How You Can Make Smarter Decisions Based on My Decision About Getting a Nose Ring
Just for kicks, I asked my teenage kids what they thought of me getting a nose ring. I’m not talking a hoop or anything like that protruding from my nose in an awkward fashion. Just a tiny diamond stud. You know, something tiny yet with a bit of dazzle.

 

My daughter was the first to speak up. She’s 14 but declares she is the Ann Landers of her generation. She said very sweetly, “Mom, I don’t want to hurt your feelings but you are too old for a nose ring. You have too many wrinkles.” Ouch. Not so sure why she equates wrinkles with non-nose ring wear, but ok! I took her thoughts to heart. Then I decided to get the opinions of a few others. 56 others to be exact.

Yes, within 2 hours, 56 people had responded to my Facebook post.

This is what I put out there:

“My daughter says that being 43 automatically disqualifies me from getting a nose ring! Your thoughts?”

Oh my! The responses ranged from, “Yes, “go for it!” to, “You’re too cool or beautiful and that would ruin you!”

Ruin me?! Really?!

Here’s the decision I made and why it can help you when you are up against making the right decision verses the wrong one.

1. Help People Trust You

First impressions shouldn’t really matter, but they do. So in an age where people look on outward appearance instead of the heart, we have to help them trust us. That may mean foregoing a freedom or fashion statement in order to win their confidence and trust. That’s not how it should be. But that’s how it is. I’m not saying it’s right or fair. But that’s reality. People judge based on appearance.

My rule has always been this:

Form a light-first impression based on the outward, but always be prepared to change your view of someone based on what you learn about them. The more interaction you have with someone, the more you get to know him or her. First impressions can be right, but they can also be very very wrong. Sometimes it takes years to really know someone.

Unfortunately, not everyone plays by my rules. So here’s what else I recommend:

2. Remember Who You Are And What That Stands For

I am a pastor and I take my role as a pastor very seriously. I am also a professional counselor. I don’t know many PhD’s with nose rings. (Maybe I just haven’t met the right ones yet!) But my thought is this; if I had to connect with an ultra conservative group, or mingle in a professional one, would the nose ring keep me from being heard? Or would people discount what I have to offer because of that stud in my nose? Sadly, yes.

Yes, it’s ok for me to get a nose ring. But it’s even better not to right now so that nothing stands in the way of touching someone’s life. I want to be more thoughtful. In your realm or arena, it might be perfectly acceptable for you to done a nose ring. If so, I’m glad you get to have one. For me, right now, it’s probably not the best idea.

I have decided to give up freedoms that I rightfully have in order to connect with and be accepted by others. If having a nose ring would in any way keep me from being a blessing to others because they may not be able to get past the jewelry in my nose, then I will give up my right to have a nose ring.

I don’t want my freedom to cause anyone to stumble. And how would they stumble? By not accepting me based on my outward appearance. (Romans 14 has some darn good stuff about this. Check it out.)

So, at this point in my life, no nose ring! Maybe when nose rings become more accepted, just like women wearing pants has become more accepted since the 1940’s, I might just go for it! But not until I know it won’t keep others from connecting with me. Their bad, I know! But my heart to serve them overrides their bad in making an unfair judgment. 

What rights are you willing to give up in order to reach more people? I’m thinking that’s more important. Call me crazy? Chime in. I’d love to hear what you think in the comment section.


Do You Have Enough Guts to Bring God Glory?
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Next time there is a full moon, take a peek and notice her splendor. I guarantee she’ll knock your socks off if you give her a glance!

Have you ever thought about what the moon does? It generates no light. But baby, it shines!

Apart from the sun, the moon is nothing more than a dark black, marked-up rock. BUT, when it’s properly positioned, the moon beams. Let her do what she was made to do, and a clod of dirt becomes a source of illumination & inspiration. All that happens when the moon reflects the greater light, the sun.

I bring this up because that’s what you and I can do. But it only happens when we are in the right position to the Son -The Son of God. When in position, we become a source of illumination, and inspiration.

Look how the Bible explains it…

2 Corinthians 3:18 says, “All of us can see and reflect the glory of the Lord. And the Lord—who is the Spirit—makes us more and more like him as we are changed into his glorious image.”

