How Just One Minute in the Word Can Make a Huge Difference in Your Day

You may not always have gobs and gobs of time to read the Bible every day. But let me share how even just one little minute reading your Bible can make a big difference in your day.

Consider the Illinois man who left the snow-filled streets of Chicago for a vacation in Florida. His wife was on a business trip and was planning to meet him there the next day. When he reached his hotel, he decided to send his wife a quick e-mail.

Unable to find the scrap of paper on which he had written her e-mail address, he did his best to type it in from memory. Unfortunately, he missed one letter and his note was directed instead to an elderly preacher’s wife, whose husband had passed away only the day before.

When the grieving widow checked her email, she took one look at the monitor, let out a piercing scream, and fell to the floor in a dead faint. Hearing the scream, her family rushed into the room and saw this note on the computer screen:

Dearest wife,

Just checked in. Everything is prepared for your arrival tomorrow.

P.S. Sure is hot down here!

The absence of just one little thing can make a big difference, can’t it?! So can the addition of one little thing. My friend was telling me how she didn’t have much time the other morning to read her Bible. She only had a minute. So she took one minute in the Word. That’s all it took. That one little minute set her day up – the right way.

She shared how one tiny bite of the Word is like a tiny bite of food. Think about it, even just a small bite of food contributes to our well-being. It nourishes. It tastes good. It delivers vitamins to our body. The same happens with just one bite of scripture.

God’s Word is so powerful that even just one tiny bite has value. It’s nutrition-packed! So the next time you’re tempted to beat yourself up because you don’t have time to read a whole section or a whole chapter in your Bible. Don’t! Just take a bite.

That one little bite can encourage you, lift you up, set you up, and keep you going. Just one word. Sometimes that’s all it takes.

Here are a few ideas on how to sneak in a bite of the Word:

  • If you have one minute to spare before you get to work, grab your smart phone
    and grab a bite. (YouVersion Bible app is my favorite Smartphone app.)

  • Got a pocket Bible? Stash it in your purse, briefcase, or backpack before you head out the door.
    Then you will be prepared to take advantage of a break in your day when you can munch on the Word.

  • Have a few minutes while your waiting in line picking the kids up? Grab a bite.
  • Waiting on your next appointment, your doctor, or in line at the grocery store? Grab a bite.
  • Standing over the stove cooking dinner? Grab a bite before you grab a bite!
  • If all else fails, and you’ve found yourself at the end of the day ready to plop into bed and you
    still haven’t had a bite of scripture that day…take just 60 seconds and grab a bite!

    One bite is better than no bite at all. Even just one tiny bite of the Bible will do your body good!

    Anywhere. Anytime. Grab a bite of scripture.

    Bon Appétit!

    How has just one tiny bite of your Bible make a difference in your day? What are some ways you can come up with to sneak in a bite of scripture?  Let us know in the comment section!

    (Story credit: LOL Text: Daily Funny Texts and Jokes, Appstore. Image of food: Google Images)


One Thing That May Make Your Reward Instantly Vanish Before Your Eyes!

You give and you’re promised a reward, right? Not so fast! A reward is something you can opt-out of and not even know it. Listen to how it can unfold so you don’t do the same…

A rush of emotions poured over me. I saw a person make a huge donation to an organization that’s feeding hungry children and orphans all over the world.

I was blown away! Ecstatic might be a good word too. I was excited about how his gift was going to impact these kids. And too, I was excited for this individual knowing that a truck load of rewards were going to be dumped into his lap.

But then I gasped!

I wanted to run up to him and say, “STOP! Stop speaking. You’re blowing it!”

Blowing what?

His reward.

He just let it fly out the window. Because his mouth revealed what he gave.

Bummer.

Really big bummer.

Because this was a really BIG gift!

The Real Reason Behind the Giving

At first I thought, this is really cool that he has learned the joy of unbridled giving. But then when he opened his mouth and began to tell people what he had done it became very apparent why he had given. It was to be seen. It was to feed his ego. It was to inflate his self-esteem.

And guess what? He may have gained those things. But he lost the reward that would have come from above. What a thought, the mother-load sacrificed for a tiny slice of “Good job!” Those momentary feelings he received, the at-a-boy pat on his back…that’s it! That’s all he gets for his generosity. Sad. Because God had arranged more.

