Tired of those looks? You know the ones I mean. You feel their eyes on you. Cutting you to pieces. Burning holes into your self esteem. The glances from people who think they are the standard of excellence in every area.

Declaring themselves the judge and jury, they’re busy sizing you up on their chart. Nothing slips by their radar. Nothing is out of reach from their inspectful watch. And watch they do. Watching to see if you make a mistake. Watching to see if you are up to par.

Did you say the right thing? Did you handle the situation the right way? Are you living your life they way they deem appropriate? Are you dressing to the standards they think are acceptable? Have you put on a few pounds? Does your hair style fit your face? How bout your kids? Did you enroll them in the right after-school program? According to the judge, are you spiritual enough? Look out, cause there they go again declaring your motive or heart to be anything but right or real.

 Come on, give us a break!

Tired of it?

Want to know how you can turn the tables on them?

Yeah, you heard me. You can make this stop. I’m going to show you how to stop ’em dead in their judgmental tracks. Ready?

Here’s what you have to do:

You have to stop judging too.

You be first to stop the cycle.

What cycle?

The cycle you started in motion.

Huh?

Ok, this may be hard for you to swallow, but the real reason people judge you is because somewhere along the way, you began judging others.

Ouch!

Really?

Yep.

God says so.

Matthew 7:1 & 2, “Don’t judge others, or you will be judged. 2 You will be judged in the same way that you judge others, and the amount you give to others will be given to you.” (NCV)

I love how the Message puts this: “Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging.”

Talk about a boomerang effect!

It’s plain and simple.

The buck stops with you.

You want to live in a judgement-free zone?

Then provide it for others.

It may have started years ago. So long ago, you can’t remember. You began to look at others with an inspectful eye. Maybe it was a defense mechanism. Insecure about some area of your life, you started looking for areas where you could put people down. Why? So you could look better. You need to be better at something, right? So you found a way to out-shine them. Now you look better because there’s a way you make them look bad.

Along with that, you slowly began to believe you knew more in some areas and it gave you the right to declare people “this” or “that”. You evolved into a being that was allowed to say or at least think, your two cents.

Know what? Your two cents aren’t worth crap. Oh, now, don’t get yourself in a tizzy thinking you don’t do this. Just take a look, an honest look. The facts speak for themselves, if you are being judged, then you have judged. It’s the result of your own judging. According to the Bible, you can’t get around this…unless you stop. Stop judging. You stop. Then others will stop. If you succeed, you will turn the tables.

What goes around, comes around. So if you want to stop being judged. Stop the cycle. Stop judging others. It begins with you. And how sweet it will be when it also ENDS with you!

What do you think? Yes, now I am asking for your two cents! Leave us a comment in the box below. Talk to you soon!

5 Responses to “How To Turn the Tables On Those Who Judge You”

  1. Patty Clark

    Love, love, love this!!! I love it for me, too, of course, but I had been thinking maybe I am being nicer to people because I don’t feel so judged anymore. But when I did feel that way … yep, you hit the nail on the head!
    Just reading the title, I was thinking of a person who feels overly criticized by those Christians, and that might love to read this — and after I read it, well, no, I won’t forward it to that person!

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  2. Patty Clark

    Love, love, love this!!! I love it for me, too, of course, but I had been thinking maybe I am being nicer to people because I don’t feel so judged anymore. But when I did feel that way … yep, you hit the nail on the head!
    Just reading the title, I was thinking of a person who feels overly criticized by “those Christians,” and that might love to read this — and after I read it, well, no, I won’t forward it to that person!

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    • Linda

      Patty, thanks for your comments. And as far as the person you were going to send this to…Do It! 😉 You could always couch it by saying, “hey, this might be helpful, or maybe not!” I think there’s a “little” judge in all of us!

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  3. Susan

    Wow! Excellent. You gave the right key to open the door to a happier life. Its a good reminder for me. I am deeply glad I read this article because I need to increase my efforts in not being critical in a silent way. You know what I mean. This key also helps to receive the abundant unlimited goodness that belongs to us by legal divine right paid by Christ in the cross. Blessing 🙂

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    • Linda

      Thanks Susan. That’s an area I need to grow in too! Thanks for reading and replying!

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