The Secret Cure for Disappointment
Disappointed.

You’re ticked aren’t ya?

I don’t blame you.

You had it all figured out.

You thought it would be better than this.

This stinks. It’s ok that you are mad. I’d be mad too.

Let me show you how you can keep disappointment from ever touching you again.

That’s a bold statement, huh?

Try me. This works.

You can have your money back if it doesn’t.

Oh, wait, you’re getting this advice for free. Good, then you have nothing to lose. Come with me for a minute. Let’s discuss the CURE for disappointment. It will be well worth your time.

Ready to Eat?

Imagine I invite you over for dinner. I seat you at my table decked out in the finest my dish closet has to offer. I place a napkin in your lap and explain that you are about to enjoy a delicious seven-course meal. Backwards.

That’s right. We start with dessert. From there we make our way backwards toward the main course, salad, hors d’oeuvres, and everything in-between.

Dessert first! Cool! But by the time you get to the main course you are so full you can’t enjoy the caviar. So you’re a little miffed. And you’re disappointed with my way of doing things.

This didn’t go the way you thought it would. It started out ok. It sure looked like fine dining according to plan. But hey, things got out of order. And looking at it in reverse, with an upset stomach, leaves you an unhappy camper. And an unhappy diner. Hold on, I’ll get you some Rolaids.

Here’s another scenario.

The man or woman of your dreams sent your heart a pitter-pattering. First came courtship. Marriage. And oh, count ‘em, three baby carriages.

Years later your heart takes a dip. It plunges to the lowest place on earth. The spouse of your dreams morphs into the spouse you hate. It started with the affair. You were cheated on, not once, but twice. No way! You didn’t sign up for that. Your soul mate ripped your soul out and your heart is in shreds.

Disappointed. No one can imagine. This is not the marriage you had in mind. You’re irate. You’ve been rejected. The pain is like an avalanche that snows you under.

Let’s go back to the table.

Remember, you’re the guest at MY table. What I say goes. We do the meal as I have designed, not how you have imagined.

Let me ask, “What other table do you belly up to?” Did I hear you say, “God’s?” You eat from His table? Here’s the difference between my table, your table, and God’s table.

If you’re the guest at your own table, you can do the meal as you please. But here’s the rub. When you’re sitting at God’s table, He’s boss. And guess what? You’re not excused until the meal is over. You have to eat whatever God puts in front of you. Even if you don’t think you can stomach it. Even if the meal is too long. You have no choice. God’s the chief cook and bottle washer here.

So what do you do to ensure disappointment isn’t the feast at your table? Here’s what you’ve been waiting for, the cure for disappointment:

Revamp your expectations!

Sometimes we expect unrealistic things. Things that were never in the plan for us.

How do you know if your expectation is unrealistic? Answer: If it doesn’t become real.

Now, I’m not saying you need to throw away the promises of God. Not at all. God will make good on His
promises. But sometimes we get what God promises mixed up with what we want God to promise us.

So then, we need to revamp our expectations. If we adjust our expectations, we will save ourselves disappointment. It’s that simple. Not easy. But it will save you heartache.

How do you revamp your expectations?

Shoot for something lower? No, just be open to things not going according to how you planned.

So how do you revamp your expectations and still have faith?

Expect the best. Hope for the best. FAITH for the best.

But know sometimes you will be shortchanged in your eyes. Only because you don’t always know what’s best. Therefore, we expect what we think is best, not what God thinks is best. Only God knows, and He doesn’t always tell. Sometimes God serves hors d’oeuvres and the salad last.

And wouldn’t it be easier to trust that if God starts out with dessert, it would be a good thing? Whatever whacked way He does things is gonna be to your benefit.

How do I know? Because “The Lord will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right.” (Psalm 84:11b NLT)

God is not holding out on you.

Even if the order is messed up.

Even if what He puts on your plate tastes crappy.

Even if He serves up something you don’t like.

God is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him (Hebrews 11:6 NLT). Seek Him, and you will be feasting on the exact course for your life at the right time, even if you don’t realize it at that moment.

Even if you’re confused about the dish that’s in front of you, you can feast on what you didn’t expect without being disappointed.

How? Because you have revamped your expectations. Which means you will no longer be disappointed.

That’s it. You’re cured.

You’ll be ok. God said so.

Give me your feedback. Let’s talk about this. Leave your comments in the reply section. Talk to you soon!


How You Can Make Smarter Decisions Based on My Decision About Getting a Nose Ring
Just for kicks, I asked my teenage kids what they thought of me getting a nose ring. I’m not talking a hoop or anything like that protruding from my nose in an awkward fashion. Just a tiny diamond stud. You know, something tiny yet with a bit of dazzle.

