You want to feel terrific about yourself, so what’s stopping you?
Yes, I know you want feelings of warmth to surge within when you’re thinking about who you are and what you can offer to others, right? Yet, when you’re looking in the mirror or thinking about who you are at your core…you may feel yuck washing all over you.
Feelings of self-hatred.
Feelings of self-disdain.
Feelings of self-sabatouge.
You know you’re not all that bad.
Yet, deep down, you feel less than.
You feel less than average.
You feel less than normal.
You feel less than you know you could be.
Wouldn’t you love to feel terrific about yourself?
Feeling like you are good.
Feeling like you have something to contribute to the world around you.
Feeling like you have a special purpose?
Yes…feeling terrific about who you ARE.
But you’ll never feel terrific about yourself if you’re carrying this…
What kind? Lugging around resentment toward another person.
You can’t feel terrific about yourself if you feel poorly toward others.
Lugging around unforgiving attitudes toward your mom, your dad, your coworker, your best friend. Your professor, your pastor, your spouse, your boss….
Does lugging emotional baggage really drag you down THAT much?
Yes. So much that it will pull down the feelings you have about yourself.
Again, you can’t feel terrific about yourself if you feel poorly toward others.
So, how do you go about reversing those poor feelings – especially when some people are idiots, they’ve treated you like yesterday’s trash, and you hurt so deeply from the wounds?
You have ONE choice.
Become a perpetual forgiveness machine.
Like a machine – you crank out forgiveness each time someone inflicts pain into your life.
Like a machine – you return unconditional love for a back stabbing.
Like a machine – your responses soon become automattic.
Put your perpetual forgiving machine in place each morning and at the end of each day.
When you wake up and when you go to bed – run through your day and note who gave you grief, who spoke to you wrong, who betrayed you, who mistreated you…
Yes, you have permission to make a list.
List who did it, and list what they did.
1. List who.
2. List what.
Then see yourself writing those items down on a piece of paper.
Now visualize yourself feeding that paper into your “perpetual forgiving machine” like feeding paper into a paper shredder. Turn it on, let the machine eat it up.
Last step is this – say a prayer for the people who were on your list. Ask God to help them, bless them, and grow them.
As you do, you are emptying the forgiving machine like you’d empty shredded paper out of the paper shredder. You will feel a washing away of hard feelings and little by little love will return.
Guess what else will?
Feeling terrific about yourself.
Because when you extend forgiveness to people who don’t deserve it – you feel pretty terrific. And you’ll realize you are amazing. You are incredibly forgiving and you treat people who don’t deserve it with love and respect.
And as you do – you’ll start forgiving yourself… you’ll start loving and respecting who you are even though you don’t deserve it.
And yep, at this point you’re feeling pretty darn terrific about yourself!
So everyday – go to your shredder… Your perpetual forgiveness machine.
Remember the steps:
Pray for them.
Do it as often as needed, even through out your day when you get hit with a hurt.
Forgiveness is more about freeing you from pain than it is about freeing the person who did you wrong….
…and freeing you to feel terrific about yourself!
Do it for you. Do it for them. But mostly – do it for you!
Scriptures to power up your machine:
2 Cor 2:5b: Now is the time to forgive this man and help him back on his feet. If all you do is pour on the guilt, you could very well drown him in it. My counsel now is to pour on the love. (The Message)
1 Cor 13:8b
So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love. Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end. (The Message)
Now…go turn on your “perpetual forgiving machine” and start shredding baby!
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