This is what the Bible says about it in Matthew 6:1-4 (NLT):

Watch out! Don’t do your good deeds publicly, to be admired by others, for you will lose the reward from your Father in heaven. When you give to someone in need, don’t do as the hypocrites do—blowing trumpets in the synagogues and streets to call attention to their acts of charity! I tell you the truth; they have received all the reward they will ever get. But when you give to someone in need, don’t let your left hand know what your right hand is doing. Give your gifts in private, and your Father, who sees everything, will reward you.”

The Acid Giving Test:

If you can pull it off in secret, most likely your motives for giving are good. But if you’re doing it to be seen – that’s not good.

If you want credit for it here, you’ll sacrifice credit for it there. Where? Heaven, where the rewards are much weightier.

Here’s what you can do to check yourself the next time you feel like giving:

• Are you giving to someone else so you can give to yourself (via self-esteem, accolades, recognition, etc.) If so, then you’re not giving to God.

• Have you ever talked about the money you gave away?

• Do you tell others about your good deeds?

• Have you ever Tweeted or Facebooked your status after helping someone out?

If so, enjoy. Cause that’s all the reward you’re gonna get. Bask in it while it lasts. Or, you can wait for the praise from God and have it forever!

How much of a reward do you want? Do you want a little here? Or do you want it forever there? Shut your trap so it doesn’t shut down your reward!

Be a top-secret giver and enjoy the rewards forever.

 
Prayer Booster: “God I want to give with a pure  heart and for the right reasons. The next time I give, let my motive be to bless others – not myself. Help me to squash the desire to make it in anyway about me. I choose to wait for my reward and to give with no strings attached. Amen.”

What say you? Have you ever lost your reward? How would the redo look if it were possible? How will you give next time? Leave your thoughts in the comment section. 


If You’re On the Verge of Giving Up On One of Your Prayers, Hang On and Read This…

Do you have a prayer that’s still in “wait mode”? Oh, me too!

I love the story in Luke 18:1 about the persistent widow. She pretty much said, “Jesus, I’m not leaving you alone until you give in!” She did not let up until he healed her. That takes guts, that takes boldness, and that takes determination.

And guess what? Jesus rewards that kind of gumption.

If you and I could develop that kind of persistence, we’d get a lot more prayers answered.

I’ve been guilty a time or two of giving up when I didn’t see God answer my prayer. You too?

But here’s the deal.

During the waiting, we need to keep praying.

Had the persistent widow quit being persistent, she wouldn’t have recieved what she had been asking for. Keep asking and you’ll eventually get an answer. Quit and you will never get an answer.

So I want to encourage you…

Don’t give up until God answers.

He may say yes.

He may say no.

He may say wait.

During the waiting, keep praying.

How do you deal with prayers that are still in wait mode? Share with us, the comment section is waiting for you!


The Secret Cure for Disappointment
Disappointed.

You’re ticked aren’t ya?

I don’t blame you.

You had it all figured out.

You thought it would be better than this.

This stinks. It’s ok that you are mad. I’d be mad too.

Let me show you how you can keep disappointment from ever touching you again.

That’s a bold statement, huh?

Try me. This works.

You can have your money back if it doesn’t.

Oh, wait, you’re getting this advice for free. Good, then you have nothing to lose. Come with me for a minute. Let’s discuss the CURE for disappointment. It will be well worth your time.

Ready to Eat?

Imagine I invite you over for dinner. I seat you at my table decked out in the finest my dish closet has to offer. I place a napkin in your lap and explain that you are about to enjoy a delicious seven-course meal. Backwards.

That’s right. We start with dessert. From there we make our way backwards toward the main course, salad, hors d’oeuvres, and everything in-between.

Dessert first! Cool! But by the time you get to the main course you are so full you can’t enjoy the caviar. So you’re a little miffed. And you’re disappointed with my way of doing things.

This didn’t go the way you thought it would. It started out ok. It sure looked like fine dining according to plan. But hey, things got out of order. And looking at it in reverse, with an upset stomach, leaves you an unhappy camper. And an unhappy diner. Hold on, I’ll get you some Rolaids.

Here’s another scenario.

The man or woman of your dreams sent your heart a pitter-pattering. First came courtship. Marriage. And oh, count ‘em, three baby carriages.

Years later your heart takes a dip. It plunges to the lowest place on earth. The spouse of your dreams morphs into the spouse you hate. It started with the affair. You were cheated on, not once, but twice. No way! You didn’t sign up for that. Your soul mate ripped your soul out and your heart is in shreds.

