What You Need to Know About Getting Along With Anyone
Human Relations…sometimes sucks.
Strong word, huh?
I could have used an expletive…
Let’s be real, it’s not always easy getting along with co-workers, supervisors, neighbors, friends, and even family.
I love this little story of a mother who’s preschooler locked her out of the house and how she spun it with understanding.
Leaving my four-year-old son in the house, I ran out to throw something in the trash. When I tried to open the door to get back inside, it was locked. I knew that insisting that my son open the door would have resulted in an hour-long battle of the wills. So in a sad voice, I said, “Oh, too bad. You just locked yourself in the house.” The door opened immediately.
Since getting along with others is so challenging, allow me to pass on this quote that reminds us what our priorities should be when dealing with other people:
A Short Course in Human Relations:
The least important word: I
The most important word: We
The two most important words: Thank You
The three most important words: All is forgiven.
The four most important words: What is your opinion?
The five most important words: You did a good job.
The six most important words: I want to understand you better.
The moment people know that you care about them, the way they feel about you changes.
Read that again. Here, I’ll help…
Oh, that’s good, admit it! (Go ahead and tweet it, you know you want to.)
Just try this: Next time you’re in a heated argument with someone, stop and say, “Help me understand where you’re coming from with this.” And watch what happens.
They will become softer, and more open to your comments because you’re showing that you care about how they feel about the situation.
Showing others that you care isn’t always easy. Your greatest times and fondest memories will come because of people, but so will your most difficult, hurting, and tragic times.
People are your greatest assets and your greatest liabilities. The challenge is to keep caring about them no matter what.
That’s the right way to treat people. Besides, you never know which people in your sphere of influence are going to rise up and make a difference in your life and the lives of others.
In the end, the ability to understand people is a choice.
It’s true that some people are born with great instincts that enable them to understand how others think and feel. But even if you aren’t instictiely a people person, you can improve your ability to work with others.
Every person is capable of having the ability to understand, motivate, and ultimately influence others. It starts with caring. Get that down and you’ll get along better with everyone you meet.
Pick one person you’re going to try to give understanding to tomorrow. Yeah, test this out – I dare ya!
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