What is so cool is that you don’t have to be perfect, you just have to be in position. Like the moon, you have marks–don’t we all! But you can still reflect the light.

You can have habits you are still trying to kick… But over the years you can change more and more. And as you do, you reflect Gods glory more and more.

The Bible says, we are changed from glory to glory. Know what that means? The more and more we act like God, the more and more we look like God. And that brings God glory!

To make this happen, it takes guts! Let me ask you, do you have enough guts to bring God glory?

No Guts, No Glory
You’ve heard the phrase, “No guts, no glory.” That is so true. If you don’t have the guts to impact someone’s life, then God gets no glory.

I failed to have guts one time. I was at Tropi Grill, there was a lady sitting there. She was minding her own business, eating her Tropi chops. I wanted to mind my own business and eat my Tropi chops. But guess what? God wanted me to speak to her. He said, “Just tell her I love her.” That’s it. Just one line. I didn’t want to.

He said again, “All I want you to do is tell her I love her. That’s it.” So I’m sitting there arguing with God, saying things like, “I don’t feel like it, I’m too tired, I’m too hungry.”

I thought, What if this is the devil telling me to do this? Then God said, “Do you actually think the devil would ask you to tell someone God loves them?” Hmm, probably not!

What I learned is that even if it’s not God’s voice, but it’s a good thing, just do it anyway, cause 9 times out of 10 it is God’s voice.

Because I sat there so long, the lady got up and left. I lost my chance.

Because I didn’t have the guts, God didn’t get the glory.

The Message says in Ephesians 5:1

Watch what God does, and then you do it, like children who learn proper behavior from their parents. Mostly what God does is love you. Keep company with Him and learn a life of love. Love like God does.

Any way you can love on someone – brings Glory to God because when you do these things – you look like God. It points people to Him. It brings Him glory.

You don’t have to be perfect to bring God glory. You just have to have guts!

Get gutsy, so you too, can glorify God!

Let us know how you have been gutsy enough to bring God glory. Hit up the comment section. Thanks!

 

Tired of those looks? You know the ones I mean. You feel their eyes on you. Cutting you to pieces. Burning holes into your self esteem. The glances from people who think they are the standard of excellence in every area.

Declaring themselves the judge and jury, they’re busy sizing you up on their chart. Nothing slips by their radar. Nothing is out of reach from their inspectful watch. And watch they do. Watching to see if you make a mistake. Watching to see if you are up to par.

Did you say the right thing? Did you handle the situation the right way? Are you living your life they way they deem appropriate? Are you dressing to the standards they think are acceptable? Have you put on a few pounds? Does your hair style fit your face? How bout your kids? Did you enroll them in the right after-school program? According to the judge, are you spiritual enough? Look out, cause there they go again declaring your motive or heart to be anything but right or real.

 Come on, give us a break!

Tired of it?

Want to know how you can turn the tables on them?

Yeah, you heard me. You can make this stop. I’m going to show you how to stop ’em dead in their judgmental tracks. Ready?

Here’s what you have to do:

You have to stop judging too.

You be first to stop the cycle.

What cycle?

The cycle you started in motion.

Huh?

Ok, this may be hard for you to swallow, but the real reason people judge you is because somewhere along the way, you began judging others.

Ouch!

Really?

Yep.

God says so.

Matthew 7:1 & 2, “Don’t judge others, or you will be judged. 2 You will be judged in the same way that you judge others, and the amount you give to others will be given to you.” (NCV)

I love how the Message puts this: “Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging.”

Talk about a boomerang effect!

It’s plain and simple.

The buck stops with you.

You want to live in a judgement-free zone?

Then provide it for others.

It may have started years ago. So long ago, you can’t remember. You began to look at others with an inspectful eye. Maybe it was a defense mechanism. Insecure about some area of your life, you started looking for areas where you could put people down. Why? So you could look better. You need to be better at something, right? So you found a way to out-shine them. Now you look better because there’s a way you make them look bad.

Along with that, you slowly began to believe you knew more in some areas and it gave you the right to declare people “this” or “that”. You evolved into a being that was allowed to say or at least think, your two cents.