Disappointed. No one can imagine. This is not the marriage you had in mind. You’re irate. You’ve been rejected. The pain is like an avalanche that snows you under.

Let’s go back to the table.

Remember, you’re the guest at MY table. What I say goes. We do the meal as I have designed, not how you have imagined.

Let me ask, “What other table do you belly up to?” Did I hear you say, “God’s?” You eat from His table? Here’s the difference between my table, your table, and God’s table.

If you’re the guest at your own table, you can do the meal as you please. But here’s the rub. When you’re sitting at God’s table, He’s boss. And guess what? You’re not excused until the meal is over. You have to eat whatever God puts in front of you. Even if you don’t think you can stomach it. Even if the meal is too long. You have no choice. God’s the chief cook and bottle washer here.

So what do you do to ensure disappointment isn’t the feast at your table? Here’s what you’ve been waiting for, the cure for disappointment:

Revamp your expectations!

Sometimes we expect unrealistic things. Things that were never in the plan for us.

How do you know if your expectation is unrealistic? Answer: If it doesn’t become real.

Now, I’m not saying you need to throw away the promises of God. Not at all. God will make good on His
promises. But sometimes we get what God promises mixed up with what we want God to promise us.

So then, we need to revamp our expectations. If we adjust our expectations, we will save ourselves disappointment. It’s that simple. Not easy. But it will save you heartache.

How do you revamp your expectations?

Shoot for something lower? No, just be open to things not going according to how you planned.

So how do you revamp your expectations and still have faith?

Expect the best. Hope for the best. FAITH for the best.

But know sometimes you will be shortchanged in your eyes. Only because you don’t always know what’s best. Therefore, we expect what we think is best, not what God thinks is best. Only God knows, and He doesn’t always tell. Sometimes God serves hors d’oeuvres and the salad last.

And wouldn’t it be easier to trust that if God starts out with dessert, it would be a good thing? Whatever whacked way He does things is gonna be to your benefit.

How do I know? Because “The Lord will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right.” (Psalm 84:11b NLT)

God is not holding out on you.

Even if the order is messed up.

Even if what He puts on your plate tastes crappy.

Even if He serves up something you don’t like.

God is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him (Hebrews 11:6 NLT). Seek Him, and you will be feasting on the exact course for your life at the right time, even if you don’t realize it at that moment.

Even if you’re confused about the dish that’s in front of you, you can feast on what you didn’t expect without being disappointed.

How? Because you have revamped your expectations. Which means you will no longer be disappointed.

That’s it. You’re cured.

You’ll be ok. God said so.

Give me your feedback. Let’s talk about this. Leave your comments in the reply section. Talk to you soon!


Why God Hates it When You Trash Talk YOURSELF
Imagine this…You forget to unplug the iron, it falls and burns a big ol’ hole in your ironing board cover. Rats! Thank God, it didn’t catch the house on fire. Still, you feel like an loser.

Or get this, You’re late and your whipping in and out of traffic like Jeff Gordon. All of the sudden your car slows down and it’s not because you let your foot off the accelerator. It’s because your gas tank has gone bone dry. You forgot to get gas this morning. Grrrrrr!….You think, “I’m such a dork!”

Or you bounce a check…again. In fact, it’s the third check you’ve bounced this month. Not intentional. Just happened. You were juggling things – trying to make it all work. Fail. Fail. Fail. What slips out of your mouth? I’m such a failure!

When you goof up, what’s the first thought that races through your mind?

I am so stupid!

Really?

Is that the best you can come up with?

Or try this on for size…

“Gosh, I just can’t get it right.”

“I am so forgetful.”

“I’m an irresponsible dim whit.”

“I’m such a goof!”

“Nice job, bozo!”

“I’m such a fool, will I ever learn?”

“I will never get ahead!”

Ouch. Ouch. Ouch.

Wonder how God stomachs all of our insane, self-inflicting comments when we start letting them roll.

Right now, I’m picturing God sitting on His throne, listening to someone tear you, someone He loves, into shreds. Doesn’t matter that the same person who’s spouting off the name-calling is also the recipient. When you start getting down on yourself, you’re hurting someone God loves.

And that’s wrong. Stop.

