Fail like a boss! That’s what we’re going to do today so you can get the most out of your failure. If you’ve messed up and screwed up royally, know you’re not alone. Consider the failures of other people just like you…

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Ever heard of the guy who wanted to irrigate deserts of the world by sending a constant supply of snowballs from the polar region through a massive network of giant peashooters?

You’re smiling. You’re also thinking, “she’s making this up.”

Nope.

It’s all documented in a book I’m reading called The Book of Failures, by Stephen Pile. It’s got unbelievable stuff in it. I’m putting together a presentation for Chick-Fil-A leaders on failure and I’m using some of these stories to show that everyone – yes – everyone – FAILS.

In fact, you have to experience failure in order to have success.

Think about some of your big flops for a moment.

Do they still sting?

Take comfort in knowing other people have failed bigger than you…

Just for kicks, look at this stupendous fail:

Back in 1978 a fireman’s strike in England made possible one of the greatest animal rescue attempts of all time. The British Army had taken over emergency firefighting. One day, January 14th – if you care to know, they were called out by an elderly lady in South London to retrieve her cat.

They arrived with impressive speed, and very cleverly and carefully rescued the cat and started to drive away. But the lady was so grateful she invited the squad of heroes in for tea. Driving away later, waving goodbye, they ran over the cat and killed it.

OMGosh! Sorry —I can’t help but laugh. They killed it!

Obviously, no one goes out of the way to have bad experiences. But the truth is, the negative experiences we have can do us some good, if we are willing to let them.

The next time you have a bad experience, allow it to help you do the following:

1. Accept your humanness. No matter how good you are at something, you will mess up at times. So when you do, give yourself some grace.

2. Learn to laugh at yourself and life. Does humor fix everything in life? No, but it will make it more tolerable. Laughter is like changing a baby’s diaper —it doesn’t permanently solve any problems, but it makes things more acceptable for a while.

3. Keep the right perspective. Denis Waitley says, “Mistakes are painful when they happen, but years later a collection of mistakes is what is called experience.” When you’re little, the waves look massive, and you fear that they may overwhelm you. As an adult, the same size waves may be seen as a source of relaxation and fun. Fight for the right perspective.

4. Don’t base your self-worth on a bad experience. You are not your performance. Read that again! And you don’t have to be defined by your worst moments. So don’t base your self-image on those things. Don’t ever tell yourself, “I am a failure.” Instead, say to yourself: I may have missed that one, but I’m still okay. I can still be a winner.”

5. Don’t feel sorry for yourself. One of the worst things you can to is start feeling sorry for yourself. Ok, if you have a bad experience, you can feel sorry for yourself for twenty-four hours, but then after that, pic yourself up and get moving again. Because if you start to wallow you just might get stuck.

I love how the Bible encourages us to “number our days.” (Psalm 90:12). The verse goes on to promise that when we do that we get wiser. I take this to mean we gain wisdom when we look at the bigger picture.

Have you failed recently? Almost to the point of distraction? Number your days. Get a little perspective. Realize that it won’t be long before you will look back on that up-tight, high-powered, super-charged issue with a whole new outlook.

You may laugh out loud in the future at something you’re eating your heart out over today.

Action Item:
If something blows up in your face today, after the smoke clears, try smiling instead of crying.

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You’ve been there. God speaks. You hide. He nudges you a little harder. You come up with an excuse. He gets a little louder, so does the voice in your head that says… “You can’t pull that off!”

  • Have you ever felt God prompting you to do something, yet you resist because you don’t think you can do it?
  • Do you get sick at the thought of doing what God told you to do?
  • When he says jump, would you rather stay put because you’re afraid of what might happen?

If so, on today’s “Christianity Made Easy” podcast we’re going to discuss how you can get enough guts to give God glory!

I’ll share 2 stories about failing royally when God asked me to do something for him. I’ll reveal my feelings of insecurity, where they came from, and how I tackled them – or not! (Yes, I’ve told God “NO!” more than once.)

And you’ll be surprised to know that even if you refuse to do what God’s asked you to do the first time, He always has a plan B for you! 

IMG_0003Dive into this podcast and discover 2 keys to overcoming your insecurities so you can reach your destiny and do the very thing God has told you to do…regardless of how stubborn you’ve been in the past.

Like Moses, you can jump over your insecurities and grab your God given purpose. Listen to the podcast by clicking here or head over to iTunes if you have an Apple device. Let’s pop those insecurities in the mouth and jump that hurdle!


Why God Hates it When You Trash Talk YOURSELF
Imagine this…You forget to unplug the iron, it falls and burns a big ol’ hole in your ironing board cover. Rats! Thank God, it didn’t catch the house on fire. Still, you feel like an loser.

Or get this, You’re late and your whipping in and out of traffic like Jeff Gordon. All of the sudden your car slows down and it’s not because you let your foot off the accelerator. It’s because your gas tank has gone bone dry. You forgot to get gas this morning. Grrrrrr!….You think, “I’m such a dork!”

Or you bounce a check…again. In fact, it’s the third check you’ve bounced this month. Not intentional. Just happened. You were juggling things – trying to make it all work. Fail. Fail. Fail. What slips out of your mouth? I’m such a failure!

When you goof up, what’s the first thought that races through your mind?

I am so stupid!

Really?

Is that the best you can come up with?

Or try this on for size…

“Gosh, I just can’t get it right.”

“I am so forgetful.”

“I’m an irresponsible dim whit.”

“I’m such a goof!”

“Nice job, bozo!”

“I’m such a fool, will I ever learn?”

“I will never get ahead!”

Ouch. Ouch. Ouch.

Wonder how God stomachs all of our insane, self-inflicting comments when we start letting them roll.

Right now, I’m picturing God sitting on His throne, listening to someone tear you, someone He loves, into shreds. Doesn’t matter that the same person who’s spouting off the name-calling is also the recipient. When you start getting down on yourself, you’re hurting someone God loves.

And that’s wrong. Stop.

Know what? God would never call you names. Regardless of your mistakes! And God would never ask you to do anything He doesn’t do himself. If He asks us to think about the good in other people, then He’s thinking about the good things in us too.

Let’s take it a step further. God asks you to think Philippians 4:8 about yourself.

And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Phil 4:8 (NLT)

What about you is true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, and admirable?

Think on that! But don’t just think on that, FIX your thoughts on that. In other words, those thoughts about the good in you should consume the majority of your thoughts. When you “fix” something in your mind, your thoughts don’t move. They stay. They stay on the good.

Rather than trash yourself, treasure yourself.

Cause you are good stuff to think about and you’re good stuff talk about.

Let me know if this post has connected with you. Tell me about your struggle and your success in the area of talking about yourself. Pop your thoughts into the comment section!