 

My daughter was the first to speak up. She’s 14 but declares she is the Ann Landers of her generation. She said very sweetly, “Mom, I don’t want to hurt your feelings but you are too old for a nose ring. You have too many wrinkles.” Ouch. Not so sure why she equates wrinkles with non-nose ring wear, but ok! I took her thoughts to heart. Then I decided to get the opinions of a few others. 56 others to be exact.

Yes, within 2 hours, 56 people had responded to my Facebook post.

This is what I put out there:

“My daughter says that being 43 automatically disqualifies me from getting a nose ring! Your thoughts?”

Oh my! The responses ranged from, “Yes, “go for it!” to, “You’re too cool or beautiful and that would ruin you!”

Ruin me?! Really?!

Here’s the decision I made and why it can help you when you are up against making the right decision verses the wrong one.

1. Help People Trust You

First impressions shouldn’t really matter, but they do. So in an age where people look on outward appearance instead of the heart, we have to help them trust us. That may mean foregoing a freedom or fashion statement in order to win their confidence and trust. That’s not how it should be. But that’s how it is. I’m not saying it’s right or fair. But that’s reality. People judge based on appearance.

My rule has always been this:

Form a light-first impression based on the outward, but always be prepared to change your view of someone based on what you learn about them. The more interaction you have with someone, the more you get to know him or her. First impressions can be right, but they can also be very very wrong. Sometimes it takes years to really know someone.

Unfortunately, not everyone plays by my rules. So here’s what else I recommend:

2. Remember Who You Are And What That Stands For

I am a pastor and I take my role as a pastor very seriously. I am also a professional counselor. I don’t know many PhD’s with nose rings. (Maybe I just haven’t met the right ones yet!) But my thought is this; if I had to connect with an ultra conservative group, or mingle in a professional one, would the nose ring keep me from being heard? Or would people discount what I have to offer because of that stud in my nose? Sadly, yes.

Yes, it’s ok for me to get a nose ring. But it’s even better not to right now so that nothing stands in the way of touching someone’s life. I want to be more thoughtful. In your realm or arena, it might be perfectly acceptable for you to done a nose ring. If so, I’m glad you get to have one. For me, right now, it’s probably not the best idea.

I have decided to give up freedoms that I rightfully have in order to connect with and be accepted by others. If having a nose ring would in any way keep me from being a blessing to others because they may not be able to get past the jewelry in my nose, then I will give up my right to have a nose ring.

I don’t want my freedom to cause anyone to stumble. And how would they stumble? By not accepting me based on my outward appearance. (Romans 14 has some darn good stuff about this. Check it out.)

So, at this point in my life, no nose ring! Maybe when nose rings become more accepted, just like women wearing pants has become more accepted since the 1940’s, I might just go for it! But not until I know it won’t keep others from connecting with me. Their bad, I know! But my heart to serve them overrides their bad in making an unfair judgment. 

What rights are you willing to give up in order to reach more people? I’m thinking that’s more important. Call me crazy? Chime in. I’d love to hear what you think in the comment section.


Why You Lose When You Compare Yourself to Others & How to STOP

It’s tempting isn’t it? Looking at someone and wondering just how well you measure up to them. Hair, appearance, size, position, talent, wealth, education, intellect, athletic prowess, people skills. The list is deep and it also goes wide. There’s no end when comparing yourself to the girl or guy next door. And if you do, let me tell you, you lose! Read on and I’ll explain. I’ll also show you how you can STOP comparing yourself to others. Let’s go!

When Walt Disney was a young school boy, his teacher saw him drawing pictures of flowers. She said, “They’re very nice Walter but don’t you know, flowers don’t have faces.” He looked up and said, “Mine do.” I love that! Even as a small boy, Walt Disney had the guts to stick up for who he was. He was true to himself. He did his own thing. And that’s probably one

of the reasons why he was so successful. He didn’t let anybody cramp his style.

Oh, but you do let people cramp your style, don’t you? I betcha just recently you were feeling pressured or feeling badly about yourself because you were not like someone else. You were deciding you don’t fit someone else’s image of who you should be. Have I got your number?

When you do either of these two things above, you miss out on who YOU are supposed to be! And that is so dangerous because you get the WRONG IDEA of who you’re supposed to be. You become confused and don’t know who you are.

When you compare yourself to others you get the wrong idea of who you’re supposed to be. You become confused and don’t know who you are.

There’s a story about a farm boy that I read in one of Chuck Swindoll’s books, who found an eagle’s nest with an egg in it. He took the egg from the nest, and when he got home, he put it under a hen along with her other eggs.

