How to Handle It When God Doesn’t Answer You
Come on, where is God when you need to know the skinny on the situation?!

Can it get any worse? You ask and ask. No reply.

Is baffled a good way to describe how you’re feeling? How about abandoned? Feeling forgotten? Do you have more questions than answers?

Maybe you’ve been thrown a curve ball, and it seems like God hasn’t even noticed. Let me help you figure out how to handle it. There is a way to press on even when God doesn’t seem to be on the scene with you. And He’s certainly not doing any talking! Read on.

1. Know there is an answer – even if you can’t figure it out.

I heard a story about a guy who was condemned to solitary confinement in a pitch-black cell. The only thing he had to occupy his mind was a marble.

This marble became his prized possession. He would throw it repeatedly against the walls. He spent hours listening to the marble as it bounced and rolled around the room. Then he would fumble around in the darkness until he found his precious toy.

One day, the prisoner threw his marble upward. But it didn’t come down. Only silence echoed through the darkness. He was deeply disturbed by the “evaporation” of the marble. And what was worse, he couldn’t explain its disappearance.

It just didn’t make sense. He could not figure it out. Finally, he went berserk, pulled out all of his hair, and died! He couldn’t handle the fact that there was no answer. No answer as to why the most precious thing in his life had been ripped away from him.

When the prison officials came to remove his body, a guard noticed something caught in a huge spider’s web in the upper corner of the room. “That’s strange, he thought, I wonder how a marble got up there?”

I’m sure you sometimes ask questions that the mind isn’t capable of answering. But valid answers always exist. You just aren’t always privy to the answer.

What can you do?

Accept that there is an answer, even if you don’t get the answer.

Here’s another thing you need to know when God doesn’t make sense:

2. Sometimes God doesn’t answer you, because even if He did, you may not understand.

My kids used to have this tiny little turtle named “Speedy.”  We’d set Speedy’s bowl down on the back porch near the pool. No lie, that silly little turtle would crawl out of his bowl and plunge into our swimming pool!

Speedy saw this big blue ocean in front of him, and he must have thought, sweet! But the little thing didn’t realize that the chlorine could damage his shell and that he would eventually become filter bait. We’d put him back in his bowl only to find him again swimming in this huge pool.

My daughter Tiffany was just a tiny 3-year old girl at the time. Tiny as she was, she thought she was going to teach him a big lesson. Tiff picked him up, looked him in the eyes, and said, “Speedy, you can’t do that. You can’t jump into the pool!”

Tyler, my son, who was 3 years older was observing all of this and he said, “Tiffany, what are you doing? Don’t you realize that turtle doesn’t get it?!”

Admit it, you don’t get what God’s saying all of the time either. In comparison to God, your kinda just like a little turtle!

Understand that you may not always understand.

I can kind of relate. As a mom, I don’t always give my kids explanations for my decisions. I don’t have to. I’m MOM! The reason I sometimes refuse to explain myself to them is because they just wouldn’t get it even if I told them. In some cases they are just too immature to understand. So I’m not going to waste my breath. Wonder if God feels the same way about us sometimes? Probably!

Isaiah 55:8 says:

My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine.

So there’s a third thing you can do when you don’t get answers:

3. Trust him anyway.

Have you ever seen a baby giraffe born? Probably not. Here’s how it goes down:

The mother giraffe gives birth to its young standing up, and the distance from the birth canal to the ground is about ten feet. Think of this – ten feet is approximately the height for dunking a basketball.

So the calf falls out of its mother ten feet above ground, and lands on its back. It lies there for a few moments. Then it scrambles to get its legs underneath it.

As the mother lowers her head to see the baby, she moves until she is towering directly above the calf. About a minute later comes the shocking surprise.

The mother giraffe swings her long leg out and boots her baby through the air! The calf sprawls head over heals across the ground, usually puzzled and protesting!

You might be wondering, “What’s that all about? Why would she do that to her child?”

She wants him to get up.

And if he doesn’t get up, she’s going to do it again.

Sure enough the process is repeated again and again. As the baby grows tired of trying, the mother will again kick him right off his feet.

But then the calf stands. Wobbly, but it finally stands on its little legs.

Surprisingly the mother again boots the baby into the air. Again he is flung across the ground. Wow! Wouldn’t you be astonished by a mother’s brutal treatment of her newborn calf?

She does that though so it remembers how it got back up. That’s why she knocks it down again. As the giraffe matures he learns to trust his mother’s blows…for they have strengthened him.

When God doesn’t give us answers, we need to trust him anyway. When He allows us to get knocked down, remember, He has the best in mind for us. It may seem like He’s letting life kick you around. But trust Him.

I guess the conclusion you have to come to is that God doesn’t have to give you answers…

IF you trust him!

Isaiah 40:31 (NLT) says:

But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.

What do you do when God doesn’t give you answers: Trust Him anyway.

How do you handle it when God doesn’t answer you? Give us your advice in the comment section.

