have a bad experience, allow it to help you do the following:
1. Accept your humanness. No matter how good you are at something, you will mess up at times. So when you do, give yourself some grace.
2. Learn to laugh at yourself and life. Does humor fix everything in life? No, but it will make it more tolerable. Laughter is like changing a baby’s diaper —it doesn’t permanently solve any problems, but it makes things more acceptable for a while.
3. Keep the right perspective. Denis Waitley says, “Mistakes are painful when they happen, but years later a collection of mistakes is what is called experience.” When you’re little, the waves look massive, and you fear that they may overwhelm you. As an adult, the same size waves may be seen as a source of relaxation and fun. Fight for the right perspective.
4. Don’t base your self-worth on a bad experience. You are not your performance. Read that again! And you don’t have to be defined by your worst moments. So don’t base your self-image on those things. Don’t ever tell yourself, “I am a failure.” Instead, say to yourself: I may have missed that one, but I’m still okay. I can still be a winner.”
5. Don’t feel sorry for yourself. One of the worst things you can to is start feeling sorry for yourself. Ok, if you have a bad experience, you can feel sorry for yourself for twenty-four hours, but then after that, pic yourself up and get moving again. Because if you start to wallow you just might get stuck.
I love how the Bible encourages us to “number our days.” (Psalm 90:12). The verse goes on to promise that when we do that we get wiser. I take this to mean we gain wisdom when we look at the bigger picture.
Have you failed recently? Almost to the point of distraction? Number your days. Get a little perspective. Realize that it won’t be long before you will look back on that up-tight, high-powered, super-charged issue with a whole new outlook.
You may laugh out loud in the future at something you’re eating your heart out over today.
If something blows up in your face today, after the smoke clears, try smiling instead of crying.
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Are you lonely at the top?
Oh man, if I had a Starbucks gift card for every time I’ve heard someone say that…I’d be in coffee heaven!
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