Since the eagle’s egg hatched among chicks, the eagle thought he was a chicken. He learned chicken behavior from his “mother” and scratched in the chicken yard along with his “siblings”. He didn’t know any better. And when he sometimes felt strange stirrings within him, thoughts, like hmm, “I think I walk a little different from the rest of the crowd,” or “I seem to have longer wings than everybody else” – he ignored those thoughts. When he began to realize he had different qualities and was different from the rest, he buried those thoughts too. After all, when he looked around him all he saw were chickens, so he thought he must behave like a chicken. Talk about pressure!

But then one day an eagle flew over the farm. The chicken yard eagle looked up and saw him. In that moment, he realized he had the same kind of stuff that that eagle did. He wanted to fly high. He wanted to go to the mountain peaks he saw in the distance. So he spread his wings, which were much larger and stronger than those of his siblings. Suddenly he understood that he was different. He was an eagle. He was meant to fly.

Though he had never flown before, he possessed the instinct and the capabilities. He spread his wings once more and he took off. He soared high…because he stopped looking around him. He finally discovered his true self.

How sad it would have been for him to continue comparing himself to the other chickens, never measuring up. And why would that be sad?

Because he wasn’t a chicken. He could never measure up and wasn’t supposed to!

He couldn’t walk like the chickens, he couldn’t cluck like the chickens. Hello? It’s because he wasn’t a chicken! And that could have left him down and discouraged thinking he wasn’t good enough.

You may be going through life comparing yourself to others. You’re feeling worthless and not good enough because you don’t walk like others, talk like others, and do things like others. Look, you’re not supposed to be like others.

You can’t fly like an eagle if your stuck on the ground trying to be like the other chickens! So, here’s how to get off the ground:

1. Make a List of Your Greatest Attributes & Abilities

This may sound silly, even cocky if you don’t know where I’m coming from with this, but reserve judgment till you get what I’m about to share with you. I remember driving down the road when I was 16 years old, listing all of my greatness. Now, don’t let that fool you. I wasn’t conceited or stuck on myself or anything like that. After giving myself a honest evaluation, I made a mental list of my good stuff. Great stuff. Because inside of everyone of us is great stuff. God made us with great stuff. You have greatness in you just like I do. You just have to see it. And when you do, you can make a list of your greatness too!

2. When you come up against thoughts of comparing – knock em down!

Resist the urge to measure yourself up against someone you see or that comes to mind. If you encounter Carey, an acquaintance in the shoe department at Macy’s, quit inspecting her outfit and trying to discover if those shoes are real Gucci stilettos. If they are, so what? You have bigger fish in your own frying pan. Look deep. Greatness is there. If you walk by Bill in the break room, don’t think, “If I were only as tall as him.” Stop it! Don’t let your mind go there! Let it go here: back to your list of your Greatest Attributes & Abilities. 

Focus on your Greatness. Soon you will see you have no reason to compare.

The more you see the great attributes and abilities that God has built into you, the less you will have need to measure them against someone elses.

Galations 6:4 says this:

“Let everyone be sure that he is doing his very best, for then he will have the personal satisfaction of work well done, and won’t need to compare himself with someone else.”

List your greatness and you’ll no longer need to compare! 

Did this hit home with you? Do you have any input or advice to add? Leave a reply. Thanks!

If you enjoyed this post, check out some related posts by clicking on this link: Are You Weird in a Good Way?


13 Guaranteed Ways to Make Yourself Sad

  1. Think about what you don’t have.
  2. Focus on what someone didn’t do for you.
  3. Think about what other’s have that you don’t.
  4. Compare yourself to others.
  5. Replay stupid things you’ve done over and over again in your mind.
  6. Stay angry.
  7. Sulk about how unfair life is.
  8. Refuse to forgive.
  9. Complain.
  10. Complain some more.
  11. Continue to review your hurts over and over again.
  12. Beat yourself up.
  13. Think about how miserable you are.

Proverbs 13:12 says,

Hope deferred makes the heart sick.

If you’re deferring hope (which is exactly what you’re doing when you engage in any of the above activities), you’re doing exactly what the Bible tells you to do to be sad. Congrats!

You CAN think yourself sad. Go for it. It will work for you.

Then when you’re sick of being sad…click on this link to read a great post:  4 Bad Mood Busters 

Or watch this video if you really want to know how to be happy. Click here:  How to be Happy When Life Bites!!

Got any other ways you use to become sad? Leave us your list by clicking “comments” at the top. Thanks for your input!


How to Handle It When God Doesn’t Answer You
Come on, where is God when you need to know the skinny on the situation?!

Can it get any worse? You ask and ask. No reply.

Is baffled a good way to describe how you’re feeling? How about abandoned? Feeling forgotten? Do you have more questions than answers?