Know what? God would never call you names. Regardless of your mistakes! And God would never ask you to do anything He doesn’t do himself. If He asks us to think about the good in other people, then He’s thinking about the good things in us too.

Let’s take it a step further. God asks you to think Philippians 4:8 about yourself.

And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Phil 4:8 (NLT)

What about you is true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, and admirable?

Think on that! But don’t just think on that, FIX your thoughts on that. In other words, those thoughts about the good in you should consume the majority of your thoughts. When you “fix” something in your mind, your thoughts don’t move. They stay. They stay on the good.

Rather than trash yourself, treasure yourself.

Cause you are good stuff to think about and you’re good stuff talk about.

Let me know if this post has connected with you. Tell me about your struggle and your success in the area of talking about yourself. Pop your thoughts into the comment section! 


How You Can Make Smarter Decisions Based on My Decision About Getting a Nose Ring
Just for kicks, I asked my teenage kids what they thought of me getting a nose ring. I’m not talking a hoop or anything like that protruding from my nose in an awkward fashion. Just a tiny diamond stud. You know, something tiny yet with a bit of dazzle.

 

My daughter was the first to speak up. She’s 14 but declares she is the Ann Landers of her generation. She said very sweetly, “Mom, I don’t want to hurt your feelings but you are too old for a nose ring. You have too many wrinkles.” Ouch. Not so sure why she equates wrinkles with non-nose ring wear, but ok! I took her thoughts to heart. Then I decided to get the opinions of a few others. 56 others to be exact.

Yes, within 2 hours, 56 people had responded to my Facebook post.

This is what I put out there:

“My daughter says that being 43 automatically disqualifies me from getting a nose ring! Your thoughts?”

Oh my! The responses ranged from, “Yes, “go for it!” to, “You’re too cool or beautiful and that would ruin you!”

Ruin me?! Really?!

Here’s the decision I made and why it can help you when you are up against making the right decision verses the wrong one.

1. Help People Trust You

First impressions shouldn’t really matter, but they do. So in an age where people look on outward appearance instead of the heart, we have to help them trust us. That may mean foregoing a freedom or fashion statement in order to win their confidence and trust. That’s not how it should be. But that’s how it is. I’m not saying it’s right or fair. But that’s reality. People judge based on appearance.

My rule has always been this:

Form a light-first impression based on the outward, but always be prepared to change your view of someone based on what you learn about them. The more interaction you have with someone, the more you get to know him or her. First impressions can be right, but they can also be very very wrong. Sometimes it takes years to really know someone.

Unfortunately, not everyone plays by my rules. So here’s what else I recommend:

2. Remember Who You Are And What That Stands For

I am a pastor and I take my role as a pastor very seriously. I am also a professional counselor. I don’t know many PhD’s with nose rings. (Maybe I just haven’t met the right ones yet!) But my thought is this; if I had to connect with an ultra conservative group, or mingle in a professional one, would the nose ring keep me from being heard? Or would people discount what I have to offer because of that stud in my nose? Sadly, yes.

Yes, it’s ok for me to get a nose ring. But it’s even better not to right now so that nothing stands in the way of touching someone’s life. I want to be more thoughtful. In your realm or arena, it might be perfectly acceptable for you to done a nose ring. If so, I’m glad you get to have one. For me, right now, it’s probably not the best idea.

I have decided to give up freedoms that I rightfully have in order to connect with and be accepted by others. If having a nose ring would in any way keep me from being a blessing to others because they may not be able to get past the jewelry in my nose, then I will give up my right to have a nose ring.

I don’t want my freedom to cause anyone to stumble. And how would they stumble? By not accepting me based on my outward appearance. (Romans 14 has some darn good stuff about this. Check it out.)

So, at this point in my life, no nose ring! Maybe when nose rings become more accepted, just like women wearing pants has become more accepted since the 1940’s, I might just go for it! But not until I know it won’t keep others from connecting with me. Their bad, I know! But my heart to serve them overrides their bad in making an unfair judgment. 

What rights are you willing to give up in order to reach more people? I’m thinking that’s more important. Call me crazy? Chime in. I’d love to hear what you think in the comment section.


Two Things That Could Keep You From Praying
Over the years I’ve heard people describe desert-like experiences with God. They go on explaining their state by saying they, “Just can’t pray.” Well, what’s that all about? It means something is blocking them from connecting with God. Secretly they might even blame God for the disconnect. He’s the problem, right? He doesn’t want to hear their prayers.