Know what? Your two cents aren’t worth crap. Oh, now, don’t get yourself in a tizzy thinking you don’t do this. Just take a look, an honest look. The facts speak for themselves, if you are being judged, then you have judged. It’s the result of your own judging. According to the Bible, you can’t get around this…unless you stop. Stop judging. You stop. Then others will stop. If you succeed, you will turn the tables.

What goes around, comes around. So if you want to stop being judged. Stop the cycle. Stop judging others. It begins with you. And how sweet it will be when it also ENDS with you!

What do you think? Yes, now I am asking for your two cents! Leave us a comment in the box below. Talk to you soon!


Two Things That Could Keep You From Praying
Over the years I’ve heard people describe desert-like experiences with God. They go on explaining their state by saying they, “Just can’t pray.” Well, what’s that all about? It means something is blocking them from connecting with God. Secretly they might even blame God for the disconnect. He’s the problem, right? He doesn’t want to hear their prayers.

Maybe that’s you too. Are you feeling like He’s…um, out to lunch? Or maybe hitting up Starbucks and He’d rather catch up with you later? Your prayers are getting hijacked. Something is blocking heaven, right? No, wait up. That something blocking your prayers is you!

It’s not God who doesn’t want to talk, it’s you, who doesn’t want to talk with God.

I’ve come to realize that when someone says they can’t pray, it really means they WON’T pray.

God says His ears are open to the prayers of the righteous. His ears are attentive to their cries. So don’t go telling me God’s the problem. Read it for yourself in 1 Peter 3:12.

We can audaciously and boldly get in His face. In Hebrews 4:16, the Bible says, “come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.”

So what’s the REAL reason you can’t pray?

1. Maybe You Don’t Feel Worthy

If that’s true for you, then get worthy!

All it takes is telling God how sorry you are for the things that aren’t right in your life and you’re on your way.

Acts 3:19 says, “Now it’s time to change your ways! Turn to face God so he can wipe away your sins, pour out showers of blessing to refresh you, and send you the Messiah he prepared for you, namely, Jesus.” (From the Message)

Ask for forgiveness. What are you waiting for? The ball’s in your court. Spill it and soon you’ll be in God’s court.

2. Maybe You Don’t Believe

Ahh, now that’s a problem, isn’t it? Why would you ask God for anything if you don’t believe? You won’t! So, let’s fix that. This is nothing earth shattering here, but just ask God to help you believe.

I love the story in the Bible where the guy says to Jesus, “I do believe, but help me to believe more” Huh?! He believed but apparently it wasn’t enough. Been there. Done that. What I did: I asked for more belief. Guess what? God delivered. He backed up a truckload of belief into my yard and started dumping. Little by little I believed more and more. Eventually I was waist deep in belief.

Do you need more belief? Ask God for it. No shame in that. And when you do, you too, will be ready for a face to face with God.

What other challenges have you faced in prayer? Leave your comments. Talk to you soon!

If you found this helpful, you might want to read this one:                  How to Handle It When God Doesn’t Answer You                


Why You Lose When You Compare Yourself to Others & How to STOP

It’s tempting isn’t it? Looking at someone and wondering just how well you measure up to them. Hair, appearance, size, position, talent, wealth, education, intellect, athletic prowess, people skills. The list is deep and it also goes wide. There’s no end when comparing yourself to the girl or guy next door. And if you do, let me tell you, you lose! Read on and I’ll explain. I’ll also show you how you can STOP comparing yourself to others. Let’s go!

When Walt Disney was a young school boy, his teacher saw him drawing pictures of flowers. She said, “They’re very nice Walter but don’t you know, flowers don’t have faces.” He looked up and said, “Mine do.” I love that! Even as a small boy, Walt Disney had the guts to stick up for who he was. He was true to himself. He did his own thing. And that’s probably one

of the reasons why he was so successful. He didn’t let anybody cramp his style.

Oh, but you do let people cramp your style, don’t you? I betcha just recently you were feeling pressured or feeling badly about yourself because you were not like someone else. You were deciding you don’t fit someone else’s image of who you should be. Have I got your number?

When you do either of these two things above, you miss out on who YOU are supposed to be! And that is so dangerous because you get the WRONG IDEA of who you’re supposed to be. You become confused and don’t know who you are.

When you compare yourself to others you get the wrong idea of who you’re supposed to be. You become confused and don’t know who you are.