Maybe you’ve been thrown a curve ball, and it seems like God hasn’t even noticed. Let me help you figure out how to handle it. There is a way to press on even when God doesn’t seem to be on the scene with you. And He’s certainly not doing any talking! Read on.

1. Know there is an answer – even if you can’t figure it out.

I heard a story about a guy who was condemned to solitary confinement in a pitch-black cell. The only thing he had to occupy his mind was a marble.

This marble became his prized possession. He would throw it repeatedly against the walls. He spent hours listening to the marble as it bounced and rolled around the room. Then he would fumble around in the darkness until he found his precious toy.

One day, the prisoner threw his marble upward. But it didn’t come down. Only silence echoed through the darkness. He was deeply disturbed by the “evaporation” of the marble. And what was worse, he couldn’t explain its disappearance.

It just didn’t make sense. He could not figure it out. Finally, he went berserk, pulled out all of his hair, and died! He couldn’t handle the fact that there was no answer. No answer as to why the most precious thing in his life had been ripped away from him.

When the prison officials came to remove his body, a guard noticed something caught in a huge spider’s web in the upper corner of the room. “That’s strange, he thought, I wonder how a marble got up there?”

I’m sure you sometimes ask questions that the mind isn’t capable of answering. But valid answers always exist. You just aren’t always privy to the answer.

What can you do?

Accept that there is an answer, even if you don’t get the answer.

Here’s another thing you need to know when God doesn’t make sense:

2. Sometimes God doesn’t answer you, because even if He did, you may not understand.

My kids used to have this tiny little turtle named “Speedy.”  We’d set Speedy’s bowl down on the back porch near the pool. No lie, that silly little turtle would crawl out of his bowl and plunge into our swimming pool!

Speedy saw this big blue ocean in front of him, and he must have thought, sweet! But the little thing didn’t realize that the chlorine could damage his shell and that he would eventually become filter bait. We’d put him back in his bowl only to find him again swimming in this huge pool.

My daughter Tiffany was just a tiny 3-year old girl at the time. Tiny as she was, she thought she was going to teach him a big lesson. Tiff picked him up, looked him in the eyes, and said, “Speedy, you can’t do that. You can’t jump into the pool!”

Tyler, my son, who was 3 years older was observing all of this and he said, “Tiffany, what are you doing? Don’t you realize that turtle doesn’t get it?!”

Admit it, you don’t get what God’s saying all of the time either. In comparison to God, your kinda just like a little turtle!

Understand that you may not always understand.

I can kind of relate. As a mom, I don’t always give my kids explanations for my decisions. I don’t have to. I’m MOM! The reason I sometimes refuse to explain myself to them is because they just wouldn’t get it even if I told them. In some cases they are just too immature to understand. So I’m not going to waste my breath. Wonder if God feels the same way about us sometimes? Probably!

Isaiah 55:8 says:

My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine.

So there’s a third thing you can do when you don’t get answers:

3. Trust him anyway.

Have you ever seen a baby giraffe born? Probably not. Here’s how it goes down:

The mother giraffe gives birth to its young standing up, and the distance from the birth canal to the ground is about ten feet. Think of this – ten feet is approximately the height for dunking a basketball.

So the calf falls out of its mother ten feet above ground, and lands on its back. It lies there for a few moments. Then it scrambles to get its legs underneath it.

As the mother lowers her head to see the baby, she moves until she is towering directly above the calf. About a minute later comes the shocking surprise.

The mother giraffe swings her long leg out and boots her baby through the air! The calf sprawls head over heals across the ground, usually puzzled and protesting!

You might be wondering, “What’s that all about? Why would she do that to her child?”

She wants him to get up.

And if he doesn’t get up, she’s going to do it again.

Sure enough the process is repeated again and again. As the baby grows tired of trying, the mother will again kick him right off his feet.

But then the calf stands. Wobbly, but it finally stands on its little legs.

Surprisingly the mother again boots the baby into the air. Again he is flung across the ground. Wow! Wouldn’t you be astonished by a mother’s brutal treatment of her newborn calf?

She does that though so it remembers how it got back up. That’s why she knocks it down again. As the giraffe matures he learns to trust his mother’s blows…for they have strengthened him.

When God doesn’t give us answers, we need to trust him anyway. When He allows us to get knocked down, remember, He has the best in mind for us. It may seem like He’s letting life kick you around. But trust Him.

I guess the conclusion you have to come to is that God doesn’t have to give you answers…

IF you trust him!

Isaiah 40:31 (NLT) says:

But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.

What do you do when God doesn’t give you answers: Trust Him anyway.

How do you handle it when God doesn’t answer you? Give us your advice in the comment section.