Maybe that’s you too. Are you feeling like He’s…um, out to lunch? Or maybe hitting up Starbucks and He’d rather catch up with you later? Your prayers are getting hijacked. Something is blocking heaven, right? No, wait up. That something blocking your prayers is you!

It’s not God who doesn’t want to talk, it’s you, who doesn’t want to talk with God.

I’ve come to realize that when someone says they can’t pray, it really means they WON’T pray.

God says His ears are open to the prayers of the righteous. His ears are attentive to their cries. So don’t go telling me God’s the problem. Read it for yourself in 1 Peter 3:12.

We can audaciously and boldly get in His face. In Hebrews 4:16, the Bible says, “come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.”

So what’s the REAL reason you can’t pray?

1. Maybe You Don’t Feel Worthy

If that’s true for you, then get worthy!

All it takes is telling God how sorry you are for the things that aren’t right in your life and you’re on your way.

Acts 3:19 says, “Now it’s time to change your ways! Turn to face God so he can wipe away your sins, pour out showers of blessing to refresh you, and send you the Messiah he prepared for you, namely, Jesus.” (From the Message)

Ask for forgiveness. What are you waiting for? The ball’s in your court. Spill it and soon you’ll be in God’s court.

2. Maybe You Don’t Believe

Ahh, now that’s a problem, isn’t it? Why would you ask God for anything if you don’t believe? You won’t! So, let’s fix that. This is nothing earth shattering here, but just ask God to help you believe.

I love the story in the Bible where the guy says to Jesus, “I do believe, but help me to believe more” Huh?! He believed but apparently it wasn’t enough. Been there. Done that. What I did: I asked for more belief. Guess what? God delivered. He backed up a truckload of belief into my yard and started dumping. Little by little I believed more and more. Eventually I was waist deep in belief.

Do you need more belief? Ask God for it. No shame in that. And when you do, you too, will be ready for a face to face with God.

What other challenges have you faced in prayer? Leave your comments. Talk to you soon!

If you found this helpful, you might want to read this one:                  How to Handle It When God Doesn’t Answer You                


Why You Lose When You Compare Yourself to Others & How to STOP

It’s tempting isn’t it? Looking at someone and wondering just how well you measure up to them. Hair, appearance, size, position, talent, wealth, education, intellect, athletic prowess, people skills. The list is deep and it also goes wide. There’s no end when comparing yourself to the girl or guy next door. And if you do, let me tell you, you lose! Read on and I’ll explain. I’ll also show you how you can STOP comparing yourself to others. Let’s go!

When Walt Disney was a young school boy, his teacher saw him drawing pictures of flowers. She said, “They’re very nice Walter but don’t you know, flowers don’t have faces.” He looked up and said, “Mine do.” I love that! Even as a small boy, Walt Disney had the guts to stick up for who he was. He was true to himself. He did his own thing. And that’s probably one

of the reasons why he was so successful. He didn’t let anybody cramp his style.

Oh, but you do let people cramp your style, don’t you? I betcha just recently you were feeling pressured or feeling badly about yourself because you were not like someone else. You were deciding you don’t fit someone else’s image of who you should be. Have I got your number?

When you do either of these two things above, you miss out on who YOU are supposed to be! And that is so dangerous because you get the WRONG IDEA of who you’re supposed to be. You become confused and don’t know who you are.

When you compare yourself to others you get the wrong idea of who you’re supposed to be. You become confused and don’t know who you are.

There’s a story about a farm boy that I read in one of Chuck Swindoll’s books, who found an eagle’s nest with an egg in it. He took the egg from the nest, and when he got home, he put it under a hen along with her other eggs.

Since the eagle’s egg hatched among chicks, the eagle thought he was a chicken. He learned chicken behavior from his “mother” and scratched in the chicken yard along with his “siblings”. He didn’t know any better. And when he sometimes felt strange stirrings within him, thoughts, like hmm, “I think I walk a little different from the rest of the crowd,” or “I seem to have longer wings than everybody else” – he ignored those thoughts. When he began to realize he had different qualities and was different from the rest, he buried those thoughts too. After all, when he looked around him all he saw were chickens, so he thought he must behave like a chicken. Talk about pressure!