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It Doesn’t Matter How Deep the Water is if You Know How to Swim


It Doesn’t Matter How Deep the Water is if You Know How to Swim
Do you remember your first time experiencing the deep end of the pool? Yeah, this is where your feet don’t touch and if you’re not an experienced swimmer, you might think, “Whoa, I’m in over my head here.”

I taught my daughter, Tiffany, when she was just 3-years-old to swim in the deep end of the pool.  I told her that if she could swim in the shallow end without her feet touching she could also swim in the deep end. There’s no difference.

Can you swim in a 6-8 foot swimming pool? Just wondering, because, if I took you to the middle of the ocean and dropped you in depths of a few hundred feet – I betcha you could still swim! There’s no difference. It doesn’t matter how deep the water is – if you know how to swim.

Is it scarier out there? Yes. Darker? Yes. But, it doesn’t matter how deep the water is if you know how to swim.

Maybe you are going through some deep issues in life.  Tough stuff, bigger than you’ve ever gone through before. As you read this you might have this overwhelming sinking feeling that you are in way too deep. Be encouraged and remember: It doesn’t matter how deep the water is if you know how to swim.

There’s a cool scripture in Isaiah 43:2 (NLT) that goes like this:

“When you go through deep waters, I will be with you.  When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown.”

I’ve heard people say, “I don’t know if I could ever handle the death of one of my children or being diagnosed with an incurable disease or walking into the house to find my spouse hanging from a noose.  I don’t think I could handle…this or that. Yes, you could handle it, because it doesn’t matter how deep the water is if you know how to swim.

A child stood in front of his classroom to make a speech entitled, “What I want to be when I grow up.” He said, “I’m going to be a lion tamer in the circus.  I will have lots of fierce lions. I will walk into the cage and they will roar! I will use the whip to control them.” He paused for a moment, thinking through what he had just said.  And then added, “But of course, I’ll have my daddy with me!”

That’s the key. You CAN swim IF your heavenly Father is with you. Just reach out. Haven’t done that in a while? Forgotten how? Little timid? Go ahead, ask for his help.

The Lord says, “I will rescue those who love me. I will protect those who trust in my name. When they call on me, I will answer: I will be with them in trouble. I will rescue and honor them. I will reward them with a long life and give them my salvation.” Psalm 91:14-16. (NLT)

You’ll find he’s right there in the deep end with ya. Don’t let the depth of the water scare you. You can handle a lot more than you think you can. It doesn’t matter how deep the water is if you know how to swim.

 

When my daughter was a wee little girl I was looking for a way to explain the amount of love I had in my heart for her. Tucking her into bed one night I whispered, “Tiff, do you know how much I love you?” She said, “How much mommy?” Wrapping my arms around her I said, “Listen, I love you to the moon and back.” Her little eyes brightened and she said, “Really? That’s a lot of love!” So as the years passed I would occasionally ask her, “Tiff, do you know how much I love you?” Always smiling, she’d say, “to the moon and back.” Then I’d add: “to the moon and back – and back – and back!!!” She would say, “Wow Mom, that’s sooo much love”!

It was the coolest thing knowing that my daughter would go off to sleep savoring that nugget of truth. She’d be thinking about it and mulling it over in her little girl’s mind. And when I’d go out of town on business, I’d call her right before bedtime and before we’d hang up I’d always ask: “Tiff, do you know how much I love you?” She’d say so confidently: “you love me to the moon – and back – and back – and back!”

Amazed that she was wrapped so securely in my love, I once asked, “Well, how do you know that I love you that much?” She said, “because I heard you say it mom, and I know -that I know – that I know – that you love me that much.”

How is it that my now, adolescent daughter is so confident and secure in her Mom’s love? Because from the first time she heard me say it, she LISTENED with her ears wide open. She TOOK it in. She RECIEVED it. She’d THINK about it. She’d REVISIT it. She’d SAY it. She’d REPEAT it until she had great trust and BELIEF in it.

It dawned on me that there was a formula here in learning how to believe in something. I found it confirmed in God’s Word. Reading from Prov. 22:17 (AMP), the steps go like this:
“Listen (consent and submit) to the words of the wise, and apply your mind to my knowledge; For it will be pleasant if you keep them in your mind [believing them]; your lips will be accustomed to [confessing] them. So that your trust (belief, reliance, support, and confidence) may be in the Lord…”

If we break it down, look at how this formula unfolds.
1. Listen (hear what God says about you.)
2. Think about his words of wisdom (turn it over and over again in your mind).
3. Then you will begin to believe.
4. At last, you speak them (your lips get accustomed to confessing them – speaking them out loud.)
5. Wallah! You begin to trust what God says about you and your life. You grow more and more confident in what He says about you.

Listen, God’s whispering: “I love you so much, I sent my son to die for you and give you eternal life. I came that you might have life and have it more abundantly. I, (God) take great delight in you. Come away with me and read all about it. I wrote it all down just for you. The love letter is waiting to be opened and read and received by you. I love you to the moon and back!”

My advice to you, READ it, SPEAK it, BELIEVE it!