If you liked this post, you may want to  click around on these links:

How To Reverse Murphy’s Law in Your Life

A Surefire Way to Know If Your Steps are REALLY Ordered by God

It Doesn’t Matter How Deep the Water is if You Know How to Swim

 

How heavy is the load you’re carrying? Let me show you how to give God your heavy load and grab a lighter one instead.
When I was VERY pregnant, I’m talking hugely pregnant, going to the grocery store was a burden!
Pushing a cartload of groceries was hard work considering I was also carrying an extra 50lbs of fluids and baby.There was this one day in my ninth month of pregnancy that I will remember forever. I was bringing the groceries in from the car to the house. Knowing this was going to be a huge task, I popped the trunk and started plotting my strategy.
I was grabbing all of the heavy bags first so that I could come back and get the lighter bags.
Huffing and puffing, I made my way to the door with the two heaviest bags. Then out of the corner of my eye I saw my husband come around and I thought, “Cool, he’s going to help me!”Here’s my knight and shining armor to the rescue! Not so fast. What he did ticked me off! He went for all the light grocery bags like the napkins, paper towels, and toilet paper. What a stinker!

As you can imagine I am burning with anger and raging hormones. But what he did next surprised me. When he met me halfway, he said, “Stop, you take these lighter bags and let me take the heavy ones you have.” At that moment I felt so much love in my heart for that man! We exchanged loads and I was immediately relieved.

You have a knight in shining armor at your disposal too. One who’s ready to take your heavy load and give you a lighter one.

Jesus says in Matthew 11:28-30 (NCV)

Come to me, all of you who are tired and have heavy loads, and I will give you rest. Accept my teachings and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in spirit, and you will find rest for your lives. The burden that I ask you to accept is easy; the load I give you to carry is light.

Jesus is more than willing to lighten your load but there’s a catch. Here’s what you need to do in order for this to happen:

You have to meet up with him in order to make the exchange. 

If you don’t connect with him he can’t take the heavy stuff off your hands. Then guess what?  You will be stuck carrying ALL the bags. No connection, no exchange. It’s that simple. You can’t exchange something with someone unless you make contact with them.

I know it’s difficult to put on the breaks and stop when you are going a hundred miles an hour. You’re carrying a lot of weight and have been for a while. And when you have been going at it non-stop for an extended period of time, it’s so stinking hard to wind down. Even when you do try to take a break your adrenaline is still racing. You may be sitting down physically, but you’re still running mentally!

So, how do you go about shifting into lower gear? If you are ready to hit your own little personal pause button so you and Jesus can make the exchange, this is how it works:

1. Get quiet. 

Get away from all the noise, people, and projects. Just pause. This is the only way you will quiet your soul enough to hear what God says. Let him speak to your inner man (or woman). As you do, He will refresh you. He will whisper things to you that you ache to hear. You can’t hear a whisper in a noisy room, can you? Get quiet so you can hear what He has to say.

And what will this sound like? Encouraging words, strength for the journey, and enlightenment. Without this personal pause-time, life will be unfocused and scattered. Settle down until your soul settles.

2. Wait until He refreshes you. 

I know it’s tough waiting for something. But don’t be in such a hurry to rush off. Hang around in God’s presence as long as you can. God has life giving stuff He wants to pour into you. Talk about an energy drink, this even tops coffee!

Remember what He said in the verse above, “accept my teachings and learn from me.” This is where He helps you evaluate everything you have been doing. He will press meaning into your performance. And when needed, He’ll show you a better way of going about your business that will ease the load. That’s refreshing! And know, He will NEVER leave you to figure out your problems on your own. (For more on that, read this post: Ever Feel Like God Has Left the Building? Why You Are Never Alone. )

Ready for the chaos and the world to stop around you? Me too! Relief is on the way. But don’t forget, we have to make contact with God in order to exchange our heavy load for His lighter one!


Why Saying “Stop Worrying!” Doesn’t Work & What To Do Instead
STOP WORRYING! 

Ever heard that phrase?

I’d like to smack each person who lets that sneak out of their mouth! Though they mean well, you cannot psych yourself out of worry. But let me tell you how you CAN wipe worry away. This technique really works!

I talked to a lady recently who was worried that she would never find “Mr. Right”. She convinced herself there were no more good men out there. And she thought if she did find one, he wouldn’t be interested in her. Way to sabotage yourself lady!

It took me a while, but I eventually convinced her that she needed to shift her focus from worrying toward something else. Know what? It worked. She hasn’t found “Mr. Right”, but she has stopped worrying. And she is no longer miserable. Mission accomplished!

Here’s what worrying did to that lady and what it does to YOU:

So with a list like that, why would anyone choose to worry? It’s because they don’t know what else to do. You can’t just stop worrying.  That is only the first step to wiping worry away. Most people stop there and that’s why they can’t stop worrying.