But then one day an eagle flew over the farm. The chicken yard eagle looked up and saw him. In that moment, he realized he had the same kind of stuff that that eagle did. He wanted to fly high. He wanted to go to the mountain peaks he saw in the distance. So he spread his wings, which were much larger and stronger than those of his siblings. Suddenly he understood that he was different. He was an eagle. He was meant to fly.

Though he had never flown before, he possessed the instinct and the capabilities. He spread his wings once more and he took off. He soared high…because he stopped looking around him. He finally discovered his true self.

How sad it would have been for him to continue comparing himself to the other chickens, never measuring up. And why would that be sad?

Because he wasn’t a chicken. He could never measure up and wasn’t supposed to!

He couldn’t walk like the chickens, he couldn’t cluck like the chickens. Hello? It’s because he wasn’t a chicken! And that could have left him down and discouraged thinking he wasn’t good enough.

You may be going through life comparing yourself to others. You’re feeling worthless and not good enough because you don’t walk like others, talk like others, and do things like others. Look, you’re not supposed to be like others.

You can’t fly like an eagle if your stuck on the ground trying to be like the other chickens! So, here’s how to get off the ground:

1. Make a List of Your Greatest Attributes & Abilities

This may sound silly, even cocky if you don’t know where I’m coming from with this, but reserve judgment till you get what I’m about to share with you. I remember driving down the road when I was 16 years old, listing all of my greatness. Now, don’t let that fool you. I wasn’t conceited or stuck on myself or anything like that. After giving myself a honest evaluation, I made a mental list of my good stuff. Great stuff. Because inside of everyone of us is great stuff. God made us with great stuff. You have greatness in you just like I do. You just have to see it. And when you do, you can make a list of your greatness too!

2. When you come up against thoughts of comparing – knock em down!

Resist the urge to measure yourself up against someone you see or that comes to mind. If you encounter Carey, an acquaintance in the shoe department at Macy’s, quit inspecting her outfit and trying to discover if those shoes are real Gucci stilettos. If they are, so what? You have bigger fish in your own frying pan. Look deep. Greatness is there. If you walk by Bill in the break room, don’t think, “If I were only as tall as him.” Stop it! Don’t let your mind go there! Let it go here: back to your list of your Greatest Attributes & Abilities. 

Focus on your Greatness. Soon you will see you have no reason to compare.

The more you see the great attributes and abilities that God has built into you, the less you will have need to measure them against someone elses.

Galations 6:4 says this:

“Let everyone be sure that he is doing his very best, for then he will have the personal satisfaction of work well done, and won’t need to compare himself with someone else.”

List your greatness and you’ll no longer need to compare! 

Did this hit home with you? Do you have any input or advice to add? Leave a reply. Thanks!

If you enjoyed this post, check out some related posts by clicking on this link: Are You Weird in a Good Way?


13 Guaranteed Ways to Make Yourself Sad

  1. Think about what you don’t have.
  2. Focus on what someone didn’t do for you.
  3. Think about what other’s have that you don’t.
  4. Compare yourself to others.
  5. Replay stupid things you’ve done over and over again in your mind.
  6. Stay angry.
  7. Sulk about how unfair life is.
  8. Refuse to forgive.
  9. Complain.
  10. Complain some more.
  11. Continue to review your hurts over and over again.
  12. Beat yourself up.
  13. Think about how miserable you are.

Proverbs 13:12 says,

Hope deferred makes the heart sick.

If you’re deferring hope (which is exactly what you’re doing when you engage in any of the above activities), you’re doing exactly what the Bible tells you to do to be sad. Congrats!

You CAN think yourself sad. Go for it. It will work for you.

Then when you’re sick of being sad…click on this link to read a great post:  4 Bad Mood Busters 

Or watch this video if you really want to know how to be happy. Click here:  How to be Happy When Life Bites!!

Got any other ways you use to become sad? Leave us your list by clicking “comments” at the top. Thanks for your input!


How to Handle It When God Doesn’t Answer You
Come on, where is God when you need to know the skinny on the situation?!

Can it get any worse? You ask and ask. No reply.

Is baffled a good way to describe how you’re feeling? How about abandoned? Feeling forgotten? Do you have more questions than answers?

Maybe you’ve been thrown a curve ball, and it seems like God hasn’t even noticed. Let me help you figure out how to handle it. There is a way to press on even when God doesn’t seem to be on the scene with you. And He’s certainly not doing any talking! Read on.

1. Know there is an answer – even if you can’t figure it out.

I heard a story about a guy who was condemned to solitary confinement in a pitch-black cell. The only thing he had to occupy his mind was a marble.

This marble became his prized possession. He would throw it repeatedly against the walls. He spent hours listening to the marble as it bounced and rolled around the room. Then he would fumble around in the darkness until he found his precious toy.

One day, the prisoner threw his marble upward. But it didn’t come down. Only silence echoed through the darkness. He was deeply disturbed by the “evaporation” of the marble. And what was worse, he couldn’t explain its disappearance.

It just didn’t make sense. He could not figure it out. Finally, he went berserk, pulled out all of his hair, and died! He couldn’t handle the fact that there was no answer. No answer as to why the most precious thing in his life had been ripped away from him.

When the prison officials came to remove his body, a guard noticed something caught in a huge spider’s web in the upper corner of the room. “That’s strange, he thought, I wonder how a marble got up there?”

I’m sure you sometimes ask questions that the mind isn’t capable of answering. But valid answers always exist. You just aren’t always privy to the answer.

What can you do?

Accept that there is an answer, even if you don’t get the answer.

Here’s another thing you need to know when God doesn’t make sense:

2. Sometimes God doesn’t answer you, because even if He did, you may not understand.

My kids used to have this tiny little turtle named “Speedy.”  We’d set Speedy’s bowl down on the back porch near the pool. No lie, that silly little turtle would crawl out of his bowl and plunge into our swimming pool!

Speedy saw this big blue ocean in front of him, and he must have thought, sweet! But the little thing didn’t realize that the chlorine could damage his shell and that he would eventually become filter bait. We’d put him back in his bowl only to find him again swimming in this huge pool.

My daughter Tiffany was just a tiny 3-year old girl at the time. Tiny as she was, she thought she was going to teach him a big lesson. Tiff picked him up, looked him in the eyes, and said, “Speedy, you can’t do that. You can’t jump into the pool!”

Tyler, my son, who was 3 years older was observing all of this and he said, “Tiffany, what are you doing? Don’t you realize that turtle doesn’t get it?!”

Admit it, you don’t get what God’s saying all of the time either. In comparison to God, your kinda just like a little turtle!

Understand that you may not always understand.

I can kind of relate. As a mom, I don’t always give my kids explanations for my decisions. I don’t have to. I’m MOM! The reason I sometimes refuse to explain myself to them is because they just wouldn’t get it even if I told them. In some cases they are just too immature to understand. So I’m not going to waste my breath. Wonder if God feels the same way about us sometimes? Probably!

Isaiah 55:8 says:

My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine.

So there’s a third thing you can do when you don’t get answers:

3. Trust him anyway.

Have you ever seen a baby giraffe born? Probably not. Here’s how it goes down:

The mother giraffe gives birth to its young standing up, and the distance from the birth canal to the ground is about ten feet. Think of this – ten feet is approximately the height for dunking a basketball.

So the calf falls out of its mother ten feet above ground, and lands on its back. It lies there for a few moments. Then it scrambles to get its legs underneath it.

As the mother lowers her head to see the baby, she moves until she is towering directly above the calf. About a minute later comes the shocking surprise.

The mother giraffe swings her long leg out and boots her baby through the air! The calf sprawls head over heals across the ground, usually puzzled and protesting!

You might be wondering, “What’s that all about? Why would she do that to her child?”

She wants him to get up.

And if he doesn’t get up, she’s going to do it again.

Sure enough the process is repeated again and again. As the baby grows tired of trying, the mother will again kick him right off his feet.

But then the calf stands. Wobbly, but it finally stands on its little legs.

Surprisingly the mother again boots the baby into the air. Again he is flung across the ground. Wow! Wouldn’t you be astonished by a mother’s brutal treatment of her newborn calf?

She does that though so it remembers how it got back up. That’s why she knocks it down again. As the giraffe matures he learns to trust his mother’s blows…for they have strengthened him.

When God doesn’t give us answers, we need to trust him anyway. When He allows us to get knocked down, remember, He has the best in mind for us. It may seem like He’s letting life kick you around. But trust Him.

I guess the conclusion you have to come to is that God doesn’t have to give you answers…

IF you trust him!

Isaiah 40:31 (NLT) says:

But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.

What do you do when God doesn’t give you answers: Trust Him anyway.

How do you handle it when God doesn’t answer you? Give us your advice in the comment section.

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