There’s a story about a farm boy that I read in one of Chuck Swindoll’s books, who found an eagle’s nest with an egg in it. He took the egg from the nest, and when he got home, he put it under a hen along with her other eggs.

Since the eagle’s egg hatched among chicks, the eagle thought he was a chicken. He learned chicken behavior from his “mother” and scratched in the chicken yard along with his “siblings”. He didn’t know any better. And when he sometimes felt strange stirrings within him, thoughts, like hmm, “I think I walk a little different from the rest of the crowd,” or “I seem to have longer wings than everybody else” – he ignored those thoughts. When he began to realize he had different qualities and was different from the rest, he buried those thoughts too. After all, when he looked around him all he saw were chickens, so he thought he must behave like a chicken. Talk about pressure!

But then one day an eagle flew over the farm. The chicken yard eagle looked up and saw him. In that moment, he realized he had the same kind of stuff that that eagle did. He wanted to fly high. He wanted to go to the mountain peaks he saw in the distance. So he spread his wings, which were much larger and stronger than those of his siblings. Suddenly he understood that he was different. He was an eagle. He was meant to fly.

Though he had never flown before, he possessed the instinct and the capabilities. He spread his wings once more and he took off. He soared high…because he stopped looking around him. He finally discovered his true self.

How sad it would have been for him to continue comparing himself to the other chickens, never measuring up. And why would that be sad?

Because he wasn’t a chicken. He could never measure up and wasn’t supposed to!

He couldn’t walk like the chickens, he couldn’t cluck like the chickens. Hello? It’s because he wasn’t a chicken! And that could have left him down and discouraged thinking he wasn’t good enough.

You may be going through life comparing yourself to others. You’re feeling worthless and not good enough because you don’t walk like others, talk like others, and do things like others. Look, you’re not supposed to be like others.

You can’t fly like an eagle if your stuck on the ground trying to be like the other chickens! So, here’s how to get off the ground:

1. Make a List of Your Greatest Attributes & Abilities

This may sound silly, even cocky if you don’t know where I’m coming from with this, but reserve judgment till you get what I’m about to share with you. I remember driving down the road when I was 16 years old, listing all of my greatness. Now, don’t let that fool you. I wasn’t conceited or stuck on myself or anything like that. After giving myself a honest evaluation, I made a mental list of my good stuff. Great stuff. Because inside of everyone of us is great stuff. God made us with great stuff. You have greatness in you just like I do. You just have to see it. And when you do, you can make a list of your greatness too!

2. When you come up against thoughts of comparing – knock em down!

Resist the urge to measure yourself up against someone you see or that comes to mind. If you encounter Carey, an acquaintance in the shoe department at Macy’s, quit inspecting her outfit and trying to discover if those shoes are real Gucci stilettos. If they are, so what? You have bigger fish in your own frying pan. Look deep. Greatness is there. If you walk by Bill in the break room, don’t think, “If I were only as tall as him.” Stop it! Don’t let your mind go there! Let it go here: back to your list of your Greatest Attributes & Abilities. 

Focus on your Greatness. Soon you will see you have no reason to compare.

The more you see the great attributes and abilities that God has built into you, the less you will have need to measure them against someone elses.

Galations 6:4 says this:

“Let everyone be sure that he is doing his very best, for then he will have the personal satisfaction of work well done, and won’t need to compare himself with someone else.”

List your greatness and you’ll no longer need to compare! 

Did this hit home with you? Do you have any input or advice to add? Leave a reply. Thanks!

If you enjoyed this post, check out some related posts by clicking on this link: Are You Weird in a Good Way?


One Thing You Need to Stay Thankful ALL the Time
Even though there are so many blessings around me that I can’t count them all, my eyes are sometimes blinded to them because I choose to focus on my difficulties. So if you’re in any way like me and you sometimes find it challenging to STAY thankful  ALL the time, let me share one thing that you need. It helps me stay grateful and I know It will help you too.

I had an ear-accident a couple of months ago that has left me with nerve damage and a constant static sound in my right ear. I have my own little white noise maker that never shuts off. It’s like 24/7 radio static. It has made it more difficult to have conversations with my husband and kids. It’s made it a bit tougher to talk with others in a group. Sadly, background noise kills any desire I have to tune into a particular person when they are speaking.