The second step is this: You have to replace worry with something else.

With what you say? Other thoughts. Here are some ideas:

  • Think about an activity that you really enjoy.
  • Distract yourself with a task.
  • Remind yourself “this” is temporary.
  • Think about God’s promises.
  • Say encouraging things to yourself like, “I am going to make it.”  “I will be ok in the end.”
  • Go over hope-filled scriptures in your head (“I can do all things through Christ because He strengthens me.” Phil 4:13)
  • Talk to someone else about their problems so your can get your mind off yours!
  • Sing a happy song.
  • Better yet, sing a Praise song!
  • Remember God’s peace is available, take it!

The best thought replacer of them all is to think about God. Isaiah 26:3 says, “You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you!”

You might be thinking, “Isn’t replacing my thoughts just a way of denying what is going on?” No, God is not asking us to live in a state of denial. He is asking us to live in a state of acceptance. Accepting his peace displaces your worry.

So stop your worrying by replacing the worry with other thoughts. And the more God-thoughts, the better! If you can do this, you really will STOP WORRYING!

What do you think? If this info has helped you, let us know. Share your experiences with worry. Leave your comments below!


Ever Feel Like God Has Left the Building? Why You Are Never Alone.
Ever feel like God has left the building? 

Elvis may have, but God, NO! If you need a little help believing he is ALWAYS there for you, let me tell you – you will never go where God is not!

I just got back from vacationing in Daytona Beach where I played a mean game of laser tag with my two teenagers and my husband. What a blast! If you’ve never played, it goes like this… you get suited up with a vest that has 4 targets on the front and four on the back. Yes, you become the target! You also get a gun strapped to your side that yelps out a series of beeps or blasts letting you know when you have been hit or better yet, if you have succeeded in taking someone down. Your playing field is a dark room with a maze of barriers and walls to hide behind when someone tries to shoot you.

Every Man for Himself

The bullets fly through the air like red laser beams. When you’re hit, your gun shuts down for 10 seconds. Cruel, eh? It’s every man for himself as you try to hit as many people as you can. You have 9 minutes to see how many points you can rack up. The pressure is on!

So as we are playing, this 13-year-old kid comes up beside me and says, “Hey, want to join my team?” I was like, “Well, I was doing just fine on my own, but I’ll humor you!” He said, “Cool, come over here and hide behind this wall with me.” Then he introduces me to two teenage girls and says, “Ok, we’re all on the same team. DON’T hit each other! I got your back, you get mine. We good?” We all nodded our heads. “Ok, let’s go!” So here I am, letting this 13-year-old give me marching orders. But the cool thing is this – he was also trying to protect me. (Like I needed it! Ha!)

My son comes rushing at me and flings a truckload of laser bullets my way. This other kid jumps in front of me like a ninja, and takes a bullet for me! “Wow dude, thanks!” Then my husband comes around the corner and says, “Hey, you down?” I said, “Nope, got my own little bodyguard here!” The kid looks at me and says, “Is that your husband?” I said, “Yep.”  He shouted, “So, I took a bullet for you and your married?!” I’m like, “Yes! You didn’t say I couldn’t be married and be on your team!” Too Cute!

He would not leave me alone! I really wanted to lose the kid, because in laser tag it’s every man for himself so you can rack up the most points. Being that I was on a team with 3 other people meant there were 3 less people I could shoot for points. But this kid was not leaving my side!

He was like a little Jesus. He would NOT leave me alone! That joker was glued to me. Yep, this 43 year old woman. Why? I don’t know! It’s not like I needed his help. Or maybe I did and didn’t know it! Another similarity between Christ and us. Sometimes we think we can do better going it alone. He wants to be there for us.

Either way, if you have Christ, it’s NEVER every man for himself. Just won’t happen. Never, never, ever will He leave you. That’s good to know.

When God says, in Hebrews 13:5,  “I will never leave you nor forsake you,” a “double negative” is used to convey thesense of “never” possible in the Greek language. The Greek words mean, “never never” or “never ever.” And this double negative appears twice in this one statement from the Lord. It is used for both “never” and “nor.” In other words, God is saying, “I will never never leave you and I will never never forsake you!”

The Amplified Bible brings out the strength of what God really meant: I will not in any way fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support. [I will] not, [I will] not, [I will] not in any degree leave you helpless nor forsake nor let [you] down (relax My hold on you)! [Assuredly not!] —Hebrews 13:5, AMP

You cannot evaluate God’s presence in your life based on your circumstances. Never means never…He will never, never, never leave you alone.

You may be moved, removed, reassigned, enlisted, but you will never go where God is not.

