Got fear? Pick one and let’s start solving your fear problem with these 3 simple steps.

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Last night our dog Latte, was in fight mode. My son had some friends over late – like after the rest of us were in bed kind of late – to plan a chapel service for his alma mater, City of Life Christian Academy.

So we’ve got a group of 5 college ministry students entering the house. Good kids. Not a bit of malice in any of them. Latte’s sitting there unaware in the dark. She’s surprised by the crowd that’s pouring in the front door. Tyler’s not worried. He’s thinking she’ll calm down.

Great idea Ty. He’s doing a good thing, planning a great event for over 300 students. Except he forgot that when Latte smells danger she goes into fear mode and fights. In fact, she attacked Hank, one of Tyler’s best buddies.

No problem, Latte’s just being a good little watch dog, right?

Well, sorta. See, Hank is a regular at our house. She knows him. She sniffs him. She licks him. But last night she bit him.

What was Latte’s deal? Why did she fear something she’s familiar with? …Hank?

Seriously…Hank is such a sweetie!

I’m no dog whisperer, but Latte WRONGLY perceived Hank as a danger. Maybe because he trimmed his beard and looked different, maybe he wasn’t wearing his favorite plaid shirt…I don’t know. All I know is that Latte smelled fear and she choose to fight instead of take flight.

Have you ever done that? Feared something you’d been ok with in the past? Feared an event that you have handled with ease years ago, yet for some reason, now it seems too much for you to handle?

If so, you’re about to either fight or flight.

What is the fight or flight syndrome? When our brain interprets a situation and tells us that we are in danger and we have two choices, either to stand and fight or to flee from danger, that is known as the fight or flight syndrome.

One of the most famous scriptures about fear is Joshua 1:8 and it says:

Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.

BUT, how do you do that?! How do you remain strong and courageous without fighting or flighting?

Here’s how to start:

Overcoming Fear

Sometimes the only way to overcome a fear is to face it head on; however, this can be daunting and even frightening at first. However, if you take small steps in the beginning, see, and recognize your small successes, chances are you will go on to bigger and better things.

1. Take Inventory

If you have areas, like we all do, that you would like to improve upon, then you should definitely take inventory of where you feel you are lacking and what your strengths are, as well.

For example, if you are weak in networking and social gatherings, you may want to look at some videos, take a class or attend a seminar on the subject. Look within and find the answers that you know are already there.

Once you have identified your weak areas, now it is time to take action.

2. Take Action

Taking action means that you take those areas that you have identified and taken action in each one of them. Now, you don’t have to take action in all areas at the same time – that may be too much at once.

Start with one small area and when you have finished working on that area, move on to another area. I love that scripture that says: “Don’t despise the day of small beginnings.” Start small.

Let’s say for example, you’re weak in public speaking. Take a class, watch a video, read a book, talk to a professional and you will see that you will begin to feel more empowered right away.

After all, knowledge is power and when you take action you give yourself the ability to minimize your weaknesses and enhance your power.

3. Take an Inside Out View

Sometimes your strongest suits are the ones where your weakest areas live. For example, if you always disliked the fact that you were quiet, shy, and withdrawn, perhaps you have a creative side that simply needs an outlet. (I tell my story about being shy on this podcast, you can listen by clicking here.)

Moses was shy too, yet he ended up becoming a public speaker. Even though, Aaron at first, rescued Moses by speaking on his behalf. Eventually Moses pushed passed his fear giving the Israelites speeches and instructions that directed them to their destination.

If you look at your weak sides and find a way to turn them inside out and turn them into your strong suits, you will find success was there all along.

So there’s your 3 steps to begin solving your fear problem.

  1. Take inventory.
  2. Take action.
  3. Take an inside out view.

Go get em! God’s right behind you. And here’s how I know that…

Psalm16:8 says:
I have set the Lord always before me; because he is at my right hand, I shall not be shaken.

Like David, the Lord’s at your right hand, and you will not be shaken!

If you’d need more help – check out this resource, 5 Fear Busting Prayers You Can Pray On The Fly.


It Doesn’t Matter How Deep the Water is if You Know How to Swim
Do you remember your first time experiencing the deep end of the pool? Yeah, this is where your feet don’t touch and if you’re not an experienced swimmer, you might think, “Whoa, I’m in over my head here.”

I taught my daughter, Tiffany, when she was just 3-years-old to swim in the deep end of the pool.  I told her that if she could swim in the shallow end without her feet touching she could also swim in the deep end. There’s no difference.

Can you swim in a 6-8 foot swimming pool? Just wondering, because, if I took you to the middle of the ocean and dropped you in depths of a few hundred feet – I betcha you could still swim! There’s no difference. It doesn’t matter how deep the water is – if you know how to swim.

Is it scarier out there? Yes. Darker? Yes. But, it doesn’t matter how deep the water is if you know how to swim.

Maybe you are going through some deep issues in life.  Tough stuff, bigger than you’ve ever gone through before. As you read this you might have this overwhelming sinking feeling that you are in way too deep. Be encouraged and remember: It doesn’t matter how deep the water is if you know how to swim.

There’s a cool scripture in Isaiah 43:2 (NLT) that goes like this:

“When you go through deep waters, I will be with you.  When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown.”

I’ve heard people say, “I don’t know if I could ever handle the death of one of my children or being diagnosed with an incurable disease or walking into the house to find my spouse hanging from a noose.  I don’t think I could handle…this or that. Yes, you could handle it, because it doesn’t matter how deep the water is if you know how to swim.

A child stood in front of his classroom to make a speech entitled, “What I want to be when I grow up.” He said, “I’m going to be a lion tamer in the circus.  I will have lots of fierce lions. I will walk into the cage and they will roar! I will use the whip to control them.” He paused for a moment, thinking through what he had just said.  And then added, “But of course, I’ll have my daddy with me!”

That’s the key. You CAN swim IF your heavenly Father is with you. Just reach out. Haven’t done that in a while? Forgotten how? Little timid? Go ahead, ask for his help.

The Lord says, “I will rescue those who love me. I will protect those who trust in my name. When they call on me, I will answer: I will be with them in trouble. I will rescue and honor them. I will reward them with a long life and give them my salvation.” Psalm 91:14-16. (NLT)

You’ll find he’s right there in the deep end with ya. Don’t let the depth of the water scare you. You can handle a lot more than you think you can. It doesn’t matter how deep the water is if you know how to swim.