I was hoping and trusting that this would be temporary. I saw a specialist and I underwent steroid treatments to restore the damage. No improvement as of yet. Do I still hope? Yes. Do I still have to deal with diminished hearing and constant buzzing in my ear? Yes. And I will be flat out honest with you, it is sometimes a challenge to see the other blessings that I enjoy in sight of a constant and ever present hearing challenge. So what am I doing to remain thankful? What are you doing to remain thankful even though you too, are enduring challenges that haven’t let up?

Get Out Your Thanksgiving-Detector

One thing you and I must do: Be intentional about finding something worthy of our thanks. I call this

“intentional searching”. You and I need to get our thanksgiving-detectors out and start searching. Just like those folks searching for treasure on a beach with a metal detector, we must be constantly searching for reasons to be thankful. And I probably don’t need to tell you, it may take awhile. Pushing through the sand and looking inspect-fully over your terrain takes determination. It takes intentionally reminding yourself of what you have in light of what you don’t.

Regardless of what you have lost or what you don’t yet have, if you are a believer in Christ, that’s enough to be thankful. It amazes me that I sometimes have to remind myself how good I have it with Christ in my life. What’s more amazing and sometimes shameful, is that I have to remind myself that Christ saved me. Christ and the gift of salvation, is MORE THAN ENOUGH to make us thankful. Sadly, that is what we forget most often.


Blinded by Difficult Stuff

It’s a chronic condition. Blinded by what we have or blinded by what we don’t have can become our focus. So, take this challenge with me this Thanksgiving season and let it become the way you do life even after the holidays. Let’s (that’s you and I), be intentional about searching for our thanks.
If we don’t search for our thanks we will get swallowed up in ungratefulness.  It’s so easy to do. Remove the blinders. Be intentional. Search for your thanks.  The Psalmist was onto something when he sang to God, “I enter your courts with thanksgiving.” This means that he choose to be thankful even before he got into God’s presence. Before he was face to face with God, and before he said anything, he already had things on his mind that made him thankful.


Before you go to church this week
… before you even arrive and step foot in the door, put things in your mind that bring a sense of thankfulness into your being.

Or how about this, before you enter God’s presence in your quiet place, or before you utter one word to Him as you rise, picture items, relationships, circumstances, events, etc. that you are grateful for. When you do, your thanksgiving-detector will make a crazy sound that reaches the heavens as you reach
for your thanks!

If you need a little help, I found a nifty website that talks about all kinds of awesome stuff to be thankful for, check it out: 1000 Awesome Things.
And here’s a blog article from my archives that may help you find your thanks: It will rip you out of a bad mood!
You can also whisper this prayer that will get you going on your thanksgiving search:
“God, I know you have done so much for me that I can’t even list it all. When I am tempted to focus on my difficulties and challenges, turn my thoughts around. Help me to search for and draw thanksgiving out of my present condition and circumstances. Help me to reach down into the secret places of my heart so I can offer genuine thanksgiving to you. I live to give you praise. Everyday, I will find something to be thankful for.”
How do you find your thanks? Share it with us by clicking on the comment section. THANKS! 🙂


13 Guaranteed Ways to Make Yourself Sad

  1. Think about what you don’t have.
  2. Focus on what someone didn’t do for you.
  3. Think about what other’s have that you don’t.
  4. Compare yourself to others.
  5. Replay stupid things you’ve done over and over again in your mind.
  6. Stay angry.
  7. Sulk about how unfair life is.
  8. Refuse to forgive.
  9. Complain.
  10. Complain some more.
  11. Continue to review your hurts over and over again.
  12. Beat yourself up.
  13. Think about how miserable you are.

Proverbs 13:12 says,

Hope deferred makes the heart sick.

If you’re deferring hope (which is exactly what you’re doing when you engage in any of the above activities), you’re doing exactly what the Bible tells you to do to be sad. Congrats!

You CAN think yourself sad. Go for it. It will work for you.

Then when you’re sick of being sad…click on this link to read a great post:  4 Bad Mood Busters 

Or watch this video if you really want to know how to be happy. Click here:  How to be Happy When Life Bites!!

Got any other ways you use to become sad? Leave us your list by clicking “comments” at the top. Thanks for your input!


How to Handle It When God Doesn’t Answer You
Come on, where is God when you need to know the skinny on the situation?!