Enjoy the presence of your bodyguard today, cause He’s not going anywhere without you!

Do you have a comment or a story of how God has always been at your side? Share it here in the comment section.

 

No doubt you have heard Murphy’s Law so often over the years that you believe it’s true. It goes like this:

“Nothing is as easy as it looks; everything takes longer than you expect; and if anything can go wrong, it will – at the worst possible moment.”

Now, go about your day savoring that line. Chew it up, swallow it, and know what? It will be true for you.

Thanks Murphy! Thanks for filling our heads with lies that become truth. Yes, lies, lies, lies that turn true! How does this happen? The Bible gives us a clue. It says, “As a man thinks in his heart, so he is.” What this means is whatever you are thinking about becomes true for you. So now you’re stuck, right? But only because Murphy’s Law is stuck in your head. There is a way out my friend. Let me show you how to reverse Murphy’s Law in your life.

The Week from Hell

Last week was one that could have been construed as one of Murphy’s masterpieces! I knew it was going to be a brutal workweek. Lots of extra work events on my calendar equals less time for coping with stress. I was already preparing mentally for the strain of events on my family and on me personally. But then the unexpected started piling up.

My husband’s cousin died. That was tough. We made plans to travel and spend the day with family for the funeral. We also had family fly in and stay with us. Great to see them, but because of my work schedule, I had very little time to visit with them and play hostess. (It was looking like Murphy was starting to mess with me.)

Then the dishwasher decided to catch on fire. Yep, burned two holes in the door. That was exciting! So my husband, bless his sweet heart, RIGHT at dinnertime, attempts to replace the dishwasher with a new one. Which means he’s got two dishwashers pulled out into the middle of the kitchen.

Picture this: hoses, parts, tools, and water scattered all over the floor. I’m trying to quickly make dinner around this mess for my kids, a friend my daughter brought home, and out-of-town relatives. Not to mention, this was all happening one hour before I was scheduled to speak at a youth event for 500 high-energy teenagers. Try keeping your head in the game with all that going on!

So that was Monday. I could have convinced myself Murphy was working overtime, especially when Tuesday brought its own surprise.

I jumped in the car to take my teenage kids shopping and our car started jerking like it was having convulsions. I drove it home on a wing and a prayer and got a mechanic to make a house call. I had to cancel appointments and meetings I had scheduled the next day because I had no wheels, putting me further behind in my workweek.

Mechanic comes, tinkers around, and can’t figure it out. Comes back on day two, tinkers around, and can’t figure it out. I’m wondering how many more appointments am I going to have to reschedule this week? Do you see where this could go? In my head it could go south pretty fast. It almost did – until I reversed Murphy’s Law.

How You Can Reverse Murphy’s Law:

1. Tell your brain what to think. 

Yes, you can do that! What you think about is under your control IF you decide to control it. Your choice. Take it. Decide Murphy is not out to get you. He’s dead anyway, what power has he over you? None. Decide you are not going to experience events that will take you down. To throw your thoughts in reverse: back up and look at your string of events differently.

2. Ask for Divine assistance. 

Never done this before? That’s ok. Start now. Ask God to help you out of your tough spots. He is more than willing to show you He cares. And He is more than ready to show you His stuff! He can turn your circumstances around in an instant. I know. He’s done it for me. He’s got a great track record. That’s how I know I can trust what the Bible says, “What the enemy intended for evil, God meant for good.” Murphy’s got nothing on you, or me, because God can take anything and turn it around.

Too often we believe Murphy’s Law as truth instead of believing God’s law as truth. What does Murphy know? He obviously didn’t know the scripture; “All things are possible for those who believe.” So with just that verse in mind, if you tell your mind to think you are going to escape your string of circumstances, you will. It just depends on whom you’re going to believe. God, or Murphy? You choose. Then notify your brain!

So, how do you reverse Murphy’s Law? …STOP believing Murphy’s Law!

Let’s put Murphy’s Law in Reverse: “Everything is possible if you believe; things can happen in an instant; and if something can go right, have faith that it will – at the best possible moment!”

Tell yourself to chew on that the next time life throws you a curve ball and you will reverse Murphy’s Law in your life. Murphy can’t touch you…unless you let him!

Has this worked for you? Talk to us. Leave your comments below. Thanks!

4 Bad Mood Busters

 

4 Bad Mood Busters

You’re in a bad mood? So what’s bugging you? Someone tick you off? Got a bill you can’t pay? Or did you just wake up that way today? It happens. Life sometimes stinks. If you’re looking for a lift, let me show you how to rise above a bad mood when it’s gripping you.

