What You Need to Know About Getting Along With Anyone

Human Relations…sometimes sucks.

Strong word, huh?

I could have used an expletive…

Let’s be real, it’s not always easy getting along with co-workers, supervisors, neighbors, friends, and even family.

I love this little story of a mother who’s preschooler locked her out of the house and how she spun it with understanding.

Leaving my four-year-old son in the house, I ran out to throw something in the trash. When I tried to open the door to get back inside, it was locked. I knew that insisting that my son open the door would have resulted in an hour-long battle of the wills. So in a sad voice, I said, “Oh, too bad. You just locked yourself in the house.” The door opened immediately.

Since getting along with others is so challenging, allow me to pass on this quote that reminds us what our priorities should be when dealing with other people:

A Short Course in Human Relations:

The least important word: I
The most important word: We
The two most important words: Thank You
The three most important words: All is forgiven.
The four most important words: What is your opinion?
The five most important words: You did a good job.
The six most important words: I want to understand you better.

The moment people know that you care about them, the way they feel about you changes.

Read that again. Here, I’ll help…

Oh, that’s good, admit it! (Go ahead and tweet it, you know you want to.)

Just try this: Next time you’re in a heated argument with someone, stop and say, “Help me understand where you’re coming from with this.” And watch what happens.

They will become softer, and more open to your comments because you’re showing that you care about how they feel about the situation.

Showing others that you care isn’t always easy. Your greatest times and fondest memories will come because of people, but so will your most difficult, hurting, and tragic times.

People are your greatest assets and your greatest liabilities. The challenge is to keep caring about them no matter what.

That’s the right way to treat people. Besides, you never know which people in your sphere of influence are going to rise up and make a difference in your life and the lives of others.

In the end, the ability to understand people is a choice.

It’s true that some people are born with great instincts that enable them to understand how others think and feel. But even if you aren’t instictiely a people person, you can improve your ability to work with others.

Every person is capable of having the ability to understand, motivate, and ultimately influence others. It starts with caring. Get that down and you’ll get along better with everyone you meet.

Pick one person you’re going to try to give understanding to tomorrow. Yeah, test this out – I dare ya!

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Is Social Media Ripping Off Your Time With God & Others?
If your finding your relationship with God and others a little challenging, consider if time spent with your smart phone is ripping time away from the important people in your life. Let’s find out if your most important relationships are in danger of sabotage by social media.

Social media can kill your relationship with anybody but especially God. He doesn’t scream out for your attention like the other people in your life. But maybe the important people in your life have quit screaming!

Fact: social media is fun. It’s cool to be in the know. Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Google Plus, Pinterest, and Linkedin, can even help us engage with our family, friends, and circles of influence. But for social media to be an advantage it needs to enrich our relationships rather than rob from them.

Here are a few questions you can ask to determine if social media is killing what you really want to thrive.

Social Media Tilt-Meter Test:  (See if any of these apply to you.)

  • What’s the first thing you reach for in the morning? Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest or your Bible?
  • Upon waking, who do you comment to first, your mate or your friends on social media?
  • If you added up all the minutes you spend on social media each day – would it be as much as you give God for Bible reading and prayer?
  • Do your know more about what’s going on in the life of your peeps than you do your kids?
  • How often do you check in with your tweeps and peeps in comparison to how often you check in with God?
  • When your dining with a loved one, do you know more about what’s on their plate, or more about the dish you just found on Instagram?

There’s nothing wrong with social media, as long as it doesn’t snuff out the time you need with God or other important people in your life.

Try the Media Fast Challenge:

Go on a social media fast. Try it for a week. You will be amazed at how much more time you have to talk with God and others. Instead of grabbing your phone or electronic device, read your Bible and other good books. Take time to think. Enjoy a walk with someone important in your life. Or hey, just take a walk by yourself. Remember what it’s like to smell the roses.

Unplugging will help you get your groove back. It will reset your brain. 

If you can’t resist the urge to check in with your tweeps and peeps, then delete the apps. Go ahead. It’s ok! You can always get them back.

Yes, you will miss social media at first. The first time I did a social media fast I thought I was missing out on everything important. But here’s what I learned: The world around me isn’t as important as what’s really important. God. My husband. My kids. My close friends, and yes…me!

You’ll find social media a hard habit to break. But once broken it will bring freedom. Freedom to your relationships. With God. With others. With yourself.

Don’t let social media rip away your time with God and all that’s important. Take a little media break. You’ll have greater clarity when you return…and better relationships.

 

Want to learn how to be a great friend and make your friendships life changing?

This Sunday, join me and my friend, Dr. Kathy Harkema for a guest radio appearance. We’ll share our story – building a friendship that has truly transformed our lives.

You’ll discover:

  • The crazy risk we took in friendship and how it paid off.
  • The friendship benefits we have tasted and how you can enjoy them as well.
  • How we face conflict in our friendship without bloodshed & how you can too.
  • How we’ve learned to appreciate each other’s differences instead of letting them drive us crazy – there’s hope for you and your friend!
  • How you can maintain a friendship so it won’t die.
  • What forgiveness looks like and how you can offer it to your friend.
  • And…you can learn from our friendship mistakes so you don’t have to make your own!

Join us for friendship advice and inspiration this Sunday on The Healing Touch Radio Broadcast. We’ll be live on the air from 7 am to 8 am August 5th.

Tune in on your 1220am station or listen online www.Magica1220am.com

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We’d also love to have you pop on over to our blog at the Friendship Doctors! We’ve got articles sharing our ups and downs and everything inbetween. Learn how friendship can be  a life changing journey!

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