Can it get any worse? You ask and ask. No reply.

Is baffled a good way to describe how you’re feeling? How about abandoned? Feeling forgotten? Do you have more questions than answers?

Maybe you’ve been thrown a curve ball, and it seems like God hasn’t even noticed. Let me help you figure out how to handle it. There is a way to press on even when God doesn’t seem to be on the scene with you. And He’s certainly not doing any talking! Read on.

1. Know there is an answer – even if you can’t figure it out.

I heard a story about a guy who was condemned to solitary confinement in a pitch-black cell. The only thing he had to occupy his mind was a marble.

This marble became his prized possession. He would throw it repeatedly against the walls. He spent hours listening to the marble as it bounced and rolled around the room. Then he would fumble around in the darkness until he found his precious toy.

One day, the prisoner threw his marble upward. But it didn’t come down. Only silence echoed through the darkness. He was deeply disturbed by the “evaporation” of the marble. And what was worse, he couldn’t explain its disappearance.

It just didn’t make sense. He could not figure it out. Finally, he went berserk, pulled out all of his hair, and died! He couldn’t handle the fact that there was no answer. No answer as to why the most precious thing in his life had been ripped away from him.

When the prison officials came to remove his body, a guard noticed something caught in a huge spider’s web in the upper corner of the room. “That’s strange, he thought, I wonder how a marble got up there?”

I’m sure you sometimes ask questions that the mind isn’t capable of answering. But valid answers always exist. You just aren’t always privy to the answer.

What can you do?

Accept that there is an answer, even if you don’t get the answer.

Here’s another thing you need to know when God doesn’t make sense:

2. Sometimes God doesn’t answer you, because even if He did, you may not understand.

My kids used to have this tiny little turtle named “Speedy.”  We’d set Speedy’s bowl down on the back porch near the pool. No lie, that silly little turtle would crawl out of his bowl and plunge into our swimming pool!

Speedy saw this big blue ocean in front of him, and he must have thought, sweet! But the little thing didn’t realize that the chlorine could damage his shell and that he would eventually become filter bait. We’d put him back in his bowl only to find him again swimming in this huge pool.

My daughter Tiffany was just a tiny 3-year old girl at the time. Tiny as she was, she thought she was going to teach him a big lesson. Tiff picked him up, looked him in the eyes, and said, “Speedy, you can’t do that. You can’t jump into the pool!”

Tyler, my son, who was 3 years older was observing all of this and he said, “Tiffany, what are you doing? Don’t you realize that turtle doesn’t get it?!”

Admit it, you don’t get what God’s saying all of the time either. In comparison to God, your kinda just like a little turtle!

Understand that you may not always understand.

I can kind of relate. As a mom, I don’t always give my kids explanations for my decisions. I don’t have to. I’m MOM! The reason I sometimes refuse to explain myself to them is because they just wouldn’t get it even if I told them. In some cases they are just too immature to understand. So I’m not going to waste my breath. Wonder if God feels the same way about us sometimes? Probably!

Isaiah 55:8 says:

My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine.

So there’s a third thing you can do when you don’t get answers:

3. Trust him anyway.

Have you ever seen a baby giraffe born? Probably not. Here’s how it goes down:

The mother giraffe gives birth to its young standing up, and the distance from the birth canal to the ground is about ten feet. Think of this – ten feet is approximately the height for dunking a basketball.

So the calf falls out of its mother ten feet above ground, and lands on its back. It lies there for a few moments. Then it scrambles to get its legs underneath it.

As the mother lowers her head to see the baby, she moves until she is towering directly above the calf. About a minute later comes the shocking surprise.

The mother giraffe swings her long leg out and boots her baby through the air! The calf sprawls head over heals across the ground, usually puzzled and protesting!

You might be wondering, “What’s that all about? Why would she do that to her child?”

She wants him to get up.

And if he doesn’t get up, she’s going to do it again.

Sure enough the process is repeated again and again. As the baby grows tired of trying, the mother will again kick him right off his feet.

But then the calf stands. Wobbly, but it finally stands on its little legs.

Surprisingly the mother again boots the baby into the air. Again he is flung across the ground. Wow! Wouldn’t you be astonished by a mother’s brutal treatment of her newborn calf?

She does that though so it remembers how it got back up. That’s why she knocks it down again. As the giraffe matures he learns to trust his mother’s blows…for they have strengthened him.

When God doesn’t give us answers, we need to trust him anyway. When He allows us to get knocked down, remember, He has the best in mind for us. It may seem like He’s letting life kick you around. But trust Him.

I guess the conclusion you have to come to is that God doesn’t have to give you answers…

IF you trust him!

Isaiah 40:31 (NLT) says:

But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.

What do you do when God doesn’t give you answers: Trust Him anyway.

How do you handle it when God doesn’t answer you? Give us your advice in the comment section.

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How heavy is the load you’re carrying? Let me show you how to give God your heavy load and grab a lighter one instead.
When I was VERY pregnant, I’m talking hugely pregnant, going to the grocery store was a burden!
Pushing a cartload of groceries was hard work considering I was also carrying an extra 50lbs of fluids and baby.There was this one day in my ninth month of pregnancy that I will remember forever. I was bringing the groceries in from the car to the house. Knowing this was going to be a huge task, I popped the trunk and started plotting my strategy.
I was grabbing all of the heavy bags first so that I could come back and get the lighter bags.
Huffing and puffing, I made my way to the door with the two heaviest bags. Then out of the corner of my eye I saw my husband come around and I thought, “Cool, he’s going to help me!”Here’s my knight and shining armor to the rescue! Not so fast. What he did ticked me off! He went for all the light grocery bags like the napkins, paper towels, and toilet paper. What a stinker!

As you can imagine I am burning with anger and raging hormones. But what he did next surprised me. When he met me halfway, he said, “Stop, you take these lighter bags and let me take the heavy ones you have.” At that moment I felt so much love in my heart for that man! We exchanged loads and I was immediately relieved.

You have a knight in shining armor at your disposal too. One who’s ready to take your heavy load and give you a lighter one.

Jesus says in Matthew 11:28-30 (NCV)

Come to me, all of you who are tired and have heavy loads, and I will give you rest. Accept my teachings and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in spirit, and you will find rest for your lives. The burden that I ask you to accept is easy; the load I give you to carry is light.

Jesus is more than willing to lighten your load but there’s a catch. Here’s what you need to do in order for this to happen:

You have to meet up with him in order to make the exchange. 

If you don’t connect with him he can’t take the heavy stuff off your hands. Then guess what?  You will be stuck carrying ALL the bags. No connection, no exchange. It’s that simple. You can’t exchange something with someone unless you make contact with them.

I know it’s difficult to put on the breaks and stop when you are going a hundred miles an hour. You’re carrying a lot of weight and have been for a while. And when you have been going at it non-stop for an extended period of time, it’s so stinking hard to wind down. Even when you do try to take a break your adrenaline is still racing. You may be sitting down physically, but you’re still running mentally!

So, how do you go about shifting into lower gear? If you are ready to hit your own little personal pause button so you and Jesus can make the exchange, this is how it works:

1. Get quiet. 

Get away from all the noise, people, and projects. Just pause. This is the only way you will quiet your soul enough to hear what God says. Let him speak to your inner man (or woman). As you do, He will refresh you. He will whisper things to you that you ache to hear. You can’t hear a whisper in a noisy room, can you? Get quiet so you can hear what He has to say.

And what will this sound like? Encouraging words, strength for the journey, and enlightenment. Without this personal pause-time, life will be unfocused and scattered. Settle down until your soul settles.

2. Wait until He refreshes you. 

I know it’s tough waiting for something. But don’t be in such a hurry to rush off. Hang around in God’s presence as long as you can. God has life giving stuff He wants to pour into you. Talk about an energy drink, this even tops coffee!

Remember what He said in the verse above, “accept my teachings and learn from me.” This is where He helps you evaluate everything you have been doing. He will press meaning into your performance. And when needed, He’ll show you a better way of going about your business that will ease the load. That’s refreshing! And know, He will NEVER leave you to figure out your problems on your own. (For more on that, read this post: Ever Feel Like God Has Left the Building? Why You Are Never Alone. )

Ready for the chaos and the world to stop around you? Me too! Relief is on the way. But don’t forget, we have to make contact with God in order to exchange our heavy load for His lighter one!