1. Focus on the Sweet Stuff

Yes, I said sweet, not sour. Oh, I know right now all you can taste is the sour and it’s really hard to get that taste out of your mouth. But let’s gargle a little and rinse it out. When you’ve got bad breath, you’re willing to let take a big slurp of mouthwash, right? In this case, you sip on some sweet thoughts and let it swish around in your mind and mouth.

Can’t find any mind-mouth wash? Let me get your started.

Mind-Mouth wash:

  • Who are 3 people who love you? List them.
  • What are 3 of your best accomplishments? Make note. Your building up speed here!
  • What are 3 things that you are looking forward to in the next few days? Mention them one by one. That was fun, right?

Now, if you can make a choice to think about the sweet things you just thought of instead of the sour stuff you were thinking about before – your mood will begin to change. I guarantee it.

Do you feel it? It’s happening already isn’t it? Is there a little smile beginning to form deep down on the inside if you? Oh, it’s coming. Wait for it. It will eventually make its way to your face. Let’s see what else you can do to bust that bad mood…

2. Find Your Thanks In Advance

Admit it, even smelly manure can be a good thing. It makes rockin fertilizer! Fertilize your mood as you look for the benefit behind the smelly stuff of life. This way, manure causes growth! Yeah baby!!!

What smells in your life right now? Here’s how to churn it into fertilizer:

You may not have the money today to pay your mortgage or rent, but you can be thankful that you have food in the fridge. What? There’s not much in there? I hear ya. You may not have the fridge stocked with food that floats your boat. Prime rib would really rock right now, huh? BUT, what IS in that fridge that you can be thankful for? A few eggs? Ok, thank God for those eggs. Leftovers from the night before? Ok, be thankful that meal stretched and you’re still feasting on it!

David talking to God in Psalm 16:2 says, “…All the good things I have are from you.” You get the point, no matter what is left in your fridge of life, thank God for what IS there. And if your fridge is empty, be thankful that you have a fridge and it’s ready to be filled up.

What are 3 things can you be thankful for today? Make a list.

I was driving down the road one day, and God asked me, “Are you going to wait till I give you everything you want before you praise me with everything you’ve got?” OUCH! I was withholding my thanks till I got what I wanted. Not good!

King David had it rough, but the guy praised God in advance. Psalm 13 starts out like this, “O Lord, how long will you forget me? Forever?…” but then he wakes up and smells the coffee. That chapter ends saying, “But, I trust in your unfailing love. I will rejoice because you have rescued me. I will sing to the Lord because he has been so good to me.” Now wait up! See, right there, David hadn’t been rescued yet. But David, the FUTURE king, had so much faith in the FUTURE; he speaks of it in PAST tense! Like he’s already got it! Whoa Nelly! Let’s get singing about our future! Find your thanks in advance.

3. Sing Your Thanks

When I’m in a sour mood, I find I have unknowingly shut off the “happy” music. Forgetting to hit play on my CD player grants me a sinking experience. Where to? Deeper into depths of despair. What you listen to creates an atmosphere inside you. So put some positive music in your ears because the song in your heart can bust up your bad mood. Especially if its a song speaking about the wonders and the good stuff of God. And bonus, it will eventually come out of your mouth and bust up other people’s bad moods.

I have two key people in my life who are constantly humming or singing. My best friend and my assistant do this without noticing it. I love being around the both of them. There they are just going about their business, humming in the background. And when they do, a smile goes off inside of me. My hums are off key, so when I hear theirs, it’s a welcomed treat! It lifts my spirit and brightens up my inside. Shhh, they had no idea! So sing, hum, put some tune to your thanks, it will sweeten the spot you’re in.

Here’s a great link to some incredible music that will bust up that bad mood. City of Life Worship on iTunes. Download it here:    http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/city-of-life-worship/id380856332

4. Talk Your Thanks

Finding it hard to convince yourself you have it good? Some say make a mental list. I say, speak out your list. If no one’s around, talk about your thanks to yourself. Say, I am glad I have…I am thankful for… Then graduate to talking about your thanks with others. Make it known. Talking about what you have, not what you don’t will bust up your bad mood. But talking about what you don’t have will keep you in a bad mood. I’m sure you have lots of stuff to be sad about, me too. But wake up. What you give attention to is what is in front of you. What is in front of you is what’s going to lead your mood. Push aside the sad stuff by putting the glad stuff in front. Taking your thoughts captive will get that smile creeping up out of your spirit and across your face.

When you need to bust up a bad mood, hit all four of these points and your mood will change. I absolutely guarantee it!

  1. Focus on the Sweet Stuff
  2. Find Your Thanks In Advance
  3. Sing Your Thanks
  4. Talk Your Thanks

PS, I love that your smile is making its way back to your face. Looking good!

How do you bust through a bad mood? Leave your tips below: